Celibacy until wedding night...

sdstephens2010 · October 2009

FI and I will remain celibate until our wedding night, which is 4/24/10. It has been going pretty smooth and we have grown closer in this process. Any of you remaining celibate until your wedding night?

CWJA10 · October 2009

We are going to but not as long as you- probably about a month. Hey ladies! I'm back. Grad school and moving was kicking my butt but now I'm back to wedding planning.

pinkpanther_truck · October 2009

Yep, we're abstaining... Thanks to a little pressure from our church's marriage prep class

adgenya · October 2009

Yup. But we've been celibate for years, so what's another 8 months?

foxxy1 · October 2009

Me and FI are. We're probably going to do a month before the wedding.

sdstephens2010 · October 2009

It's been 4 months for us so far and will be 10 months by the time we get married. We are believing God for a lot, so it's important that we please him.

kristi0618 · October 2009

I want to but the FI says HELL NAW!!! LOL.

ddyoung · October 2009

we are. we hadn't planned on it but so much stuff started happening between us and the devil started attacking our relationship from all directions so we decided to stop blocking our blessings...so far it has been perfectly fine. it would be a lot easier if we still lived in different cities but now we live under the same roof lol. and we are supposed to be getting married in May...

khaligumbs · October 2009

Count me/fi in ladies! We are and we have 7 more weeks to go! We felt it was important to work on us as a whole. Strengthen our growth. We prayed for each other so early this year we made the decision together. But can I tell you FI brought it up first. Thanks to his mom/rip...she raised an awesome man! And it feels better since we always go to church together. PS: I agree it does bring you closer to your significant other

YasJas2011 · October 2009

I really would like to go a Month or two but FH is already complaining. Hopefully we can go 3-4 weeks! LOL!!!!

aquarius125 · October 2009

I have a question for those of you who are celibate have you and your FI always been this way or is this something you both have decided to do until the big day and of you who are being celibate do you live with your FI concurrently?

sdstephens2010 · October 2009

We have not always been, but when we started pre-marital counseling 3 months ago, we made the commitment. We live 2.5 hrs away and see each other every Friday-Sunday.

MrClintonsFirstLady09 · October 2009

FI and I have been celibate for 3 mos now. It was not easy at first but he has grown accustom to it and so have I. And also it does bring you closer because you are intimate with each other in more ways than just sexual. I think it has been a positive experience for us thus far.

MrClintonsFirstLady09 · October 2009

and to answer Aquarius's post, we were not always celibate. It was something we talked about in length and decided to do together. As I said before it was hard but we have grown accustom to it and I am happy we made that choice.

ciliajones · October 2009

Well we initially decided to do the month before..and when I just mentioned it to my FI he said- and I quote: "HELL NAW- YOU MUST BE CRAZY"..lol

khaligumbs · October 2009

Ditto my homegirl MrClintonsFirstLady..you have to try the goods first!

Seriously, it has to be a joint decision and I think your faith in the Lord also plays a big part. We did not decide to do this until our wedding plans got serious. Marriage is more than your wedding day. You have to be equally yoked! I do believe that you have to be very mature and spiritual. As MrClintonFirstLady said it was very hard at first but I do believe the Lord will bless us.

Tiyen1973 · October 2009

My FI and I have agreed to remain celibate until our wedding. We haven't always, but it's something we both decided on after lots of prayer. I'm not sure if our PM counselor believed at first when we answered her questions about premarital sex. Our immediate responses of "Celibate!" probably sounded rehearsed.

lemonsprinkles23 · October 2009

I decided when I was a teenager to wait until I am married. My FI doesn't care either way, but because he is with me, he has to wait too. So we both are in the same boat.

nitaashanti78 · October 2009

I think my fi could do it. I on the other hand, probably couldn't, LOL. However, if this was something we talked about then I would give it a try.

ehampto · October 2009

We will be remaining celibate until our wedding day (7/17/2010). It seems so far away, but since we started pre-marital counseling we decided that we needed to give something back to the Lord so that he can bless our marriage. And if we want a blessed marriage then we need to show him what we are willing to give to this relationship. FI was a little hesitant at first, but it has brought us closer together.

2510mackey · October 2009

I have decided to wait until our wedding night. I brought it up 2 FI & he made a joke about it at first"We'll see:, but then after he realized that I meant it, he supported it. I told him that I am really trusting in God & want to live for him so I have to do right by him, he really understood & agreed. We talked about it today and he honestly respects my decision even though he jokes about the "wedding night" so I in turn tell him that it will be extra special, but I feel so good about the choice, so I actually have something to look forward to..

feleciae19 · October 2009

FI and I have never had sex. We have dated for one year and four months. We both want to have clear minds and clear thinking. We do not want God to block our blessings, and we want guidance in our relationship. We both want to start a youth ministry, so we cannot do this if we have this hanging over our head. We can tell our children, God willing, that we waited for marriage. I feel like I have never been closer to a man before. I know that he loves me for me and not just for my >>>>>.

ladylum · October 2009

Admiring and respecting all the ladies waiting until their wedding. I'll be honest, the only reason why FI and I are not having sex these days is because I'm pregnant and my sex drive went from vavavooom to zip. I recently started seeking God in my life again so I am trying to figure out how to broach this subject to FI and wonder what he will say.

PressMe · October 2009

FI and I are waiting until our wedding night. This was a decision we made together about a year ago. I agree with everyone else that this is something that has brought us closer together. We don't live together, but we're only 10 minutes apart. Honestly, some nights are harder than others!!! Congratulations to all the ladies holding it down.

clross01 · October 2009

FI and I have decided to wait until our wedding night as well.. We talked about it and both felt it was the best thing to do. We both want to start our marriage off on the right path.. Its really helps that we live in 2 different states and when we are together are schedules are so packed that we don't have time for some stuff..

kimmy.kori · October 2009

We haven't but if I can put him off at least a week before we get married...he won't whine like a baby.

DeeDee40 · October 2009

My FI and I are also waiting for our wedding nite. 7-24-10. We both are putting God first in our lives and being obedient to his word. We have been praticing abstinence all along. I really want God to bless our marriage. Even though I just found out rcently that he hasn't given up sex totally. He has been pleasuring himself. Something told me to break it down abstinence means no sexual pleasures. Men. So, he laughed and said he was being honest and he is now going cold turkey. I was wonder how he was holding out and not complaining. I was the one going a little crazy. He really makes me laugh.

missecu · October 2009

My FI and I are waiting until wedding night. We have not always been, but he moved due to job responsibilities to another state. When he found out how hard it was to be seperated and not see each other as much as we wanted, he asked me to marry him. So, the distance has really helped in some ways. But when we meet, it's really hard, b/c I know he's gotta go back. We talk about it a lot and then we say "but of course we are waitong until wedding night". But so far so good.

tamtam7 · October 2009

shyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyt! LOL! No, I'm just kidding. We are not, but I think that's awesome that you ladies are remaining celibate.

pretteone · October 2009

We haven't been, but we've talked about it before. In our initial conversation, we decided on 3 months, but it could possibly be longer (or shorter). I honestly would like to though!

Ms. fairytale wedding · October 2009

I got FI to agree to a month, I am trying to work on a longer period of time.

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