How long is the brides toast?

chance_encounters · October 2009

This is the one thing I am dreading. I am not good at writing speeches and I do not want to wing it. I have read no longer than 3 minutes but that seems like a long time. I have written 5 toasts and deleted all of them because I do not like how they flow. HELP! Thanks.

MsGamblingGirl · October 2009

Do table visits. I've never seen a bride make a toast. I certainly didn't. I don't understand why you would make a toast if you don't want to?

ggmae · October 2009

I didn't give a toast. DH and I are no good at speeches, so we listed our thank yous in the programs and went around to each table to thank everyone individually. To my knowledge, giving a speech is not a requirement, but you should thank your guests somehow. If you'd like to say something short, then just thank everyone for coming and say that you hope everyone enjoys themselves.

laboheme68 · October 2009

Didn't do a toast.

tenofcups4me · October 2009

It can be any length you're comfortable with. That 3 minutes is more to put a maximum time on it than a minimum. Say a line or two or talk for a few minutes, whatever you're most comfortable with.

*BeachBride0410* · October 2009

If you don't want to make a toast don't, why stress yourself out with one more thing? Go to each table and thank everyone for coming.

SwedishChick2011 · October 2009

Are you talking about giving a toast at the RD? It's not necessary at all. I think my DH and I stood up and just thanked everybody and that was it. You definitely do not need to give a toast at the wedding. In fact, I've never seen a bride give a toast at her own wedding.

carrieoz_76 · October 2009

I'm actually a pretty comfortable public speaker, we're not doing written programs, and I really want to thank everyone for be so awesome as to come all the way to our DW, so I'll be saying something. FI will follow, but he'll probably say something lto the effect of "What she said. Thanks!" You have a lot of leeway. You don't have to say anything if you don't want to, or if you want, you can say more. I wouldn't feel pressure to fill time; just keep it short and from the heart.

saschaduran · October 2009

I would have passed out. My husband got up and said something and I just stood there grinning like a dork.

chance_encounters · October 2009

Thanks ladies that is what I thought! A friend of mine asked me if I had all my toasts/speeches written. I was totally stumped when she asked me that. I didn't think that I had to say anything if I didn't want to. Your answers confirm what I thought. I don't have to.

duckie1905 · October 2009

DH and I spoke briefly at the RD. I have never actually heard the bride give a toast at a wedding before.

tlv204 · October 2009

DH and I stood up together, but since I enjoy public speaking more I gave a 'speech' I guess. I literally talked for 30 seconds or less and just thanked everyone for coming and said something about how important every person was in helping us become the people we are today.

ootmother2 · October 2009

I have never seen a bride toasting. ever

IrishBrideND · October 2009

Don't do it if you don't want to. I did not.

ExpatPumpkin · October 2009

I'm pretty sure it's poor etiquette for a bride to make a toast at her own wedding, just as the couple shouldn't raise their glasses in return when toasted... If you mean saying thank you at the RD, that's fine, but if it's done in the form of a toast it should be a toast to your BP for their help, your family for their support, your guests for traveling, etc. Hope this helps

tenofcups4me · October 2009

It surprises me when I read that people aren't accustomed to seeing the bride speak at her wedding. It's pretty much become the norm at weddings I attend for the bride and groom to do a brief thank you speech to their guests. I find it weird now when the couple doesn't speak -- all these people are there for them, it really seems the least they can do is briefly address them.

IrishBrideND · October 2009

Ten: thats, for us, what table visits are for. We thanked/talked to each guest individually. Plus, in our case, my parents were the hosts so they thanked the guests not us.

jamm2019 · October 2009

I have only seen Grooms give a toast at the wedding.I actually gave a short welcome and thank you toast at our RD. My husband did it at our wedding. It doesn't have to be long...

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