Maid of Honor Dilema

Genna1 · October 2009

I am going to have two bridesmaids. Both are good friends. The problem is I don't know which to choose for my MOH. My first friend, K, I've known for about 5 years now. We talk despite being able to see each other less than we did. My other friend, T, I've known for 3 years. She's a good friend and we talk when we can as well. I know both really want to be my MOH, but I don't want to pick one and make the other feel bad about it because we're so close. I DO want one of them to be it though. Any suggestions?

Leah&Christian09 · October 2009

Have them both be MOH. "I love you both so much I could never choose just one of you."

SarahPLiz · October 2009

Or just had 2 BM and no MOH. Either way, there are ways to not have to pick. I am going with PP's suggestion, my 2 sisters are my MsOH

ffmaid · October 2009

First you do not need a moh both can be bm. Or both can be comohs

[Deleted User] · October 2009

Have them both be BM and you are honored they both took part in your day.

jvandamme · October 2009

I was just in a wedding where me and a good friend we "co-maids of honor"... as far as typical "MOH duties" go, we both kind of naturally fell into our roles as far as taking on different tasks. Both will be in my wedding next year- along with 2 other BMs- one will be a maid of honor and the other is now a matron of honor. :-)

phoeny_moonstar · October 2009

Have them both be MOH or don't have a MOH.

sduncans09 · October 2009

Neither my FH or I chose maid of honor or best man. We explained to them that we felt like we liked them all too much to choose one to be more special than the others.

dmahaday · October 2009

Yes, I agree 100% with the other posts. Since you are only having two people stand up, it would be very awkward for you to pick one over the other, especially since they both want it so bad. I guarantee that if you do that, it will create an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved, not to mention being slightly tacky (sorry). Have them both be "MOH's" or both bridesmaids; don't choose one as being more "special" than the other. If you really want a MOH, consider adding more people to the wedding party, so your other bridesmaid isn't just the rejected odd woman out. The one you don't pick WILL feel bad and it could really damage your friendship; not the vibe you want for your wedding day!!

kailieandpierre · October 2009

Why don't you invite them both to lunch (for example) let them each know how important they are to you and explain your dilema to them. You can then do any number of things : 1. toss a coin and let the roll of the coin decide in their presence ... 2. get them to fill in a questionaire ... most answers correct is MOH .. 3. let them decide between them if you dn't think it will create any animosity or futher dilema. You know I was recently in Cyprus ... one of their traditions, and I am not sure if this is only for the groom and bestman but anyone can become the best man, they just have to PAY for the priviledge! So for the sum of 5 Cypriot dollars you might have over a hundred men as best men ... just don't ask me how the ceremony comes about ... I guess they just sit in the pews with everyone else. I ought to google it for all the facts huh?

key-lolo · October 2009

You should let them both be MOH. I couldn't decide between my sister and best friend so they are sharing the honor.

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