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Wedding Date Too Close to Friend's?

Here's my situation:My sister is getting married June 2011.FI and I just got engaged and need an extra year to save, putting our wedding in 2011.  (We've been dating for seven years and I really don't want to put off getting married any longer than we financially need to.)We were thinking (but haven't announced) Aug. 6, 2011 because it's the furthest date we can have away from my sister's wedding before FI's bro and best man leaves for college and his football season.Two of our friends just announced their wedding will be July 23, 2011 and FI will be a groomsman.  Should we rethink our date out of respect to our friends or do y'all think it's ok?

Re: Wedding Date Too Close to Friend's?

  • It doesn't sound like you have too much choice in the matter. Where are all the weddings going to be, geography-wise? The same place? If so, it's no big deal, particularly if most of the guests won't have to travel very far.
  • As long as you don't have a lot of mutual friends that need to come in from out of town (like, friends from college), you'll be fine. I think two weeks is definitely acceptable.
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  • You're fine. Your wedding isn't going to affect theirs. Pick a date that is most convienent for your friends and family.
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  • There are so many things that can change between now and 2011 that this isn't an issue yet. If it does happen that your dates are 2 weeks apart, I think it's fine.
  • I think you're fine. A wedding is a day. not a week. not a month. not a year.My best friend from college wedding is July 10th and mine is June 27th. I am one of her bridesmaids and she is one of mine. It's going to be fine.
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  • I think your concern should be with family and friends who will be invited to your and your sister's weddings. 2 of our girls got married 3 months apart and there were plenty of comments from aunts/cousins/etc about how close the showers and weddings were to each other.
  • [i] I think your concern should be with family and friends who will be invited to your and your sister's weddings.[/i] This.
  • Unless you or FI want one of them to be in your wedding and they are taking a super long honeymoon, I think you're fine.  Summer is just wedding season no matter how you slice it.  I also agree that a lot can happen between now and then!
  • Ditto kmmssg.  I think you want to keep in mind the overlapping guests.  We were married Aug 4th and our friends were married Labor Day weekend of the same year.   We didn't think anything of the two weddings being so close together and there were only a handful of overlapping guests.Even this year, BIL was married Sept 26th and DH's cousin will be married this weekend.  Yes the two weddings are close together but as people attending both, we're happy to be there.  As long as your weddings aren't so close together that a honeymoon would need to be cut short to attend, I think you're fine.
  • You're fine. Our wedding is March 20th and we have friends getting married the following weekend (the 27th) in a city about 2 1/2 hours away. Both guys are GM's in the others wedding. The only bump it put in our plans is that we will now be leaving for Italy the Tuesday after THEIR wedding rather then our own.
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  • Unless your wedding is out of town or a lot of your mutual friends live out of town, I wouldn't worry about the date being too close to the friends. I do think the date is a little close to your sister's date. Do you and the rest of your family all live in the same town?
  • Side story: FI and I set our date pretty quickly after we got engaged. 6 months after we set the date, one of my close friends/sorority sister decided to set her date one week before ours. I was not too happy about the situation at first, but then I realized that it is what it is. If that's the only time that will work for you, then totally go with it. Everyone will understand. Regardless, I think two weeks is a good enough buffer.
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  • All of our guests, at least those who would be invited to both, live within a couple hours of our home town.  Thank you everyone for your comments, I definitely feel a lot better!
  • I agree with the others who said that having it close t the friend's wedding isn't really a big deal.  I'd be MUCH more concerned with having your wedding within 2 months of your sister's wedding. That's a lot of showers, bachelorettes, weddings, driving, and hotel rooms for your family.
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