So it was brought to our attention today by someone outside the family about our kids in the wedding. Between my FI and I we have 5 children, 14,14,12,11, and 6..Four of them are mine from a previous marriage and she has one, 14 yr old son. The two 14 yr olds will be Jr. Bridesmaid and groomsman. The 6 yr. old, will be our ringbearer. The question was asked why we didn't choose the 12 and 11 year old to be in the actual ceremony. The main reason we originally didn't choose them was because we are worried about having to worry about them. Unfortunately, they are the two who don't pay attention the most, act horrible when they are together, and that is honestly the main reason to be honest. We intended to have them pair up with two older cousins, who are ushers and help pass out programs. The person who asked the question thought we are leaving them out. We never thought of it until now if we are wrong in doing this. We thought them passing out programs would be fine. We aren't doing a unity candle, but sand in a vase for that portion of the ceremony, which they will be included in. Does anyone have the same opinion as this person who asked the question or do you think it is fine the way we have it now???? Opinions are appreciated!