Do I invite these people?

Mapper71 · September 2009

So I am getting married next July and I am formulating the wedding guest list now. I worked for a company for 12 years and had this one project manager for the last 6 years I was there. There was nothing about him I enjoyed outside of work and he is not someone I would just go up and chit chat with. In fact I'm really not all that comfortable around him. I moved out of state about 5 months ago and am now freelancing for a previous client of mine from that job but I am the go between between that client and my previous job and previous project manager so I haven't really cut ties with him or the company. I plan on inviting the project manager from that job that I had for my first 6 years at the company as I really like him and I could sit and chat with him all day. Other than that, there isn't anyone form my previous job that I want to invite. My mom thinks I should invite this previous project manager especially since I still have to deal with him. I also feel that I should invite the president and the secretary. The president just because he was the president of the company and was good to me for 12 years and the secretary because she was so nosy always wanting to know about the wedding plans even though I'm not close to either one of them. Should I invite these people that I'm not close with just to not feel like a jerk?

sassygal22 · September 2009

no. If you dont talk to them socially, why would you have them at your wedding?

sammi1285 · September 2009

It sounds like you shouldn't invite any of them

brookelynpaisley · September 2009

I wouldn't invite any of them. I have coworkers I'm close to, but I left them all off the list. I couldn't possibly invite everyone I like at work, so it was easier to just not invite any of them, including my current boss. And as for this secretary, nosiness doesn't equal an invitation. If I invited everyone who asked about my wedding plans, we'd have a guest list 4 times the size it is now.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · September 2009

No. I'm not inviting anyone from work. If you aren't close to them, they shouldn't feel offended. Yeah, some people invite their whole office, or their whole sorority, but if they aren't invited, they have no idea how big your wedding is. It could be family-only for all they know. Plus, it sounds like these people would have to travel out of state? They probably won't do that for you, no offense.

crfische · September 2009

sounds to me like you should have made paragraphs and cliff notes because I can't read long crap like that.

thesuninherhead · September 2009

Don't invite these people.

longboatbride · September 2009

No.

peachkins · September 2009

No, you don't need to invite any of these people. I actually did invite several of my former co-workers to my wedding, but they were all people that I hung out with outside of work, and still talk to now. I'm not inviting anyone from my current job, even though they are all people that I like well and get along with. They ask me about my wedding all the time, but since we don't socialize outside of work and I'll probably never see them again when I leave there, I didn't feel a wedding invite was appropriate.

danieliza1127 · September 2009

No don't invite them. There is no obligation to invite co-workers or bosses. If you don't socialize with them outside of work, you shouldn't invite them to your wedding. Your wedding a personal event in your life, not a political or networking or work related event. Draw the line and keep them separate.

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