Maybe you will not read this, but in case you do -- I hate that I've now played a part in bringing any negativity to this wonderful board. If I read back on my posts, I agree that it seems I do not know the definition of "subjective". What I was trying to say is that I don't come on here looking for "fair"/"accurate"/"two-sided"/insert-terminology-here reporting on most things, as most folks have never planned a wedding before, have not been to all islands, etc. I'm just looking for others' thoughts and advice from personal experiences. I hope that you do not leave, as your wedding was absolutely gorgeous and there is no doubt you have a lot to offer. And you're also right, that there are not a lot of Big Island knotties, so every one counts.Please accept my apologies for obviously offending you. I mean that sincerely!