I am getting married next June to my English fiancé. We are going to live in England, and I plan to take his last name as my own. But I've been hitting a bit of confusion as to how to do it, as I also have a 4 year old daughter (who will be 5 at the time of the wedding) who Ben (my FI) will be adopting. Currently, my daughter carried my last name. Her father is not in the picture at all. He showed up for about two years (from the time she was 1-3) and then took off to Mexico. There is no child support and no visitations, and I plan on having his rights legally revoked at the same time that Ben adopts her. So my delimma is this: Do I change my daughter's last name as well? And how do you deal with reteaching a child their last name? Ben and I plan to have another child sometime in the future, and of course he/she will bear our last name. Would it be more fair to change my daughter's name to unify her with the family, or would it be unfair to make her change?