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Invite without reply card?

almoyoalmoyo member
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Has anyone ever received a wedding invitation without a reply card or anything referring to rsvp?I got a super fancy handwritten (in perfect calligraphy) invitation to a friend's upcoming wedding. I guess I'll just write a note and mail it saying that I'll be there...
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  • smileysara2008smileysara2008 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ouch, that's unfortunate - I hope she didn't forget to add it in...
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  • Mariah&StevenMariah&Steven
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    edited December 2011
    Can you call your friend and ask her about it?  I think that's what I'd do.
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  • untsinguntsing member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe she's so rich that she doesn't care if people can't make it, and they just plan for everyone. ;)
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  • TCUESW1999TCUESW1999 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have. I was invited to a fancy smancy wedding in New Orleans and it had no reply card. I kept thinking maybe I was crazy but it wasn't in there. I talked to the bride later and she said that she knew that I was coming. Still, doesn't make sense to me.
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  • almoyoalmoyo member
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    edited December 2011
    Here's what I found. Looks like I'm attending a very formal affair! Thanks, TK!!!If you receive a wedding invitation that doesn't include a response card -- which usually will only happen with very formal invitations, most likely on white or cream paper with engraved wording in black ink -- you'll need to respond with a formal acceptance note. Use plain white or cream-colored notepaper (or your own "official" stationery, if you have some) and black ink. The wording is similar to the invite wording: Mr. and Mrs. George Lynchaccept with pleasure [or "gladly accept"]the invitation ofMr. and Mrs. Jonathan Damone [the names at the top of the invitation; the hosts]for Saturday, August 30at one o' clock in the afternoon.
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  • TCUESW1999TCUESW1999 member
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    edited December 2011
    Mandy, believe it or not, you are on to something. That was how the exactly how the wedding was in New Orleans. They didn't need to know replies. I wish!
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  • Mariah&StevenMariah&Steven
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    edited December 2011
    Wow...
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  • almoyoalmoyo member
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    edited December 2011
    And yes, there is a lot of old family money involved. My friend is very, very informal, though. My husband won't be able to make it so she suggested that I bring my brother or my bff. I'm taking my bro, and we're going to have F-U-N. They have a lot of fun in Louisiana.
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  • TCUESW1999TCUESW1999 member
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    edited December 2011
    Is the wedding in Louisiana?
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  • almoyoalmoyo member
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    edited December 2011
    Shreveport
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  • TCUESW1999TCUESW1999 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hmph, funny. I have been to one wedding in New Orleans and one in Shreveport and both brides came from old money and therefore had very formal/fancy weddings. They were both very fun and memorable and I am sure it will be the same for you. :)
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  • almoyoalmoyo member
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    edited December 2011
    Cool! I'm excited about this one. The bride was "the girl on the couch" at the duplex I shared with my brother in college. It's only fitting that he and I go together. It will be like old times, only fancier. :)
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  • labellagirllabellagirl member
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    edited December 2011
    If you receive a wedding invitation that doesn't include a response card -- which usually will only happen with very formal invitations, most likely on white or cream paper with engraved wording in black ink -- you'll need to respond with a formal acceptance note. Use plain white or cream-colored notepaper (or your own "official" stationery, if you have some) and black ink.this is exactly what i was going to say - i didn't include a return reply card in my invitation but i did include a RSVP card - it had instructions for online RSVP and my address so that the older non-internet crowd could send a written reply - i got about 20 of them and i saved them for my wedding book
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  • DonnaariesDonnaaries member
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    edited December 2011
    labella girl, can you share the wording on your RSVP card?  I'm thinking of doing something like that, but I'm not sure how to word it.
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  • BanannaPBanannaP member
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    edited December 2011
    Ooh, fancy! Maybe someday I'll get see a wedding like that in person!
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  • seeinstars47seeinstars47
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    edited December 2011
    We weren't planning on including a RSVP card because it won't really make that big of a difference to how much cake and stuff we are ordering, and I just don't want to waste that much paper/postage.  I think we will probably just do an information card with instructions on rsvping online if my mom absolutely wants to know who is coming.  Is that tacky?
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  • emimayoremimayor
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    edited December 2011
    I went to a wedding recently like this; Jeff had to wear a tux. It was kind of awesome. They didn't miss a beat. It didn't feel stuffy either. And the food/booze are what dreams were made of. Have fun!!
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  • Jay&MarissaJay&Marissa
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    edited December 2011
    They have a lot of fun in Louisiana. You got that right!
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  • DonnaariesDonnaaries member
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    edited December 2011
    mmmm dreamy booze...
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  • BanannaPBanannaP member
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    edited December 2011
    Man, I could go for a white russian right now, speaking of dreamy booze.
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  • Catwoman708Catwoman708 member
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    edited December 2011
    The lack of a response card is not necessarily because they don't need to know if you are attending or not, but because it's not required by "proper" etiquette. And because they are assuming you know to respond, with or without a response card. Actually, including response cards is a somewhat modern convenience, not a requirement for formal invitations, and was once considered tacky. Because according to proper (old fashioned) etiquette, one should know to automatically reply to ALL invitations, and everyone had their own stationery. To include a response card was to imply that the guest did not have any knowledge of ettiquette. Usually you send your response in the same manner the invitation was received, unless it gives other instructions. If it's a casual phoned or e-mailed invitation, it's fine to call or e-mail/text your response. But for a formal, handwritten/calligraphed invitation, it requires a more formal, handwritten note to respond, on nice stationery, using formal wording. Such as: "Dear Bride, Ms. Chaming Prissypants would be pleased to attend your wedding on the 21st of November. Mr. Bro Prissypants will be her escort. Best Wishes, Ms. Prissypants" OR "Ms. Charming Prissypants regrets she cannot attend your wedding on the 21st of November. Best wishes on your special occasion."
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  • maykiousmaykious member
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    edited December 2011
    So is there some sort of government fund I could dip into to host a huge, awesome wedding full of to-die-for-food and dreamy booze?  I would love to be a part of that. "Dreamy booze" is now one of my favorite phrases.  Thanks ladies :)
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  • labellagirllabellagirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Donnaaries - i don't remember the exact wording but it was something to the effect of:The favor of a reply is requested by October 24, 2009.http://ourwebsite.comor123 Main StreetDallas, Texas 75205
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