inviting coworkers

Re: inviting coworkers

• Summer2011Bride member

  

  January 2013

  Hmm I typically say only invite the coworkers you are friends with/socialize with outside of work. But if you work with four people and only invite three, that's alienating one person and might change my mind.
  
  I would probably wait and see how you feel when invitations go out (6-8 weeks prior). If you are friendly with her, are starting to get to know her better, etc., I might extend the invite to her just so she doesn't feel left out. If you worked with 20 people, I would have no issue only inviting three. But working with four and leaving only one out might cause awkward/hurtful situations on the job if the wedding gets brought up by your other three co-workers.

  
  
  
  
  

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  January 2013

  If you really only see her once a week, I don't think you need to invite her. 

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• mlg78 member

  

  January 2013

  I agree -- wait to see how you feel when invites go out.  In the meantime, don't talk wedding with her just to be safe in case she doesn't end up getting invited.  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2013

  Since it's a small team, I would invite them if you have the space/room in the budget.  Only because you're inviting 3/4 and I would hate to make things awkward for you there.  However, I would  minimze the discussion of the wedding at work as well, just incase.

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• mattycam member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  I work for a small company so I either invite everyone or invite noone.

  http://www.theknot.com/contests/my-real-wedding/photo/161064/mattycams-wedding-traditionally-classy

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2013

  I think you should do all or none. With such a small group, that could be awkward!

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• SA102006 member

  

  January 2013

  OKay thank you everyone

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• hollyk224

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_inviting-coworkers?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:d9a281f0-edff-4ad1-be9c-61820898ee69Post:3e298d17-c180-415a-9697-248ea2d0e215">Re: inviting coworkers</a>:
  [QUOTE] If you are friendly with her, are starting to get to know her better, etc., I might extend the invite to her just so she doesn't feel left out. If you worked with 20 people, I would have no issue only inviting three. But working with four and leaving only one out might cause awkward/hurtful situations on the job if the wedding gets brought up by your other three co-workers.
  Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>I agree completely.  I had a similar situation with my wedding.  I invited probably 10 former coworkers of mine from a job I had for about 6 1/2 years.  Even though we hadn't worked together for about 2 years before the wedding, they were still very good friends of mine.  However, there was one girl that I was never really good friends with, but we had worked together the entire 6 1/2 years.  We were friendly, just not as good of friends as most of the others.  I still invited her because I didn't want her to feel left out.  She ended up coming and had a wonderful time.  I'm really glad I decided to extend the invitation to her.</div>

  

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