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What is wrong with me?!?

autzen1024autzen1024
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I don't want to have a wedding. I just want to go to the JOP with fi then off to CR for a wonderful surfing adventure. I still have forever and a day because we can't afford to have the wedding any sooner. I don't know if I feel like this because we won't start really planning for another few months or if I really am just over the idea of a wedding. I'm already getting sh*t from my dads gf that I don't really like and she is just trying to be up in my business!! Do you girls think this feeling will go away?!! And why does fi want to invite so many frickin' people? Granted probably only 70% of the invited will come, but that is still more than I want. Bah!!!!! I am pretty sure my mom is more excited than I am right now :(
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  • tiffany8610tiffany8610
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    I felt the same!  My emotions went all over the place. First I wanted a small DW, then a big one, the a wedding back home... now I'm back to small DW. You'll figure it out, but I'm sure there will be lots of stress and crying before you get there. :)  Just remember it's YOUR wedding, not anyone elses!
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  • nycgirlkatnycgirlkat member
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    I understand how you feel.  With almost one month to go, I just want to cancle the DW and just go to a JOP and come home and that's it - no party, no anything just a dinner with my immediate family.  I'm just chalking it up to stress and some bickering with the FI.Just discuss your wedding plans with your FI - I learned that if you talk to too many people, you get too many other opinions and then it feels like your head is going to explode!  Its no one's business what your plans are and why!Do what the both of you would like to do.
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  • FrenchToast13FrenchToast13
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    Tiffany - I felt just like you ! Went back and forth so many times and kept coming back to a DW. Auzten, I know exactly how you feel! I still think I'd prefer to elope, or just bring our best friends, but my FI's family and my stepdad would be so sad, so a DW is the best choice for us. I love my FI to pieces and cannot wait to marry him, I just don't want all the fuss. Why does deciding to share your life with someone have to involve bickering with your family about flowers, favors, and table linens? Definitely not for me!Give it some time to sit with the idea of a DW. If it doesn't feel right, do whatever DOES! GL!
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  • CNN in 2010CNN in 2010 member
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    Fi and I had a two year engagment.  I'm just going to hit my one year mark next month.   It was frustrating for me because I wanted to plan and get the ball rolling but it was too early... the girls on the knot said I should start cutting out pictures for ideas that I could incorporate into our wedding.  It helped a lot to start gathering ideas. We invited 150 guest to our wedding and so far only 30 are coming and that's perfect! Don't get discouraged, don't take the focus off of you and your fi. 
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  • lgazda102lgazda102
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    Do what feels right. Your wedding day is a day for you and your fiance--nobody else. Do not try to please other people because you'll look back with regret. Do what you feel is right and your family should respect your decision.
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