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Bouquet dedication dance vs. bouquet toss

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I met with a florist yesterday and she suggested doing a bouquet dedication dance as opposed to tossing the bouquet.  I won't have many young, single ladies at my wedding, so I'm thinking the bouquet dedication dance would be a nice twist.  Basically, the dedication dance would be my fiance/husband & me dancing with all married couples.  I would have the dj eliminate couples on the dance floor by how many years they have been married.  Then the last couple left dancing with us would be the longest married couple, and I would dedicate my bouquet to them.  For clarification, it won't be my bouquet...it would be the bouquet that I would typically be tossing.  I had never heard of the bouquet dedication dance before yesterday, but it sounds kind of neat to me.  Has anyone else ever heard of this or seen it happen?  I'd like to hear some opinions on this!  TIA!
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Re: Bouquet dedication dance vs. bouquet toss

  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
    10000 Comments 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    A lot of people here have done this, and it's also called an Anniversary Dance. My cousin did this at her wedding. My parents and the other people at our table (who were actually the winners) commented on what a nice idea it was. FI and I might do this ourselves.
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  • NewYorker10NewYorker10
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    I LOVE this idea!  I really wanted to do it but DF vetoed it without giving a reason.  I suspect it's because his father passed away 3 years ago (his parents were still married) and I'm guessing he thinks it would make his mom feel bad.  If it were only up to me though, I think it's a really nice idea and I'd do it in a second.  I'm not doing a bouquet or garter toss either because it's just not my style at all.
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  • I <3 SeabassI <3 Seabass
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    I think it's a nice idea and I've seen it done at a wedding and it seemed to go over well. But to pp point we didn't want to do this because of some of the older people that have lost their spouse. I don't know if they would have had a problem with it, but I just didn't want to make them feel bad knowing that they could have "won" if their spouse was a live.
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  • Tonysgurl020406Tonysgurl020406 member
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    We did an anniversary dance as well.  DH grandparents are married 62 years, so I had the DJ go very quickly (the dance could have been rough on them had it go on too long).  It was so sweet :)
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  • alithebridealithebride member
    Ninth Anniversary 2500 Comments 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    that's the anniversary dance and it's pretty popular. we did it. i knew that i didnt' want to do the toss-it seems so 1986 to me-and then with the garter thing-blech.

     

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  • krissydawn16krissydawn16
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    I made a fun pink and black bouquet to toss to the single ladies... and my florist made me a bouquet to toss as well.  With two bouquets, I'm doing both traditions.  The single girls will catch the pink one.  Then we will play a song for couples to dance (I love the song "100 years") and the last couple standing will get my fancy bouquet from the florist.
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  • tracy_ktracy_k member
    Seventh Anniversary 500 Comments
    Please -- whatever you do, think very carefully about your single women friends/guests before deciding to do a bouquet toss. If you're younger and have tons of single friends, it's fun. If you have few single friends or guests, it's cruel and unusual punishment.I was at a wedding -- at the ripe old age of 26, mind -- where, when it was time for "all the single ladies" to gather on the dance floor, it became quickly apparent it would be me and a gaggle of little girls.And I felt totally humiliated, like a creature in a zoo, even though I was quite happily single at the time.If there's even a chance that the traditional bouquet toss will make your guests feel humiliated, DON'T DO IT.As an alternative, I went to a wedding once where the instructions were for all women -- single, married or dating -- to gather on the floor. When the bride tossed her bouquet, it was actually about ten tiny bouquets, each of which had a sort of "fortune" tied on with a ribbon. That was a nice way of still including the traditional toss while not singling out any one class of guest.
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  • ffmaidffmaid
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    If you think it through you know who the anniversary dance winners will be. Can they dance? I have seen this twice. Once lovely Once the couple physically could not dance together due to wheel chair and it was clearly a painful thing for the wife that her husband of 60ish years had a stroke and could not dance/do much. Think of who this effects and if it will point out deaths/divorces/disability that will cause pain for your guests.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    At DD's wedding in July, they had ALL ladies go out on the floor for the bouquet toss. I agree that the "single" women thing is just dreadful. I think having all ladies, while still somewhat distasteful to me, is still better than humiliating non married women.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • ldcf11206ldcf11206
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    ffmaid -- I will have some older guests, for example, my great grandmother (92 years old) and my great grandfather is deceased.  My great grandmother will be in a wheel chair, so she wouldn't be able to dance even if my great grandfather was here.  In that type of situation, I don't think her feelings would be hurt.  My great grandfather passed away about 10 years ago.  I don't know...decisions, decisions, decisions...my brain is fried from making so many decisions!!!!
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  • ffmaidffmaid
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    See that is why you have to think this though in terms of your guests. Also if your folks or siblings are divorced this is not a good idea. What we did was skip the whole thing. I hated bouquet tosses from about age 8- married at 33 and the anniversary dance would have pointed out that my parents were the longest married couple and would have made my mom sad about having lost her mom the year before.
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  • ldcf11206ldcf11206
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    ffmaid - My mom is twice-divorced and she LOVES the idea of the anniversary dance.  So I guess this whole thing is just a matter of opinion.  And, you can't please everyone!  :-)
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  • Catwoman708Catwoman708 member
    Sixth Anniversary 1000 Comments 5 Love Its
    I think you're over thinking the need to do something with/for your bouquet. If you don't want to toss the bouquet, then it's perfectly ok to skip it. If you want to have an anniversary dance, it's quite common, and also a great way to make your wedding more romantic for others. But to "dedicate" your bouquet to the longest married couple? What does that mean exactly? Does that mean you give it to them? Christen your bouquet in their name? I just find it odd and unnecessary. like they won a contest, with no prize. PLUS, that couple that has been married the longest is probably getting pretty elderly. Do you really want to keep someone's grandparents standing on the dance floor all that time? Get them a chair, or a walker or something, lol.
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