Our officiant is the youth minister I had growing up, and I am closer with him than anyone else that could marry us. So he is more than willing to do it, and is. My situation is that he no longer lives in the area, he lives up by Chicago. He's driving down to KY for the rehearsal and ceremony. I've already sent him a $50 gas card, and $25 at a restaurant I know he likes, but I don't know what else to do? He isn't asking for anything. What are your thoughts?