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Did he ask for your hand in marriage?

Did any of your fiances (or for some of you husband) ask your father or your parents for your hand in marriage officially? My mother,  bless her little heart, she calls me and said I guess he gone call your daddy from the airport. I said huh? She said he still aint asked us if he can marry you. I said yeah momma we'll call you from the sky. ROFLMind you I will have a bust lip on my pictures because she don't forget naam time I done ever got smart with her.

Re: Did he ask for your hand in marriage?

  • edited December 2011
    Actually, P did ask for my hand in marriage. He asked them before we even started really discussing it hard. We hadn't even looked at rings. He was anxious to get with this chocolate delight! Hell, who wouldn't be. **sticking a pin in my head to deflate it**
  • edited December 2011
    nope. I don't believe in asking permission. I'm not a child bride!That said, I understand people asking for their blessing as a nice gesture. FI didn't do that either, and that was fine with me and my dad never asked/cared.
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  • edited December 2011
    lmao @ cats crazy azz   nope he didnt ask my dad, hell **scratching my head** technically he didnt even really ask me...hmm
  • withmikewithmike member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes my husband asked my daddy for my hand in marriage.  I thought that it was so honorable.  Everything was a surprise and when I told my parents that he asked to marry me, they said "we already know". 
  • edited December 2011
    I think its nice but hayle I'm darn near 40. LOL But to be funny I'm sure gone have Carl call my daddy from the airport.
  • edited December 2011
    Oh and Mrs Chocolate Delight. Why I want a dayum piece of candy now, dayum you!
  • edited December 2011
    Nope. FI said that since my father wasn't really a huge part of my life, pops wasn't at liberty to say yay or nay... He did accompany me when I told my grandfather though... As I recall, the conversation went like this:"Grandaddy, Matthew asked me to marry him."Gdad said, "Oh yea? So, what you gonna do?""If you don't kill us... I'd like to marry him."Gdad said, "OK, well, y'all grown. If that's what you wanna do, fine by me. Matthew are you ready to take on my grandbaby?"FI said, "Yes sir."Gdad, "Alright, then."
  • edited December 2011
    y'all are crazy as hayle, each of you!!!...ladysun, you kilt it though with the "hell I don't think he asked me..hmmm"I think it's a very sweet gesture for a guy to it but I don't feel as though it's a requirement and it didn't bother me that my DH didn't ask my mom for permission or blessing...I'm so not the traditionalist...LOL!  ;)
  • edited December 2011
    pinkpanther -- girl you are crazy too with the granddaddy story...I can sooo picture seeing that situation playing out...
  • edited December 2011
    I'm all late, as usual.  Originally, Fi intended to ask my parents together, really for their blessing rather than their permission.  But the way everything unfolded with him having to work all day Valentine's Day and us both be sick like dogs.  He didn't want to miss his opportunity to do this for V-Day, so he asked and the next day, we went over to my parents and he received their blessing.  My dad just said, "welcome to the family" and my mom simply told him not too worry about his foiled plan cause so many times the best laid plans never happen.
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  • edited December 2011
    FI didn't aske my parents. My dad has always called him his son in law. So when he asked I called my parents and they were cool with it! Now my crazy GHETTO uncles on the other hand were flipping out...lol
  • Panda16Panda16 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes FI did! He told me the day he bought the ring, he called his mom to tell her he was heading to my house to ask my parents. He sat them down and told them he wanted to marry me.I'm a big daddy's girl and I remember mentioning to him before the engagement how it was important to me if he ask my dad first. It's not a permission thing, it's a tradition and honor thing to me.  
  • adgenyaadgenya member
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    edited December 2011
    Yup! Well, he asked my mom and then I think an hour before he did it, he decided to make a phone call to the Pops so he wouldn't feel left out.
  • edited December 2011
    Yes he did! He called my mom about a week before the proposal. :-) I talk to her everyday and she didn't say a word to me!
  • edited December 2011
    No he did not! My mom is too nosey, should would have told ppl before he had the chance to propose. He asked me a while back would I want him too, I said no. Just my personal preference.


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  • tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    edited December 2011
    My FI called my parents and asked for their blessing.  I suggested that if he wanted our engagement to be a surprise that he should wait until the day of because she will ruin the surprise.
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    edited December 2011
    My FI called my parents and asked for their blessing the day he proposed.
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  • edited December 2011
    To be honest, FI did not ask my mom right off. but when he proposed Christmas day, New Years (straight up) he called my mom and asked her then. They talked for about 20 mins. Of course my mom had to go into my previous fiasco marriage and did not want me making the same mistake. He reassured her over and over that this one is going to be the way God intended. I guess she was satisfied because she had not questioned us and our decision for a while now.
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  • edited December 2011
    He asked my mom and my dad and even discussed it with my sisters and BIL too. I thought it was a nice since my dad is old school.
  • edited December 2011
    Cat- You are silly....LOL! DH did not ask for my hand. He had only met my parents on 2 occasions.  We live on the west coast and the fam is back in Ohio. My Dad is the one that suggested we move in together to save money on rent. Truth is my Dad would've thought DH asking for my hand in marriage was cheesy and would still be giving him grief over it. My Dad is definitely not the emotional or traditional type.
  • edited December 2011
      No, my FI didn't ask my parents. He was way too nervous about what they was going to think considering the very short length of time we were together before my FI asked me to marry him. Then, again my FI really didn't do a fancy proposal. We went and picked up my ring after it was sized, and on the way out, he slipped it on my finger and asked if I would marry him. At first I was a little disappointed by the way he went about the proposal considering the stories I have heard but looking back I realized how silly that was and it was indeed special after all because the very place we did meet was the very place he slipped the ring on my finger as we was walking out, and he asked if I would marry him. :)
  • edited December 2011
    FI not only asked my mom, but my daughter and son first, before proposing to me at our family July 4th bbq. I was shocked that my mom nor my kids told me anything! I was totally shocked.
  • edited December 2011
    he unofficially (without the ring) asked me first, then asked my mom for her blessing and opinion on the ring he was getting (even though I already went over that with him). Then he gave me my ring but didnt actually "officially" ask me until I had to ask him to ask me 2 hours later.
  • edited December 2011
    He asked my mother and my nephews for their blessing.  He waited until an hour before to tell my mother because she would have slipped up and told me; she can't keep a secret!
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