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Interracial Couple Refused a Marriage License

I know there are a lot of us biracial couples on here. I was shocked and appalled not only at the story but also at the comments. How do you feel about "mixing" races? Me, I already have a biracial son who is accepted by everyone so I feel this JOP's reasoning is flawed. No one is accepted by EVERYONE. Also if dogs and cats don't care about different species, why should human be concerned about mixing races? Grrrrrr things like this make me mad . . . http://news.aol.com/article/interracial-couple-denied-marriage/719806?icid=main|main|dl1|link4|http%3A%2F%2Fnews.aol.com%2Farticle%2Finterracial-couple-denied-marriage%2F719806

Re: Interracial Couple Refused a Marriage License

  • edited December 2011
    I read the article, its unfortunate, but true. What surprised me was the FB response that she doesn't think it happens in this day and age. Why not? Just b/c America has progressed to political correctness, does not mean Americans have progressed. My daddy was a product of an interracial marriage, white Jewish man, Ethiopian Jewish woman. They could not move into a black neighborhood in the 20's in the south b/c gdad was white, but could move in a Jewish neighborhood b/c they were Jewish, regardless of the color of their skin. We want to think that we all have progressed with the times, but the reality is we have not. While it is not politically correct to not like another person for the color of their skin or refuse to offer them a service, that person is being honest about who they are; that person has to suffer the consequences of their actions, whatever they may be. I'd rather take honesty over political correctness any day. People are going to be who they are no matter what laws we have in place. We can either accept them for who they are and where they are in their life or keep it moving. At the end of the day, it's not what someone says to you, or calls you, it's how you feel about YOURSELF and what YOU answer to.
  • edited December 2011
    I am not going to lie it does make people look twice and wonder, but over all I think it should not be anyone's business but the couples itself.It justs shows that racism is still alive today. Just look at Obama people are not even giving him a chance they harp on everything that he does. They never said anything while Bush was messing up the country but if Obama does any thing they are not supporting him. To me it just shows that people are stupid.If I were that couple I would not think anything of it and go somewhere else to get married. They also should file a complaint about that person. That is against the law.
  • edited December 2011
    Love is a beautiful thing. When I was growing up, I used to see a lot of black men with white women but rarely saw it the other way around. Now I see more black women with white men. I am glad to see more people open to finding love in non-traditional places.
  • edited December 2011
    **interracial couple over here** And guess what? We live in south Louisiana. Racism is alive and thriving. It's not always obvious, but it's here. I wasn't surprised at all when I heard it on the news last night. There's more black men/white women here, but i'm beginning to see more and more black women/white men. I love seeing it b/c for so long people had to hide who they loved. Funny b/c just yesterday I saw an old friend. He asked me if I'd gone 'that' way. He'd seen P and I in a restaurant and was wondering if he was 'mine.' I told him yeah. He said he didn't think I'd go 'that' way. I said hell yeah i went that way. As long as y'all can walk around with them (insert insulting adjectives here) we (black women) can do it too. And we look better doing it b/c 9 x's out of 10, the man is about something. I digress..anyway, yeah. Racism is thriving here in South LA. I don't think its his business referring to the product of the marriage. Just do your job. On the other hand...I have to respect his opinion. I guess it's the same as no shirt, no shoes, no service...white person, black person, no marriage.
  • blue19violetblue19violet member
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    edited December 2011
    I guess it's the same as no shirt, no shoes, no service...white person, black person, no marriage. I can't think of a better way to put it. LMAO, CLASSIC!
  • ladylumladylum member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks Lovie for putting it in perspective. I guess I am shocked is because he is a person who is supposed to be a civil public officer. They are supposed to represent and serve the public, like a police officer. I agree with Lovie though that I would rather see it up front than be smiled upon while the person is thinking racists thoughts. It's just that you would think people were smarter . . .
  • edited December 2011
    That man has no business injecting his personal opinion into the law. That is not his job. He can believe it all he wants, but it is simply not his place to say that he won't perform his job for people because he feels that their kids (if they even want them) will somehow suffer. I have about 6 cousins who are mixed races--black and white, black and puerto rican, black and cuban, etc. and as far as I know none of them had any major problems growing up. Sure, you get ignorant comments from people regarding race, but I get that too and I'm not mixed. The judge is showing an old line of reasoning that hasn't died yet. I'm not surprised, but he should not be allowed to continue to deny services to people based on personal opinion. I don't 'agree' with mothers who do drugs when pregnant, and I fear for their children. But I'm not going to deny them care or their children care when they come to the hospital--I'd lose my job. Why should he get to discriminate?
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  • adgenyaadgenya member
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    edited December 2011
    I read this article yesterday. Professionally, he is definitely in the wrong. He can't interject his personal beliefs in his proceedings. I live in Sacramento (which is a pretty diverse city in Cali), so it's not uncommon seeing interracial couple and interracial children. I do have to say that one day my FI came home from work (he's a 4th grade teacher at a school where most of the students are AA) and told me that one of his parents actually became more at ease when he found out he was marrying an AA woman. She then believed her child was going to be treated fairly and get the same effort and dedication from my FI. It's unfortunate, but racism is still out there and people are still worried.
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