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Opinion: Someone else's wedding

My friend got a wedding invitation today that had this super long poem about how they already have toasters and towels and plates, but what they can use is money.  It then goes off to saying, money is better because then you don't get 2 of the same gift.Well, Mr. and Mrs. Money askers are getting married at Little Flower.  The most expensive catholic church in Miami.  It cost $2905 "donation" plus $10 for the information packet.  Does anyone find this ok?  The poem was something like this one, but not this one: We'd love you to come to our weddingWe look forward to seeing you there.But please could you do us a favour?And show us you really do care. We have all the toasters we needAnd kettles are easy to findBed linen we have in abundanceAnd clocks that we don't have to wind The glasses we have are quite lovelyAnd the cutlery still has it's shineThe ornaments all have their placesAnd the furniture all looks just fine. The white ware is even still gleamingThe microwave cooks up a treatThe washer is still quite effectiveAnd the iron still keeps our clothes neat. So if you'd like to give us a presentSave a trip to the stores or the netIt's the money we'd rather be gettingAnd its easier to wrap it, we bet. So please come help join us togetherHelp celebrate our special dayBut please don't come loaded with boxesThey would only get in our way!

Re: Opinion: Someone else's wedding

  • avee10avee10 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I find this incredibly tacky!
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  • edited December 2011
    Thank you. I didn't want to offend anyone
  • babytecbabytec member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    wow! i'd be so turned off if I got this invitation!!!
  • bluebookbluebook member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Hmm I find that a bit tacky too, the mention of "money" ... but this is the poem in our website. Do you guys think this is tacky too? (We registered at honeyfund.com)So what do you get a bride and groom. whose house is full in every room? For those who wish to give a gift, help with our honeymoon would give us a lift. Look for the suitcase at our reception, to leave a token of your affection.
  • edited December 2011
    IMHO, it is tacky to limit guests to giving only 'monetary gifts' as if it were the only acceptable option. we don't need this, we don't need that, we just need your cash. basically what it's saying. only sugar-coated, in a cute poem =)
  • edited December 2011
    bluebook: i don't think what you're doing is tacky, however.. there are more discrete ways of requesting/encouraging monetary gifts, such as: registering for a small selection of items, and just simple word-of-mouth. for ex: for our engagement party, a ton of family/friends called my 'rents asking what we truly wanted/needed, and then it was appropriate for my mom to say, they are very tight with money right now, they would most appreciate a check w/ whatever you can give. after that, the word spread quick and we ended up receiving lots of dough
  • edited December 2011
    blue:  yours isnt tacky, but a 10 pg poem about theneed for money is
  • edited December 2011
    Ugh, one of my best friends getting married next month did this :(  I don't think she knows the wedding etiquette. I was so shocked when I saw her invitation and this poem. Bluebook, I don't find that tacky!
  • tazdvl3tazdvl3 member
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    edited December 2011
    This was sent with the wedding invitation??? That in itself is tacky. Then you never ask for money.
  • edited December 2011
    Pharm: That is such a turn off...i imagine the guests talking about it during the entire wedding. Blue: I dont think your poem is tacky, but i agree you should tell them person you think people will go to most to ask what you want/need and they could be the one to annouce it . :)
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  • JaiKriBabyJaiKriBaby member
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    That invitation poem is one of the tackiest things I've seen in a long time. I would come to the wedding with two huge boxes of random cutlery and linens. How anyone thinks that is remotely appropriate is beyond me. Bluebook - I agree with the pp that there are better ways to suggest to guests that you would like money for a honeymoon instead of being so direct. I would be turned off by the poem on your website, but that is just me. I say that in the spirit of being helpful, not criticizing.
  • avmn10avmn10 member
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    This was in an invitation?! Wow...
  • bluebookbluebook member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    JaiKri - That's totally fair.The poem is NOT going on our invites (nothing about gifts is of course), it's just on the "Gift Registry" section of our website. And we've also registered for a small number of items at Bed Bath and Beyond. But our other registry is Honeyfund.com, so this is an introduction to it basically.I'm okay with it. I think some people might think it's tacky but it's the same people who think you shouldn't even register because you should pretend no one is going to give you a gift and just be surprised. I think this toes the line between that and being realistic about what's going to happen.
  • avee10avee10 member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Bluebook: your poem is not tacky, you're not blatantly saying "We just want money!!!" like the other one. Yours is tasteful.
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  • twinkle82576twinkle82576 member
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Pharm: I can't believe they put that on an invitation!!! Wow!!!Bluebook: I think what you did is perfect. Putting it on the website was not distateful. I also registered at two places: Target and GoGift.com. Since we're in the process of buying a home, we will be needing a lot of things, so we decided Target was the best place, because you can find everything you need at very reasonable prices. GoGift is a cash registery, and it's being spread word of mouth if someone asks, and both registeries are only found on our website.
  • edited December 2011
    Yeah, I'd be turned off by this. I think like Judy said, there are more sutble ways to show that you just want cash than to come out and say it and try and mask it in a poem like that.
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