Am I Normal?

amlewis83 · October 2009

Well, maybe I should have thought of a better title. But, in all seriousness...ever since FI became engadged, I am highly afraid of becoming pregnant. Did anyone else go through this? I have never been to keen on the idea of oral contaception, the shot, or what have you. We have always had protected sex, even though I know FI hates it. He loves me and says he understands. I just feel bad. We are very affectionate. We hold hands, kiss, cuddle and yadda yadda. The sex part is lacking due to my crazy fear of becoming PG. Should I be concerned? Was anyone else this way? Just curious.

J&K10910 · October 2009

I've always been terrified of pregnant-ness.

sucrets4 · October 2009

Not once we were engaged.When we first started dating, I was all well and good on the pill, but DH was more cautious. Once he realized I wasn't crazy and looking for a baby daddy, the scientific side kicked in and he was fine with it.But, as I have talked a lot about on here, I highly recommend charting and starting to learn about your body and cycle, especially if you're not into bcps. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great book and has a whole section on how to use it to avoid. That knowledge + condoms could give you more peace of mind.

MissSarah786 · October 2009

Tim and I use the pill and condoms. I refuse to get pregnant before I decide I want to do so. The only way he would get our of condoms is with blow js and what what in the butt time. The latter does not happen.

brookelynpaisley · October 2009

Curious as to what you have against taking responsibility for contraception. I honestly got less afraid of getting prego once we were engaged. Something about security knowing we were on a higher level of commitment. I still don't WANT to get pregnant now, but I at least feel like we'd be alright if it happened.

J&K10910 · October 2009

what what in the butt timeMy laughing may have woken up FI.

brookelynpaisley · October 2009

what what in the buttClassic

MissSarah786 · October 2009

You can not withhold sex because you are scared of getting pregnant. And if you are, I seriously hope your are giving him oral on a regular basis - I'm serious. If you are withholding sex before the marriage, that's bad. Let's face it, men are happier when they get sex. Play with their dinger for a bit, let them touch your tatas and they are happy campers. If you are cutting that out you are looking for serious issues.

mocha beans · October 2009

Not really. I've always been pretty confident in BC and my body's lack of wanting to be pregnant. There have been more than a few times when I was sure something must have gone wrong and thwarted bc, but everything's always fine.I might pick up that book and give it a shot, see if I can get off the bc. I think it's just not doing good things with me anymore. The idea of messing with hormones isn't sitting right with me as much anymore.

amlewis83 · October 2009

The funny thing is, when I was younger and more naive, I wasn't. Even with my last serious bf, prior to FI, there were NUMEROUS times we chanced things. I just feel like I have found the perfect guy for me and I want so much for our life to follow a planned and constant (maybe that is the wrong word) path. I am terrified of becoming pg.

nda_roxybabe · October 2009

Eh, we don't worry about it too much. We don't want to get pregnant yet but if it happened..oh well. Then again, we're not engaged yet so I don't know if that will change but I don't think so..

J&K10910 · October 2009

I would think condoms would be especially important during what what in the butt times. Not for pregnancy prevention though.

louisvillebride21 · October 2009

We are less worried now that we're engaged and in a couple months, I'm not going to be too worried at all. Currently, we use 2 methods, but we will just go down to my BC once we're married.

brookelynpaisley · October 2009

Sarah, dear, I am loving your comments tonight

MissSarah786 · October 2009

Well, Tim and I are each other's firsts. So I trust that his baby yogurt is not contaminated with anything except the life changing pregnancy virus.

J&K10910 · October 2009

Sarah, you're killin' me tonight!Roxy, I was not aware of the fact that you're not engaged yet. I thought your badge was meant to reflect a past "you."

EmmaBride2B · October 2009

What what in the butt. Tee hee.

MissSarah786 · October 2009

Was it the "baby yogurt?" There's also creamy italian, pearl jam... it's actually really gross. I'll stop now.

sucrets4 · October 2009

mocha - I felt like the longer I was on bc, the worse it got.

brookelynpaisley · October 2009

You forgot Man Jam

amlewis83 · October 2009

We def do have our sensual moments. We have sex, with a condom, but not very often. We have both talked about it. It is not taboo. He knows I am scared to get pregnant amd I know he does not love protection. So, it has just resulted in us not doing the full on deed too often.

nda_roxybabe · October 2009

Yup. My badge is to poke fun at those who really act that way. Sarah- You've got all kinds of wit tonight - I love it

MissSarah786 · October 2009

AM, I think you should find a BC that is right for you - there are tons of options. Don't let the fear be a block in your physical relationship. I am also very scared of getting pregnant, so we use the pill and condoms. I suggest you do something similar, it will ease your mind and improve your sex life to know that you're protected.

MissSarah786 · October 2009

I hadn't heard Man Jam before, nice. I call them spermy babies and it totally freaks Tim out, he hates it.

ThePinkSuperhero · October 2009

AM, I think you should find a BC that is right for you - there are tons of options. Don't let the fear be a block in your physical relationship. Agreed. There are non-hormonal options that could be right for you. You could do condoms + diaphragm, sponge, spermicide. Two BC methods could ease your mind.

nda_roxybabe · October 2009

Sucrets- I know you've talked about this before and even to me. But did you use charting and what not as a pregnancy prevention?

brookelynpaisley · October 2009

I just don't understand why if you're so terrified of getting pregnant, you're not making sure it doesn't happen from your end? Have you ever tried hormonal BC options?

J&K10910 · October 2009

But did you use charting and what not as a pregnancy prevention?Well I certainly hope she wouldn't plug something that is obviously a big fat fail.

sucrets4 · October 2009

roxy - we didn't because I didn't know about it until we talked about starting to try.If anything, it's just really awesome to know about your body.

sucrets4 · October 2009

Lol, we used it to know where I was most fertile. But if you know that, then you can use that knowledge to avoid getting knocked up. You just need 3 or more months to get to know your body before you rely on it.

EmmaBride2B · October 2009

If it's affecting your sex life you really need to talk to someone about getting on a birth control that you're confident in. Find a gyno/obgyn that you really trust and talk over the options. Be frank and explain your issues, you can't say anything they haven't heard before.

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