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kids or no kids at the reception

KaleenaGraceKaleenaGrace
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My fiance and I do not want to have kids at our reception. However he has like 10 first cousins, most of which are 12 and under. His mother has been arguing all the reasons first cousins should be invited, and though she won this argument months ago by saying she'd pay for the kids. That's not the reason we don't want kids (although we do need to save $$)...kids can be wedding ruiners. So today I said something about us not inviting kids and she blew up on me... She's so disappointed in our decision blah blah blah and now she is not speaking to me. Should I give in and invite all the first cousins, even though they're bad and will definitely drive me crazy, or should I stand my ground? This is seriously making me sick Yell. 
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  • Wonderw1feWonderw1fe
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    edited December 2011
    What did your fiance say to your MIL's blow up?
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  • KaleenaGraceKaleenaGrace
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    edited December 2011
    He says she'll get over it!!! That's it...he has no other opinion and he will not deal with her himself.
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  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think that if you told her months ago that you would invite kids if she would pay for them it is too late to go back on that now.  If you didn't want kids you should've said no when it first came up.  Now that you've approved it I don't see how you can go back without causing major damage to your relationship with her.

    Which makes me wonder why you are dealing with his mother at all.  His mother=his responsibility.  Time for him to sack up, be a man, and deal with his mommy.  It doesn't matter if he doesn't care or thinks she'll get over it.  It is his job to deal with her.  If he can't do that you'll have bigger problems outside of inviting kids to your wedding.  You'll have a husband that lets his mother do whatever the hell she wants.
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    How exactly are kids "wedding ruiners"?
    Regardless of what you think they're plotting to do to ruin your special day, you already agreed to have them come. It's too late to go back on your word now. If you really didn't want them there, it was your job to stick up for yourself (or rather, have your FI stick up for you) to your MIL months ago.
    Too late now. I hope they don't rip your dress and flip over your cake.
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  • KaleenaGraceKaleenaGrace
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    edited December 2011
    We didn't agree! i have a typo in my first post...My MIL apparently thought she won, but we never ever agreed to allow kids. We've been saying no from the day we started planning. 

    I don't think the kids are plotting against me, they run around the cake, they cry when it gets late (and we're having a very late ceremony and reception). Not to mention a couple of these cousins in particular always follow me and my FI around at every family event. 
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  • jennylove810jennylove810 member
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    edited December 2011
    Soo.. don't invite them and let her get over it?
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  • lisarose7lisarose7
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    edited December 2011
    If she's paying, then she gets to invite who she wants.  If you're paying for the reception and don't want kids, don't invite them. 
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  • suppahipbridesuppahipbride
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    edited December 2011
    My wedding/reception is going to be kid-less. My FI and i agree it is an adults only gathering. We love kids but we want to mingle with adults a smuch as our friends and family want a night away from the kids. We have been telling everyone it is kid-less eventhough invitations have not formally gone out and no one is opposed to it. Have the reception you want. Kids don't need to go to everything that adults are at.
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