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MrsHoward11 · October 2009

Okay...etiquette question. My FI and I are trying ot put together our wedding parties. Problem is we've got more boys than girls(children). We've got my little cousin for our flower girl. She's our only girl in the whole group of 9 kids! Then we've got my FI 2 nephews. the oldest will be our junior groom and the youngest our ring bearer. He will be dragging our bffs son down the isle in a red wagon covered in white satin because he'll only be 1 yr. Here is where the issue comes in. I've got 3 nephews! I'm not close to them unfortunately but I was in my brothers wedding as the flower girl when I was 5. I kinda feel obligated to put them in the wedding but I feel that's my FI's choice since it would be his side. What do you think? DO you think it's be oaky to ask them to be ushers? They will be 5,7,11.

Brie2010 · October 2009

Nobody should be DRAGGED down the aisle. Aisle, with an A. Why bother? Seriously, pick one kid to be the ring bearer and leave the rest out. Or pick none! Kids have to learn to deal with disappointment, and honestly, I doubt an 11 year old boy would care.

sucrets4 · October 2009

down the islezomg, a whole island?!??PS - Junior Groom sounds creepy.

Brie2010 · October 2009

And FFS, your wedding is two years away. Don't ask ANY members of your bridal party to be in the wedding for another, oh, 16 months or so.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · October 2009

I'm pretty sure you mean jr. groomsman.Put in whomever you want to put in, on whatever side you want, male or female.

sucrets4 · October 2009

Dammit brie, stop being so high and mighty since your wedding is in 6 months.Bedtime for me.

sarah0725 · October 2009

No, it's not okay to have a five-year old be your usher.And jeebus, that's a lot of kids. You aren't obligated to include every kid you know.Also, if your wedding is two years away, how do you know you're inviting a child who will be one to be in your wedding? Are you asking a fetus to be in your wedding party?

sucrets4 · October 2009

Are you asking a fetus to be in your wedding party?bwahahahaha!

vgmartinez · October 2009

I think 5 and 7 may be a little too young to be ushers, they might not grasp what they are doing, ushering guests to their seats. Don't feel obligated to have anyone in the wedding party. You can have anyone you want in your wedding party but I would, personally, would stay away from having so many children. It can create chaos and you don't really know how all of the young kids will feel and behave during the ceremony. I would have your cousin as the flower girl, your oldest nephew as the junior groom and one of your other nephews as your ringbearer and call it a day.

Brie2010 · October 2009

Dammit brie, stop being so high and mighty since your wedding is in 6 months.I feel sorry for my FI. And holy crap, 6 months?Night!

tidetravel · October 2009

[i]dragging bffs son down the (aisle) in a red wagon covered in white satin because he'll only be 1 yr.[/i] Bad idea. Bad, bad idea. 9 kids is too much. Choose those that you are close to to be in the wedding, but don't feel obligated to include EVERYONE. You can't. Those kids are too young to be ushers - you'll be putting more of a burden on the parents than anything. Being a guest at a wedding is still an honor. And don't ask your BP now - wait until you're less than 1 year away. Things change, relationships change, and people get hurt. We see brides come here ALL THE TIME wanting to drop people from the wedding party for one reason or another - most of the problems could have been prevented by not asking so early.

ootmother2 · October 2009

WTF is a "junior groom"? Sort of like a mini bride? vom* Have the one flower girl and leave it at that. I have never seen a red wagon covered in white satin and I'm pretty happy about that.

anna.oskar · October 2009

Kids are the tools of the devil. I'm not even inviting them because they'll stomp their cloven feet, and breathe fire when they are scorned.Best advice ever: have holy water ready for an exorcism

peachkins · October 2009

Yeah, you don't have to have every child you know in the WP. Having nine children in my WP would be a living nightmare for me. I would just have your cousin as the flower girl and have his nephews be the ring bearer and groomsman and leave it at that. The groom traditionally picks who he wants on his side- I'm sure everyone will understand if every guy in your extended family isn't in your WP.

shanwalk2 · October 2009

If I were you - there would be no children in the wedding party. I was so happy to not have a flower girl/ring boy to deal with at rehearsal and the wedding.Why pick between them -- just don't pick any and call it a day.

mmdpm · October 2009

Kids are the tools of the devil. I'm not even inviting them because they'll stomp their cloven feet, and breathe fire when they are scorned.I think I am in love.lol, about peed myself.

anna.oskar · October 2009

Don't pee yourself. Then you'll be like one of THEM.

mmdpm · October 2009

No worries, I am potty trained and have excellent bladder control.

mmdpm · October 2009

Duly quoted.

anna.oskar · October 2009

I like it. It looks good on your post. Like a new flashy accessory.

mmdpm · October 2009

I love accessories, they make old things new!

anna.oskar · October 2009

Looks like it's just you and me. So, amuse me. Wedding plans? grand ideas? working on anything fun?

mmdpm · October 2009

As we are the only ones here. Well currently trying to find a photog, the one I lurrrrveddddd was already booked. (Insert gnashing of teeth and rending of clothes here.) Trying to convince FI that carving 25 pumpkins the night before the wedding is not a good idea when we already have free centerpieces with floral.

mmdpm · October 2009

Fun stuff - have perfected candied pecan recipe for favors. (yea for tummy, bad for my butt)My crafty self is currently working on small scrapbooks for the BM for gifts. All are married or engaged and want me to make one, so I thought why not now?!

J&K10910 · October 2009

I also would like to know how you know your bff's (see what I did there?? With the apostrophe? Cool, huh?) son will be 1. Or that he'll be a son, and not a daughter. Do you have ESPN?

J&K10910 · October 2009

Or perhaps you meant bffs'. Either way, a properly used apostrophe is ALWAYS in style.

anna.oskar · October 2009

If you actually do want to do the pumpkins, you can do them a couple days early. Sprinkle Fruit Fresh all over inside and they won't brown or rot. You can buy it wherever canning supplies are to be found.

anna.oskar · October 2009

J&K: She doesn't. it's just part of the 2012 prophecy. gnashing teeth, cloven hooves, fire breathing and all.

mmdpm · October 2009

I was worried about rot, he said Fruit Fresh and Vaseline would work, so maybe I'll let him take power tools to the pumpkins this year to show me what he can do. He's reading over my shoulder doing the "I told you so" dance, telling me he loves knotties.

J&K10910 · October 2009

I have ESPN. I'm watching it right now. In fact, I can predict that the Dolphins will win the game tonight. See? I'm good.

MrsHoward11 · October 2009

anna- you're hilarioius! they are the devil but I love all of these kids. Only reason i've asked my BP is because 2 are my closest cousins and the other (my MOH) is my bff and has been for years! I'm actually her babies GM. I'm set on the wagon thing. Sorry that ones not going away. I've seen it and it turns out beautiful. SOunds tacky but it's really not. SO I shouldn't feel bad about not including my nephews. Those are the ones that are up for discussion. The others are staying and yes I meant "junior groomsman" and sorry about the spelling issue. didn't realize so many people would get upset. lol. I've been studying for midterms for the past week so my brains turned of. Yes i understand my wedding is 2 years away but I want to plan early cause I dont' want to be one of those brides losing her mind at the last time. I wanna be able to focus. I've planned a couple weddings and that was what I always wished we'd done so i'm starting now but thanks for the opinion from Brie though. Plus in the next 2 years i've got a lot of stuff going on. My bff is having her baby. i'm throwing her baby shower, bridal shower, bachelorette party, baby proof her house and the babies nursery, plan and throw her wedding plus, work and i'm in school. I've got a lot of crap so I'm gonna start a little early not to upset any etiquette rules. Thanks everyone else for the good advice! I'm gonna talk to Nick about a few things. Good thing we' haven't asked anything other than our first 3 people and those haven't changed in 13-23 years so i'm not too worried about them changing. Noone else has been asked htough and won't be for a little while.

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