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Small Destination Wedding?

Hi there! I am new to these boards, and I thought it'd be a great way to get a few un-biased opinions (meaning not my family or friends) about destination weddings. It only took me a month after my engagemnt to scratch my 130+ guest list for my hometown wedding, and to start planning a small destination wedding in New Orleans. My fiancee and I are both very outgoing and love being around all of our family and friends, but we are very shy about being the center of attention for so many people. We are planning on flying both of our immediate family members and their spouses to New Orleans (where we got engaged:) for a long weekend. It will be 14 people, including my fiance and myself. I think it soudns like so much fun!! A family vacation and a wedding on the side. We would like to have our wedding in a small church, and then go to a really nice restaurant for a 'reception' dinner. Maybe even find a place with great jazz music so we could sneak in a first dance. I have waited a long time for my fiancee to propose, and when he did, I had that exciting feeling that I had when we first met--I've never been so happy! Once I started looking at all the wedding clutter (bridesmaid dresses, colors, favors, centerpeices... blah blah) I lost that excitement and it quickly turned to stress. When I think about spending an incredible weekend with my close family and my soon-to-be husband, my stress goes away and I feel excited again! My mom is a little unsure about all of this, but I just want confirmation from anyone who has done something similar to this that it's a great choice. Were there any regrets?

Re: Small Destination Wedding?

  • FI and I are having a small wedding too.  We invited about 30 ppl, but I think we are going to end up with about 10-15.  I am actually very excited about the fact that it will be so small I think it will make it less stressful and so much fun!  Do what you feel excited about and not what ppl expect/want you to do.  It is all about you and FI!
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  • Same!  There will be times when people make you feel guilty and try to make you think it is about them..but just remember it is NOT, it is about YOU and your FI!  I am having a party at home to appease those that cannot make it to my DW..but that is as far as I will go, otherwise I will not compromise!  We are here to support you!
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  • Go for it!  A DW is the best way to avoid all of the hassles of a big wedding, and you still get to experience the intimacy of sharing such an important day with the most important people in your lives.  Also, I love your choice of New Orleans for your location!  It's one of those places on my must-visit list.  I'm sure you'll find so many fun things for you and your guests to do, and I'm sure the city is grateful for the extra cash flow while they are still working to rebuild.  Good luck on your plans and welcome to the board!
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  • Wow! Thanks everyone for the comments! I can't believe how comforting they are:)I have been really lucky in the sense that my friends have been extremely supportive of my plans. People have mentioned that they'll be happy and excited if I have a big wedding, and they'll be happy and excited if we run away and elope! It really relieves a lot of stress. I am 27 and have been in a lot of weddings, and both my brother and sister have both been recently married. I feel like I already got to do the big wedding stuff with my friends and family at their weddings, so now I feel like a small wedding would be fine. Plus, I hate to say this, but a lot of people don't even like going to weddings. They can get really expensive and petty... I just really think my friends won't be upset if they don't have to go to another wedding.
  • Your plans for the small DW sound fantastic!  Congratulations on your engagement and good luck.Also, your friends will probably thank you for sparing them from another wedding. I don't regret going the DW route at all.  It seems so much more authentic to be focusing on import things like our vows and having the best time possible as opposed to things that don't matter like centerpieces.
  • I know exactly what you mean! I started planning for a 130 person home wedding in July after our engagement. By mid August I was in tears :( Our guest list has somehow gotten to 177 & my FMIL refuses to reduce anyone, including her hair dress from the guest list, ugh. We had a huge fued over religion & the fact that I'm not religious & want to get married outside as opposed to a church. FMIL also wants 45ppl at our dinner reheresal (what's the point in a wedding if a 1/3 of the ppl will be at the reheresal?) It all got to be TOO MUCH! Even my FI (who has said long b4 we got engaged he could never have a DW it would disappoint his parents) is in & ready to pack his bags! I say GOOD FOR YOU! It's your wedding, it's only going to happen once so do what makes YOU happy :)
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