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Yall will not believe this ISH!!!

futurescbridefuturescbride
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My RSVP date was Sept 15th and we've had to call folks to get answers and we're pretty much done with our list. Well, I got 6 RSVP cards in the mail today from people that we did not invite. I was stunned and trying to figure out how this could have happened. Do you know that FI's mom sent out some invites of her own! WTF??? FI's family has not contributed one damn dime yet! I don't even know what to say right now!
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  • mrsjamalwaliscottmrsjamalwaliscott
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    edited December 2011
    You mean she made her own invitations for your wedding? Girl say it ain't so?
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  • futurescbridefuturescbride
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    edited December 2011
    YES! I am so through with this wedding drama. The only people that will be entering those doors are the ones on my original list. These extra people are SOL! And I don't even know how many there are...
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  • lemonsprinkles23lemonsprinkles23
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    edited December 2011
    That is so not cool!!
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  • mrsjamalwaliscottmrsjamalwaliscott
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    edited December 2011
    I can't believe she took out the time to do her own invites. That's crazy.
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  • lca315girllca315girl member
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    edited December 2011
    NO SHE DIDN'T!!!! That doesn't make a bit of sense!!
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  • MrClintonsFirstLady09MrClintonsFirstLady09
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    edited December 2011
    That is wrong on so many different levels. Girl bye. If they aren't on the list their a$$ won't be getting in bottom line.
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  • BlkswnnBlkswnn
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    edited December 2011
    That aint right!
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  • sdstephens2010sdstephens2010
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    edited December 2011
    Girl, stick to your original list and don't back down! That is messed up big time!
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  • alfdallas21alfdallas21
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    edited December 2011
    I am soooo sorry to hear this...FMIL is/was out of line! I know you are too pissed right now to think straight but please breathe and release.  Then calmly talk with FI and ask him how would HE like to address this with HIS mother.  If his parent(s) aren't paying for any of the wedding expenses needed to cover these extra people SHE invited, then there is no way they will be able to attend the ceremony & reception because they were not factored into the wedding budget.  THE END!! Now if FI says "Honey I can't tell momma that, she'll be so upset that her friends can't attend our wedding."  Then tell him that you & he will BOTH need to discuss IMMEDIATELY with her so that she gets a clear understanding BEFORE the week of the wedding. You two are about to become ONE and this will be an issue that both of you will need to resolve TOGETHER...I truly hope you guys can get this handled soon so that you can enjoy your wedding because each of you deserve that since you've put so much time and effort and money into planning for it...GL!  (((knottie hug)))
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  • EliNickEliNick member
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    edited December 2011
    Woah...
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  • kimmy.korikimmy.kori
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    edited December 2011
    Wow.This is why no one is seeing an invitation until they are sent out. I'm not giving any invites to the parent for that same reason. Be thankful that they did photocopy the invitation and mail them out.STUCK TO YOUR GUNS!
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  • tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    edited December 2011
    OMG!  OMG!  That is my biggest nightmare.  My mother threatened to do the same damn thing to me.  And much like your FMIL, my mother ain't paying for ish either.  I just keep hoping that it's all just talk.  I really don't want things to get ugly.  But I don't know.  That woman never ceases to amaze me.
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  • tamtam7tamtam7 member
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    edited December 2011
    You know.  One thought is, maybe you can hire a wedding coordinator for the day that can politely turn people away that aren't on your list.  They may even be able to call these people and say I'm sorry but there appears to be a mistake, blah, blah, blah.  That way it's not on you, let the coordinator be the bad cop.  But I really agree with alfdallas.  You and FI need to talk to FMIL and tell her that you're working on a budget and that she can't invite people that you didn't agree to.  Furthermore it's just plain rude and tacky.  So sorry to hear that this happened to you.  Please let me know how this turns out, because this may be me one day soon.
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  • RAJAHRAJAH
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    edited December 2011
    OMG! I am going through a bit of RSVP drama myself and I know how you are feeling right now. I am so down; just stick to your guns. FMIL was out of line, in your case and mine.  
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  • clross01clross01
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    edited December 2011
    OMG!!! I am sorry to here you FMIL would something like this but I agree with Alfdallas you and FI have to speak his mother immediately.. Like pp stated if possible get a DOC that way you don't have to worry about anything on your day...
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  • KimRhoneKimRhone
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    edited December 2011
    O sh*t!!! She took time out and got her own invitations? Is she paying for those plates? People have some nerve.
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  • ddyoungddyoung member
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    edited December 2011
    wooooow i done heard it all lol. she's got some nerve. you should call those people and tell them the address was wrong and they were invited to something at FMIL's house... obviously. since she invited them i mean thats only fair lol... but on the real good luck and on your wedding day this wont even matter - let somebody else stress out over it!
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  • foxxy1foxxy1
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    edited December 2011
    I thought I heard it all now....FI needs to handle her before you do...
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  • ladylumladylum member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with Alf (aka the fountain of AA wisdom) on this. This makes me feel better for having a bouncer (friend of mine) at the reception though.
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  • mandikaykaymandikaykay
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    edited December 2011
    SMH!  This is ridiculous!  She was out of line, but Alf is right, you and FI should address this with her.  How does she know that you can afford to have six extra people?
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  • brobin01brobin01
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    edited December 2011
    oh hell to the NAW!! that heffa would be paying for those 6 people. I am so effin serious. I would call her and let her know she needs to eiether call them and tell them they are not invited, or come out with some effin cash and pay up!!!
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  • bigshow2882bigshow2882
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    edited December 2011
    That is why I am having SECURITY!!!! This is just out of Control! SMDH!
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  • MypasmitaMypasmita
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    edited December 2011
    What Alf said.And: On the other hand, If i receive an invite, buy new clothes and shoes, take time off and go to a wedding (maybe even travel to get there) just for someone to "handle" me at the door, i would be pissed with the Newlyweds (not the mothers because i don't know what i don't know.) And i am not sure whether i would sneak out embarrased or make a scene.Now your fi (and maybe you) need to talk to his mama for her to uninvite her guests or however you guys want to handle it. The guests shouldn't pay for a mistake his mom made.
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  • mandikaykaymandikaykay
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    edited December 2011
    Mypasmita has a very valid point.  How were they to know the invites were from your FMIL rather than you?  If they aren't going to be let in, they do need to be notified ahead of time.
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  • Lovie 129Lovie 129
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    edited December 2011
    I'm late on this one but damn! Wow, that's something. I agree with pp. If you were in Md, you could hire Linyette from Whose Wedding is it Anyway. I watched one episode where she actually told people the reception was for people who were invited rsvp's on time.
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