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Including Kids

Kimmykaye82Kimmykaye82
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We are going to be a blended family he is bring 2 kids whom I adore I want to add something special to include the kids any ideas? 
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  • thjones27thjones27 member
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    How old are they? Are they boys or girls? What about flower girl or ring bearer.  I have 4 kids my oldest is 11 and he is giving me away I have 2 daughters 18months and 9years they are going to be my flower girls. I also have a 7 year old son who is going to be a ring bearer. What about lighting the candles for the unity candle? Jr bridesmaid or Jr groomsmen?  I guess it all depends on how old they are and if they are girls or boys.
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  • Kimmykaye82Kimmykaye82
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    A 8 year old girl and a 6 year old boy.  I want to do something special with them not just the usual. 
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    I'd suggest doing something at the RD or at the reception. The wedding ceremony is and should be between the two consenting adults only. It's wonderful that you adore the boys, but having a "ceremony" during the wedding is, to me, inappropriate, especially if their mother is still a part of their lives. They can be GM in their dad's WP. You can have a special dance with your new step-sons during the reception. You can give them a special gift at the RD. Be sure to have a lovely family photo taken with the four of you on wedding day. Have you asked them what they want to do?
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    My bad: I see on your follow-up that one is a girl and one a boy. Doesn't change my reply except to say have the girl as one of your BMs.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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  • BobbysprncssBobbysprncss
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    I have heard of doing a sand ceremony including the children. So you would have 4 colors of sand instead of 2. It signifies a new family together. That's about all that I for including the children in the ceremony.
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  • ffmaidffmaid
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    Ditto Stage Have the kids in WP and have a family picture taken but limit it to that
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  • wcvsb3b5wcvsb3b5
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    I think bobbysprncss has a good idea with the sand ceremony. I think it's great that you want to involve his children. And although they don't have a choice in the matter a wedding doesn't just signify the joining of two people but the joining of two families.
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  • MaryDavidsMomMaryDavidsMom member
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    If you would like to see how a sand ceremony is down to include childern, have a look at weddinglighthouse.com - Sand Ceremony -Blended Families. It is a beautiful way to include them.
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