Monday Confessions

Night_Sprite · October 2009

After FI's family decided to be endlessly horrific about the wedding, my desire to spend time with them has plummeted. I am hoping the weather is a little crappy over Thanksgiving so we only see his family for one day.

carrieoz_76 · October 2009

1) kiki - I still like you. 2) I'm irritated w/ my mom for no good reason. I want her to be more interested in wedding planning than she is. I know I need to just move on and accept it, but I haven't yet. And then she tells me that she ran into some old family friends I haven't seen for >10 yrs, and they want an invite and they'll totally come! Seriously? What about intimate DW does she not get?

lyndausvi · October 2009

I hope the Yankees lose one of the next 3 games so I can go to a playoff game. Psstt... do not tell DH.

amalama · October 2009

Oh and, BF and I started talking about holiday plans. He is not close with his father, they started talking a few years ago after not talking for 3-4 and his dad doing lots of sh!tty things. Now we see him a lot more, and he wants to add his dad somewhere into our holiday family time. I don't. And I know it's unfair, but I don't want to have less time with my family because he has divorced parents so we have to see them seperate.

MeaghanandMichael · October 2009

Carrie - my mom was not interested at all at first. I think it was because she didn't have a wedding and neither did my sisters so she had no idea where to start. I have always always been the type of daughter to handle these things myself so I think she thought wedding planning would follow suit. I finally had this tearful breakdown to her and she was pretty shocked. After that she jumped in with both feet. Some time you just have to ask. Maybe your mom just doesn't want to seem controlling?Kiki - I have no problem with you either, what was said? Just curious.

cmhershey · October 2009

SIL mentioned it in her toast. I wanted to die. FIL mentions it all the time - he wants 4 grandkids out of us in the next 10 years. Yeah, okayOur FIL's might be related. He mentioned it once or twice before, and I would say that we'd have to wait until we got married. I gotta get a new excuse.

brittjoy84 · October 2009

My local board has a handful of great girls and the rest are driving me insane with their stupidity. I am sure they think I am a total biitch because I no longer have it in me to sugarcoat.

brittjoy84 · October 2009

I also cannot stand my FMIL most of the time. She is nice but extremely needy and overbearing.

ggmae · October 2009

Meg - It's a date! Oh, and I've noticed that DH views his relationship with others differently than I do. Guys are weird, you're right.

laladypoet · October 2009

I'm also incredibly tired of FI's family living 20 minutes awayI feel ya. my ILs live three hours away and still come visit way too often. and we're expected to drop everything to hang out with them. which, sorry, if you decide on FRIDAY to come the next day, and I already have plans, fuuck you, I'm sticking to my plans. there's a certain point when if you see people often enough, they don't count as "company" and don't need to be catered to like they are.

BecW2be · October 2009

I confess that I'm irritated that FMIL/FSIL doesn't want a sitter available in the sun room, in full view of the ceremony, for kids under 4 (there are four; ages 2 and 3yrs old). She says kids are delightful at weddings, and if they get rowdy moms can take them away from the ceremony. I really, really want a sitter in there from the beginning for anyone under 4. If I get a ceremony video full of FI's sisters fighting with their toddlers to sit still, I will pitch a fit. I also confess that I ate a cheeseburger for lunch and probably gained 10 lbs because of it. I have PMS/wedding stress, and I wanted a fuckingcheeseburger. Now I wish I had the balls to go puke it up. I hate stressing over my weight.

MeaghanandMichael · October 2009

Britt - I took a break from my local for that exact reason. All the chill girls got married and left me with a bunch over very immature brides.

Pirata13 · October 2009

We had our pre-Cana this weekend and it wasn't too bad. Except how the priest was saying how artificial birth control is evil and if you refuse to have kids, you are selfish. So I guess I am evil and selfish. But really, apparently during the ceremony they ask if you openly and willingly accept children. My answer is no. For several reasons, FI & I have decided we do not want children. So I need to ask my priest if there is a way we can omit that question or something. I really don't want to lie in church. Or jinx myself.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · October 2009

Oh my gosh, GG! I would be in tears if I had to pay $90 a plate and people flaked out. Fortunately, we were at about $16/pp with food and drink, which is awesome! But, when you figure we had 50-60 no-shows with absolutely no notice, it all adds up. I'm also annoyed we haven't even HEARD from these people yet. I don't expect a gift, but a card with a note of explanation would have been nice.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · October 2009

Bec, DO NOT stress about your weight or eating a cheeseburger! That is ridiculous. I will come down ther and cook for you if you don't watch it. Didn't you say your dress was even a little big on you last time you tried it on?I know you're dreaming of a stomach bug, but stop it. As someone who was puking and pooping out everything she ate for the week before her wedding, I can tell you, it sort of ruins the anticipation. Not to mention, my dress (that fit perfectly at my last fitting) was too big and we had to take off my undergarments just to get it to stay up. And then I was concerned about my saggy boobs all night because I didn't have a bra on and there weren't cups in my dress. NOT. WORTH. IT.

ggmae · October 2009

Vogt - I can't believe you had 50-60 no-shows! I know that the common advice is not to let things bother you on wedding day, but I may have shed a tear or 2 over that. After all of the effort put into planning, I'd be sad if that many didn't show without notice! And you're right, it does add up.

BecW2be · October 2009

I actually told a girl coughing up a lung outside my office that she needed to go the hell home before she got the rest of us sick! I promise I've not entered some delusional, psychotic last-minute weight crisis. I look fine, my dress will fit fine; I'm just pissy today and I hate everyone and everything. Especially cheeseburgers and myself for eating it. :)It's like knotties crashing my wedding; I'd never in good conscience give out the info to crash it, but if someone figures it out and you all crash, I'd love it. I'd never sit with someone who's sick just to catch a bug, but if it happened and I'd be better by this weekend and a size smaller because of it, I wouldn't mind. (kidding!)

sarah0725 · October 2009

Bec, I think you're within your rights to have a cheeseburger if you really need one. My nutritionist always says that control is the important thing, and so if you tell yourself that you really want and need something and make up for it by not eating as much of those food groups the rest of the day, it's not that bad to splurge once in a while.For instance, I go to the grocery store once a week, and every time I go I get a donut. One donut a week isn't going to kill me.I'm also of the opinion that cheeseburgers are good for you. Lean meat, 2 servings of carbs in the bread, cheese = dairy, plus often vegetables. What's wrong with that?

laladypoet · October 2009

kiki, don't be weird. get out of your head!

carrieoz_76 · October 2009

Meaghan, I think you're right that she doesn't want to be controlling. Her mom basically ran her wedding for her, and she wants me to do my thing. We'll be going to her place for Thanksgiving, so hopefully I'll get my fix then (or we can talk about it).

missy68 · October 2009

I confess to still getting po'ed at statements about obese people being too stupid to control their own died (earlier post) - online or not. Charts say I'm obese. I'm not "too stupid" to monitor my diet; my body simply won't process more than a 10 lb loss, and that is still the upper limit of acceptable. Want details? Ask instead of making generalized statements like that bullsh!t.I also confess, that after our discussion here Friday regarding struggling with feeling "alone" (cacoffer's post), when DH came home Saturday and told me his aunt wanted to throw a dinner party for his sister and her new husband on the Saturday my cousin is getting married, I got really, really angry, then really, really sad. It resulted in big, ugly fat tears and quivery lips and snot and all that stuff, while we were at dinner.It doesn't help that I really haven't met anyone in town here.I'm homesick. Homesick in the sense that I can't get in a car and drive to see people I love. Homesick in the sense that people I've loved (friends) for 20 years don't contact me anymore. Homesick in that we'll always be here for Christmas, never with my family (DH's work schedule) - Christmas day night, yes, but never Christmas eve.

JdoubleP18 · October 2009

My mother was completely uninterested for most of my wedding planning and then completely butt-hurt over not knowing all the details when it was a month out. Then she and my step-dad were upset that DH and I didn't open their gift at our reception b/c they wanted to announce that they were sending us on a cruise for our honeymoon.I'm glad that announcement never happened because that cruise never happened either. And not for lack of planning. When DH and I finally decided to plan our own trip to Australia (2 weeks!), mom and step-dad asked if we would want them to give us spending money in lieu of the original cruise. We thanked them profusely and said that would be great.Two weeks out and that offer has never been mentioned again. I'm a little resentful over it and trying not to be.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · October 2009

GG - it completely didn't bother me the day of, probably because we had such an affordable caterer and bar service. I didn't even notice until I looked at all the placecards that were still on the table that people hadn't taken. But, H and I said that we had everyone who wanted to be there with us, and it was still a great time. And I know what you guys mean about the kids. MIL was asking at the reception if I was pregnant yet. I asked her if she thought I looked fat in my dress

That was the end of that.

laurenclaire1386 · October 2009

FI was raised by his grandparents. His grandmother died in March of this year. FI's granddad just sold the house with the intention of moving to Iowa (we're all in Louisiana) with FI's uncle. I am absolutely terrified that FI's granddad will change his mind and want to move in with us. FI has also expressed concern over this possibility. We're not sure we could tell him no. Then our lives would be hell. I love the guy like my own granddad, but I certainly don't want to live with any of my relatives.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · October 2009

Missy, I'm so sorry you're homesick

Let's make a plan for a GTG sometime in the next couple of months (if you want). DSM isn't that far from me, and it's my old stomping grounds (I went to school in Ames). It can be really hard to move to a new place. I'm in the same situation now because we're in such a remote location. No one wants to come see us. Fortunately, we only live about 90 minutes from my hometown so I can just invade my friends/family. But I seriously wonder if I didn't do that how often (if ever) I would see them.

kann2559 · October 2009

I'm kind of late but here's mine-I have my student teaching interview tomorrow, so I took today off to prepare for it. I really just didn't want to get up early and go to the terrible junior high I work at. And I'm not preparing for my interview.I have two midterms on Wednesday, and I couldn't care less. My only goal for this semester is to pass. (and I'm a 4.0 student)My wedding is on Friday. I still don't have programs, and my dad univited 2 more of his sisters yesterday. Since our final counts are in, thats 13 people that I will have to pay for and they aren't coming!

AmoroAgain · October 2009

I think I'm going to load up my sister's wedding dinner with laxative and maker her as miserable as she's made me lately. Fvcking hobag.

TheSaltyPeanut · October 2009

I too am irate over the 15 that were a no-show for us. The majority was H's family and friends. One of his friends (and GF... both RSVPd) was playing poker at a bar (found out through FB) A bunch of his 13-14 year old cousins decided to go to a horse show. One couldn't find a babysitter. I still feel stabby thinking about it and I think about it a lot. That and the BM's child who scribbled all over our photo frame. It's like I can't let it go!

kikibaby · October 2009

Meagan- nothing bad was said, I'm just in a stupid mood today.lala's right, I'm totally in my head. It's dark and scary, let me out!

missy68 · October 2009

Vogt, we definitely should. Gawd, that was whiney!! Of course, I'm probably old enough to be your mama!

DH was really sweet about it - he understood about the wedding part - we really were trying to go, but it's an 18-20 hour drive from here, and the tickets would cost us $800-900 - just not in our budget now. His family does Christmas so different from what I'm used to, and it was so hard last year. The last day he can take off until the day after Christmas is the day after Thanksgiving. No time off between. Makes it tough. He works a full day on Christmas Eve.

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