I'm so disappointed in my cousin. Background info: She is like my sister, people even think that we are sisters because her Mom (my Mom's sister) died young and she has always been a big part of my family. We are close, we do all the fam stuff together, her children are like my own and I love her dearly. So anyway, yesterday she called me and we were just having an everyday talk and I said, "remember to get all of these dates down for the wedding ect..." I gave her the dates AGAIN and we continued talking. I understand that she has a crazy busy life and my wedding and AHR 6 months away is not foremost in her mind right now. But, I planned my wedding and reception less than a month after my engagement in May '09 with plenty of notice for everyone. So she says, "I think that day is Neices (no names) dance recital". I responded with, "And?..." Then she actually said, "I can't let her miss her recitital." I thought to myself, why not??? She is 5 years old and will have many more recitals, dances, parties, ect... in her life, but this is my ONE wedding. So then (here is the kicker) she actually asked me if my AHR date was set in stone or could it be changed? Are you kidding me??? I'm not changing my date that I put a $2,000 deposit on for a 5 year olds recital. I wouldn't do that for my own child. I love them dearly, but this is ridiculous. The entire month after my reception is already booked with the country club anyway. It's beside the fact that I've already set my wedding date based on what was best for everyone to begin with!!! I'm just blown away by this completely. So I said very nicely, "do you want me to be honest or lie? the truth is if you do this, or try to split the day and make it hard for me then it will truly hurt my feelings." I just felt it was best to be honest instead of pretending it was o.k. and then holding a grudge later. I ended the call by telling her in the end it was her decision. I mean damn, she is my Matron of Honor!!! You don't leave the reception when you are apart of the wedding party!!! This has bothered me so much today. Up until this point I have had no wedding planning issues or problems and I just don't want to start with the drama now. I'm not trying to be bridezilla or selfish, but I'm 34 years old and never been married before, nor has my fiance...this is something we've waited for for 6 years. It should be about us! Bottem line, bridezilla or not.Help???