Don't like our first dance song!

Re: Don't like our first dance song!

• mbcdefg member

  

  October 2009

  If you and FI have been making equal plans for the wedding, I'd try and compromise. Maybe one of you can pick the first dance song and the other can pick the last dance song. If you've mainly been calling the shots and he's gone along with all of your ideas, I'd let him have this one. It's only fair. The first dance will be special because it's your time together. Not because of the song itself.

  

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• pag41989 member

  

  October 2009

  Personally if it was me if the song had meaning behind it, I would use it no matter how generic it is. However, if you are uncomfortable using it, maybe you could come to a compromise. I like the idea of one of you picking the first song and the other picking the last.

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• aerinpegadrak member

  

  October 2009

  Ditto mbc.  If you've been equal up to this point, then try to compromise (maybe another song by the same band, or dance to it later in the night).  If it's been your show, throw him a bone.Maybe you can have your DJ announce that the story behind it before you start dancing?  That way you can reclaim the song as your own, rather than worrying that your guests will think you just chose something standard.  (They probably won't, for the record.)

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• cch923

  

  October 2009

  What about having it be the song you walk out too after the ceremony? 

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• bat_02 member

  

  October 2009

  Thanks ladies! The song is "Amazed" by Lone Star. I don't like the song at all. I started to ask him about it today and mentioned using another song, and he got a little emotional about it. I could tell how much it meant to him and I was really suprised he cared that much. So I'm just going to drop it before I hurt his feelings anymore.

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• aerinpegadrak member

  

  October 2009

  Aww, I love that song.  It's cheesy, but FI and I danced to that at my sister's wedding, and he sang it to me as we danced.  I totally melted.It does tend to be a bit overused, but I would just have your DJ, when he announces you, say, "And now, bat and Mr. Bat will share their first dance as husband and wife, to the same song that they danced to for the very first time."  Or something similar.  Your guests should definitely know the meaning behind the song.

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  Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284

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• dsouldiva

  

  October 2009

  I can see why you wouldn't want it (I am not a fan), but in reality, it's just a song and a dance and it has no bearing on your wedding or your future life together, so if it means so much to your Fi I would drop it and let him have the song.

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