Bachelor party anxiety

ReneeJacob · October 2010

Mmmm yep, bachelor party(ies) are all weekend. I trust my FI and I told him that the only stipulation I have is not to have strippers in the home. I'm trying to be really cool about all of the bar-hopping and strip clubs...but holy crap, I HATE the thought of some stripper giving my FI a boner. Seriously. It makes my blood boil. Some dancing booty is going to bring the blood flowing to his peniiis. So tell me - how do I get through this weekend without having a panic attack??

akhensley81 · October 2010

Get with your girlfriends and a couple bottles of wine.

Have a pajama party or something. And breathe.

heyimbren · October 2010

I'm sorry, but I don't understand why you told him you're okay with this when you're clearly not.

We just had an entire thread on strip club opinions on NEY, and it really is a personal decision between couples how they feel about it.

ricksang · October 2010

It will be okay. Think of it this way, most of the girls that work there have pretty messed up lives and your's is pretty awesome, I assume. Do you trust FI?

tidetravel · October 2010

Promise him a blow job when he gets home?

Really, just relax. I guarantee you that he's gotten more than one hard-on that wasn't initiated by you during the course of your relationship; beaches, malls, TV. He's coming home to you, and marrying you. That's what matters.

Manwaithiel · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I'm sorry, but I don't understand why you told him you're okay with this when you're clearly not. We just had an entire thread on strip club opinions on NEY, and it really is a personal decision between couples how they feel about it.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

Ditto. Clearly you're not okay with this. If you "try to be cool about it" (aka, try to fit in the with the popular kids i.e. groomsmen who think you would be a total b**** if you didn't let FI do whatever the hell he wanted for a weekend) you're going to boil over later at some point. I promise you.

ReneeJacob · October 2010

heyimbren - I am okay with it, just don't "like" it because well...because I dont...but my reasons are not justified.

ricksang - you're right and yes I totally trust him. I'm just being overly possessive about who gets to turn him on, lol.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

Strippers in the home as in, your house? I wouldn't be cool with that either. And ditto imbren, if it makes you that anxious why didn't you just ask him not to do the stripper thing at all? I did, and I don't care what people think about that.

He's best man got him a can of paint stripper and a Hawiian lei so he could say he "got laid" and had "strippers" at his party.

ETA--forgot the other part of the question. Just relax knowing that your FI loves you, and wouldn't do anything to hurt you. I doubt you'd be marrying him if you thought he'd act on that stripper-induced boner.

ricksang · October 2010

Well, maybe strippers don't turn him on.

BecW2be · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Promise him a blow job when he gets home? Really, just relax. I guarantee you that he's gotten more than one hard-on that wasn't initiated by you during the course of your relationship; beaches, malls, TV. He's coming home to you, and marrying you. That's what matters.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

No, you should give him five before he leaves. Drain him! Or, go with him and double dog dare him to look at any titties all night. That usually works out well. :)

AllAboutTheBenjamin · October 2010

Yeah, you're just going to have to put it out of your mind. If you trust him though, there is no issue.

Ben went to Vegas for three days for his bachelor party.

ReneeJacob · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Promise him a blow job when he gets home? Really, just relax. <strong>I guarantee you that he's gotten more than one hard-on that wasn't initiated by you during the course of your relationship</strong>; beaches, malls, TV. He's coming home to you, and marrying you. That's what matters.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Haha, you're right...for some reason, this seriously just helped me relax.

heyimbren · October 2010

How is you not liking it not a valid reason? I don't like the idea of BF in a strip club. He took my feelings to heart. Some people are uncomfortable with it. There's nothing wrong with it, just like there isn't anything wrong with being okay with it.

ricksang · October 2010

If you REALLY don't want him to go you should say something. I don't want H to ride bikes, so I told him I didn't like it and that I would rather him not buy a bike, ever. He's okay with that.

katiewhompus · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bachelor party anxiety : No, you should give him five before he leaves. Drain him! Or, go with him and double dog dare him to look at any titties all night. That usually works out well. :)
Posted by BecW2be[/QUOTE]

I've missed you Bec, don't stay away so long next time k? :)

I would not be able to handle H being in a strip club and it was one of the things we talked about early on in the relationship. Just have some friends over, drink some wine and try to enjoy your night.

ReneeJacob · October 2010

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[QUOTE]How is you not liking it not a valid reason? I don't like the idea of BF in a strip club. He took my feelings to heart. Some people are uncomfortable with it. There's nothing wrong with it, just like there isn't anything wrong with being okay with it.
Posted by heyimbren[/QUOTE]

Yes, true. I actually am okay with it for THIS occasion...I'm not okay with him going for happy hour at a boobie bar every week. I think its great when S/O respect the others' wish - however, I never told him that he cannot go.

Seshat - thats hilarious :)-

mgietler76 · October 2010

I don't like the idea either and FI and I are still in negotiations over it haha Go fro the wine and girlfriends idea and remember that he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you, no skanky stripper will change that.

tidetravel · October 2010

Does anyone else find it ironic that the cat in your siggy (your cat?) appears to be whacking himself off? No? Ok, maybe it's just me, then.

ricksang · October 2010

LOL Tide! I see that.

ReneeJacob · October 2010

Thanks ladies, I will drink some wine and have a girls weekend. Its decided!

BecW2be · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Does anyone else find it ironic that the cat in your siggy (your cat?) appears to be whacking himself off? No? Ok, maybe it's just me, then.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

DED

ReneeJacob · October 2010

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[QUOTE]Does anyone else find it ironic that the cat in your siggy (your cat?) appears to be whacking himself off? No? Ok, maybe it's just me, then.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Hahaha! Ohhh God, I will never look at that pic the same...

BecW2be · October 2010

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[QUOTE]I don't like the idea either and FI and I are still in negotiations over it haha Go fro the wine and girlfriends idea and remember that he loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you,<strong> no skanky stripper will change that.
</strong>Posted by mgietler76[/QUOTE]

You've never seen "Very Bad Things", have you?

katiewhompus · October 2010

See, the whole "he loves you" arguement doesn't help me. I think just because friends have used it with their s/o's in the past.
Guy A gets caught cheating on girl A "Oh but it's ok, he loves you and she was just a one night stand" "Aw ok, all is wel then", guess what he does next weekend?

mgietler76 · October 2010

"Very bad Things"? no can't say that I have

BecW2be · October 2010

It's a bachelor party that goes HORRIBLY downhill after a skanky stripper is accidentally murdered. Probably not the best movie to talk about in this thread.

Everything's going to be fine Renee!

Starmusica · October 2010

sorry if I missed it in this thread.. but have you talked to him about how you feel? And do you know for sure they are even having strippers? I know its typical but its not a rule..

ReneeJacob · October 2010

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[QUOTE]sorry if I missed it in this thread.. but have you talked to him about how you feel? And do you know for sure they are even having strippers? I know its typical but its not a rule..
Posted by Starmusica[/QUOTE]

I told him "No strippers at the home" and he agreed but is very quick to say that I don't trust him which is not the case...so I left it at that. Ya, they're definitely going to strip clubs...but supposedly his buddies know not to "rent" any...they're all good guys so its really just me needing to get a grip

Blueyed228 · October 2010

My FIs bachelor party is this weekend as well. He is a big boy. I didn't find it necessary to give him any rules to follow. Then again strip joints don't bug me so maybe im weird. I just think that a committed relationship comes with a mutual expectation of respect. I am confident he won't do anything he wouldn't want me to do. If I felt the need to worry myself sick over what he might do I wouldn't be marrying him.

sarah0725 · October 2010

Sounds like you're getting more comfortable with the idea, but I can tell you that until recently, I was pretty glad that FI isn't all that into the idea of strippers or strip clubs. Then my brother went to a strip club for his best friend's bachelor party, and we talked about it afterwards and how weird and amusing the whole thing is, and now I kind of feel like it would be funny if he went, because it would make him uncomfortable. And I'd probably ask a million questions about what it was like. But still, I'm glad he's not all, "Strip clubs! Yeah!" because I usually don't get along with that sort.

I'm weird.

NatesGirl16 · October 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bachelor party anxiety : Hahaha! Ohhh God, I will never look at that pic the same...
Posted by ReneeJacob[/QUOTE]
I thought that was why you choose this pic. Oops! I have a dirty mind.

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