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apparently good etiquette can be a bad thing.

weddingbells2010weddingbells2010
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I had my work bridal shower yesterday.  It was very lovely and I received some very nice things.  Overall it was a good time.

Since it was not a surprise, I planned ahead and bought pretty thank you cards.  Since a work shower really isn't like a "real" shower in that we don't hang around for hours eating and talking, it was over within an hour and I was home before dinner.  I enjoyed a nice glass of wine with my fiance and spent the night writing out every single thank you card- 67, to be exact.

I put them in my coworkers mailboxes around lunchtime today, and have already received 4 sarcastic and snarky comments about giving out my thank you's too quickly.  "What did you do, pre-write them and just fill our names in last night?" UM NO, actually I hand wrote every single one, thankyouverymuch, and personalized it with special thanks to each individual gift and person.  Since it's BAD ETIQUETTE to use gifts before the wedding, and we're renovating on top of that, the gifts were immediately packed away to protect them.  I was concerned that I might misplace a card or forget a gift in the back of a closet somewhere and never send a thank you... was it that bad of me to send out my thank you's in a timely fashion??
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    andy71781andy71781 member
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    Ugh - I had the SAME thing happen to me.  They are just jealous that you are on top of your shiit.  Good job getting the thank yous out asap.
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    emilyinchileemilyinchile member
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    Smile sweetly and say "no, I just stayed up pretty late last night writing them because I wanted you to know how much your gift means to me."
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    tidetraveltidetravel member
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    I think those coworkers would find their presents placed in their mailboxes tomorrow morning.  Jerks. 

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    Niiiice co-workers you have there.
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    kikibabykikibaby member
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    What kind of place do you work?  That was a huge work bridal shower, too.  At my office we had a potluck with about 20 people. 
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    SheDiva4SheDiva4
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    First of all bravo to you...i would have maybe made it through 30 TY cards.  These women are the women who would complain if you sent the TY a week from now that they are too late.  they just want to start shyt ignore them.
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    Stackeye210Stackeye210 member
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    Damned if you do, damned if you don't.  People will ALWAYS find something to gripe about.  I have to say I'm slightly jealous because you sound way more organized then I'd ever be!  :)
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    squirrlysquirrly member
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    No, you were right and they were wrong.  Just take the higher road and either ignore their responses or be very sweet and let them know that you already had the TY notes themselves, but that you wrote them out that same night.  
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    kate51485kate51485 member
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    That's bogus.  :(
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    beatlesgirl25beatlesgirl25
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    Your coworkers are douches.



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    kd.josephkd.joseph
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    I have been doing the same thing, as soon as I receive something I get out a TY card. And I have had no one complain. Way to turn a nice event into sh*t.

    I'm with PP, I would be happy just to get one, considering how many times I haven't.

    BTW, I'm not registered so I've had very few gifts, and it's easy for me. So I bow to your organizational skills!
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    TurtlesAllTheWayDownTurtlesAllTheWayDown member
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    Crap, I'm anticipating having to do less TY cards than that for my WEDDING.

    And you'd think the handwritten, specific TY note would tip them off to the fact that they weren't pre-written. Undecided
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_apparently-good-etiquette-can-bad-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2a0111d3-a9b9-48ff-908e-9246e86c75e0Post:f3157d5f-bc29-4ccc-b44a-d49b83905d47">Re: apparently good etiquette can be a bad thing.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think those coworkers would find their presents placed in their mailboxes tomorrow morning.  Jerks. 
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    Wow, just goes to show you can't please everyone.  That sucks, but good job for getting them out so quickly!
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    CTGirl30CTGirl30
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    People are idiots. But kudos to you for being on top of the TY notes!  That's pretty impressive. It took me like a whole week to write out 30 from my shower.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_apparently-good-etiquette-can-bad-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2a0111d3-a9b9-48ff-908e-9246e86c75e0Post:d13be789-7e3d-491c-82eb-06e35a3f49d0">Re: apparently good etiquette can be a bad thing.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Smile sweetly and say "no, I just stayed up pretty late last night writing them because I wanted you to know how much your gift means to me."
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_apparently-good-etiquette-can-bad-thing?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:2a0111d3-a9b9-48ff-908e-9246e86c75e0Post:0d815be4-b9cb-4db7-bc1a-5bcce94fc3d6">Re: apparently good etiquette can be a bad thing.</a>:
    [QUOTE]What kind of place do you work?  That was a huge work bridal shower, too.  At my office we had a potluck with about 20 people. 
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    <div><div>I'm a teacher- there are over 100 of us in my building.  Not all 60-something came to the shower (there were probably 35 there), but a lot of people chip in together to get a group gift and sent it along with someone who was coming.  I wrote a seperate thank you for each person who chipped in, rather than a "group" thank you (because then when someone breaks the chain and doesn't send it along to the other gift givers, I look like I never wrote a TY).</div><div>
    </div><div>I've received three more gifts today from people who couldn't make it, and I've already written their thank yous... but I won't put them in their mailboxes until tomorrrow:)</div></div>
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    mmdpmmmdpm member
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    How dare you write thank you's quickly!  OMG, that's horrible.  Actually they are probably just a little jealous that you are so on top of things. 
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    I have never been big on actually writing thank you's but have always appreciated getting them. I prefer to call and tell the person how much I like the gift and thank them for it. If I don't have a phone number I will write a thank you.

    You did great with getting all those thank you's out and personalised. They are just bitter people. People like that make the world a crappier place. I really do commend you because I know it will be so hard for me to write all those thank you notes and get them out on time.
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    Jerks
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    brittneyandadambrittneyandadam member
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    If I got a TY the day after I gave a gift, I'd be delighted. They are just jealous and I wouldn't worry any more about it. You have a fabulous wedding to be thinking about, not rude people who can't graciously accept a TY.
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