2 weddings, 1 family

katherine&jesson · September 2009

If two siblings get engaged around the same time and want to get married within the same season the following year, how much time is enough time between weddings?

Leah&Christian09 · September 2009

1 week.

I <3 Seabass · September 2009

Sounds like the perfect scenario for a double wedding.

Kati0105 · September 2009

I assume the guest lists will be fairly similar. Will the weddings be occurring in the same town? Will a lot of guests have to travel? I would honestly say at least two months. Two of my very close friends got married/ are getting married this fall, one in August and one in October. I have to travel for both, and it would have been very difficult if they were closer together.

trix1223 · September 2009

Not siblings, but close cousins in our family. Our niece's wedding was exactly 6 weeks earlier than our DD's wedding. And 3 weeks to the day between the two, my mom (their grandma) died. And then 3 weeks after DD's wedding we held mom's memorial service.So our family did A LOT of traveling this past summer~travel every three weeks for 9 weeks. Only one brother and his wife chose to not travel to DD's wedding. If a double wedding is out of the question, then put at least a couple of weeks between the events if possible.

duckie1905 · September 2009

If I had to travel for both if there way any less than 2 weeks between them we probably wouldn't attend. If only one was OOT I could do consecutive weekends. There is no right way to handle this. I have lots of family that would love to travel two weekends in a row. Then, I have family members that won't travel more than once or twice a year. Why not run it by your parents and a few trusted family members? See what they think.

ffmaid · September 2009

It depends on what works for the siblings. How do they feel a combo wedding could happen being 1 minute apart or they could want to make it 1 day apart so that family traveling from oot it is handy for or they could try for 1 month . 1 week seems annoying because of oot guests but if all local 1 week woudl work

laurening · September 2009

Depends on the family. Also depends on how far the same guests would need to travel. If most people are local or no more than a few hours drive than a few weeks is fine (although I'd probably do 1-2 months, but that's just me). If we're talking more heavy travel, I'd space it out by 3+ months; e.g., May and Sept/Oct.

littlemoments324 · September 2009

2 of my cousins who are sisters did the double wedding thing. Not sure how it went because I wasn't able to make it to TX for their wedding, bu they said things went fine. do you both envision the same people there...does someone want a more intimate wedding and the other a larger wedding with over 175 guests? I guess that all depends on if it is an issue or not. I know, depending how close i was with the couple that I wouldn't mind going to the individual weddings, even if it was a week apart.If you do not do the double wedding, I would at least do a double shower? that way those who are traveling can hopefully choose to go to each wedding.

Lilaps · September 2009

I am in the exact same boat as you. My brother and I got engaged within the same week (and to add to it my oldest brother announced they were having their first baby the same week of the engagements). I am getting married in May and my brother and his FI are getting married in September - the weddings are a little under 4 months apart and this is still hard on people (since they are both OOT weddings). I know a lot of people wont come to both since they are so close together and require a lot of travel (our friends and family are all over the US). I think the longer the time in between to the two weddings the better

jessiemcgraw19 · September 2009

My best friend and I got engaged two weeks apart, then a month later my cousin got engaged, a month after that my mother got engaged. Soooo, I know how you feel! My bf and I are a month apart May and June. My cousin is two weeks after. Since ours are in different cities less people will be traveling for hers. My mom's is six weeks after! Besides organizing dates for all of the showers and bach parties it's been super fun planning with all these important people in my life! 27 Dresses anyone?Good luck!

LauriJean_2009 · September 2009

My brother and his fiance were engaged in the early spring 2009. I became engaged in June 2009. They set their date as 4/10/10. I decided that I didn't want to take away from my their day by having my wedding much earlier - 9/26/09. It created a short engagement but the wedding preparation has been great.For my family, it would have been too much to get married too close together. I don't think there is a correct answer for this one. You should this about your sibling and do what feels right. Is your sibling a girl or boy. Are you older or younger? What is your family dynamic? Has either set the date already?

bingham101 · September 2009

I would say either as close together as possible, so the guest who are traveling could attend both weddings. This is assuming the weddings would be in the same area. Or as far apart as possible if people need to make two trips. People only have so much time off work and such. Good Luck!

christinar5683 · September 2009

Do not do a double wedding, that is supposed to be your special day and you should not have to share the spotlight with anyone except for you future hubby. You should put at least 2 months between the weddings so it doesn't seem like some sort of a competition and to give everyone time to recover from the first one before going to the second one.

rlfonda430 · September 2009

Me and my roommate (jess) from college are engaged to Brothers. My roommate and her Fiance got engaged last july and are getting married 6/5/10 and my fiance and I got engaged 4/2/09 and are getting married 9/4/10. that leaves 3 months inbetween. Jess is getting married out by where she grew up, but most of her family isnt from around the area. And our fiances families are from all over.I am getting married where me and fiance live currently and where fiance grew up. (2 hours from where i grew up) Some of his family lives here but like i said above, his family is all over. And my family will have to travel the 2 hours....i think it is going to work out fine for us. we have her shower (for his side) planned for when their side of the family gets together for christmas. and i think we are going to have my shower (for his side) the day after their younger sisters HS graduation!!Lots going on next summer. wedding,(jess moving here) graduation, wedding! cant wait!!!

kzodda · September 2009

My Fi's sister and her Fi got engaged 3 weeks after us, and are getting married a month and a half after us. We are getting married 10-24 and they are getting married 12-19. It can work, just words of advice... don't let it get to you that you are sharing the spotlight, I had that problem for a little while but I realized that I will have one day ALL to US! And all that matters is that I get to be his wife and he gets to be my husband at the end of all this madness. Good Luck!

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