Oh god, why me?

sierraberry32 · September 2012

Haha so my FI asked what a wedding registry was and I explained it to him! Apparently I didn't explain it too well because he said "we should put a flat screen TV on our registry!" I told him no and the reason why... Apparently I didn't explain that too well either! Now he is so sure that we should put a huge flat screen TV on our registry, and people can pitch in to buy it!

I don't know what to do about this one...

Sassenach1743 · September 2012

What's wrong with registering for a flat screen? It's something that you will use practically everyday, versus a bunch of cooking appliances that you may already own or not use nearly as often.

Are you afraid it will seen offensive? Why?

Some people think its tacky to register for a honeyfund to have their guests pitch in for their honeymoon, but it's become rather common as of late.

It's not like your asking people for cash... which is still their perogative to give you, if they so choose.

I've had friends and relatives register for everything from bicycles to BBQs, toys, lawn mowers, laptops and desktop computers, etc. What's the difference?

Where does it say you can't register for TV?

bridalmarch · September 2012

When we did our baby registry for our daughter, FI scanned a family sized bag of Skittles "because it was family sized." His mom ended up putting it in a gift basket for us. This is why FI isn't allowed to scan when we do the wedding registry

chee023 · September 2012

Maybe you shouldn't put the flat screen tv on the registry but you can ask for gift cards to the store where you would like to purchase the tv from & then go buy it with the gift cards. Just a thought.

artbyallie · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:191a4765-af32-4b31-acda-f45579940408">Re: Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]Maybe you shouldn't put the flat screen tv on the registry but you can ask for gift cards to the store where you would like to purchase the tv from & then go buy it with the gift cards. Just a thought.
Posted by chee023[/QUOTE]

<div>Um. No.</div>

Sassenach1743 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:764c5d56-fc48-44fb-9bbd-f90421b99bf9">Re: Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh god, why me? : It may have become popular, but it's still rude as hell. I don't think the TV is as bad, but I'd still side-eye it. Just tell him it's for household stuff, not entertainment equipment.
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I agree that the honeyfund registry is tacky and rude. I was just using it as an example of something that has been accepted as of late regardless of how tacky it actually is. </div><div>
</div><div>But I still don't see the harm in registering for the flat screen. It IS something for the home, entertainment or not. I don't see how it's tacky. Registries are for compiling a list of desired items for your new home... Your guests don't have to buy you anything from your registry either. It's just meant as a guideline for things that the couple wants and needs.</div><div>
</div><div>Asking for money (i.e cash, gift cards, funding for a honeymoon, anniversary trip, or even the wedding itself) IS tacky and rude. </div>

sierraberry32 · September 2012

I really saw a wedding registry as a guideline for what you NEED, not want. I was putting down silverware, plates, cups, kitchen gadgets, linens, etc. But I don't think putting a flat screen TV down is ok... We don't need a flat screen TV.

achiduck · September 2012

A lot of stores offer completion programs where you can get discounts as high as 25% for a given period of time after your wedding. There are some things we'd like but didn't want to register for (like a big wine cabinet) that I don't care to pay full price for, so I'll got in the last day or two before the wedding when I'm off and add it to the registry so we can get the discount. Look into the completion programs at your store(s) and see what the options are. It might be a good compromise.

NcsuPsych · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:5e8d8624-7ae3-4ad9-9371-56cf2c55b845">Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE] Haha so my FI asked what a wedding registry was and I explained it to him! Apparently I didn't explain it too well because he said "we should put a flat screen TV on our registry!" I told him no and the reason why... Apparently I didn't explain that too well either! Now he is so sure that we should put a huge flat screen TV on our registry, and people can pitch in to buy it! I don't know what to do about this one...
Posted by sierraberry32[/QUOTE]

First world problems. .

HobokensFury · September 2012

It's your wedding. Do what you want.

jennipea382 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:83e60258-2a2f-4c85-8c69-46263dfe74ae">Re: Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]A lot of stores offer completion programs where you can get discounts as high as 25% for a given period of time after your wedding. There are some things we'd like but didn't want to register for (like a big wine cabinet) that I don't care to pay full price for, so I'll got in the last day or two before the wedding when I'm off and add it to the registry so we can get the discount. Look into the completion programs at your store(s) and see what the options are. It might be a good compromise.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

This is exactly why my friends had an Xbox on their registry - so they could get the discount! Also about the Skittles PP posted about - same friends either accidentally or jokingly registered for deodorant so her H ended up set for probably a year with it, haha.

MyNameIsNot · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:b47254bf-fc79-4485-9b0f-d32eba42648f">Re:Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Oh god, why me?: Just because something is done does NOT mean it is accepted. I know no one who has had a honeymoon or house registry that did not offend multiple guests with it. <strong>Also, the difference between bicycles and grills and a flat screen tv is the price. There is a difference between several hundred dollars and a couple thousand.</strong> Personally, I don't care if people register for televisions or furniture, as long as there is only one or two giant items on the registry. I assume it's for the completion discount. But I wouldn't expect guests to actually pitch in and buy it.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>This. It wouldn't be that big of a deal if you put a smaller $200 tv on the registry, but a $2,000 tv would come off greedy. While theoretically, people could go in on a large gift like that, they won't, and it sends the message that you think someone would spend that much on a gift, especially on something frivolous.</div>

Beads921 · September 2012

I've been to a wedding where the couple registered for a large, flat-screen TV. They didn't expect to get it, but like a PP said, they wanted to buy it with the completion discount and gift cards they figured they'd receive for the store (which they did). I had no problem with that at all.

Also, basing the registry off of only things you "need" is ridiculous. There is absolutely nothing we "need" to start our lives as a married couple. We already own a house and it's well equipped with everything we need. Everything we register for will be things we "want" - a bigger toaster, another set of fancy sheets, etc. We'll probably register for a small flat screen for our bedroom, as a matter of fact.

HobokensFury · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:1578e035-1e56-4d92-b934-b9ba7fb1159c">Re: Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh god, why me? : Oh my gawd!!! Did your account get hacked?!?!
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]

No I was just giving her the standard advice gives everyone else. I was being sarcastic.

HobokensFury · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:bbcd7f18-9b2c-4fdc-83ca-5bbdd50b9439">Re: Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh god, why me? : Oh. I was just taken aback. <strong>You side-eye everything.</strong>
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]

Only bad etiquette and horrible ideas <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

Marrin713 · September 2012

Pretty dramatic subject line.

Meghannsix · September 2012

I agree, I would feel squeemish about putting more expensive, big ticket items on our registry. I think it implies that you think someone would spend that much money. I was thinking about the completion program though, and I like the idea of adding stuff at the last minute to get the discount after. We'll see.

Maggie0829 · September 2012

I think that as long as you put items that have a wide range of prices (like $5 and up) and a good mix of those prices (not 10 items at under $20 and then the rest at over $100) then you can really register for pretty much anything without looking greedy.

I also think that registries are really a combo of both things that you need and want. You may need plates and silverware but when you register you are picking out the type of plates and silverware you want not just listing "plates and silverware" where your guests can just buy you whatever they want.

On our registry I put a dyson vacuum on it knowing that the chances of me actually getting it was slim to none and knowing that the vacuum I currently had was fine but since I wanted to upgrade I may as well upgrade to something that is really nice. I didn't get it, no big deal, I went out and bought one last month.

OwningAHome1981 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:e408486f-73b6-46d0-bf66-d09a4866f1af">Re: Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]I really saw a wedding registry as a guideline for what you NEED, not want. I was putting down silverware, plates, cups, kitchen gadgets, linens, etc. But I don't think putting a flat screen TV down is ok... We don't need a flat screen TV.
Posted by sierraberry32[/QUOTE]

I think it depends- everyone needs different things. We live in a small studio apartment- we definitely do not need china, lol.

I think a flat screen TV is ok to put on a registry. Personally, people put things like china and silverware on their registries but do they actually want that stuff? I'd prefer to get someone something I know that they actually want (like the TV).

Sassenach1743 · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_oh-god-why-me?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:db52fd29-4253-4e18-b746-9660fecd72cdPost:f210a1a7-edbe-4e9d-8c68-f9639099d9de">Re: Oh god, why me?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh god, why me? : But that's not what a registry is. Be honest. Does anyone NEED a brand new Kitchenaid stand mixer with 90 color options? No, but brides register for them all the time and no one side eyes it. I also really hate the argument that you shouldn't register for a TV because it sends the message you expect guests to buy it. I'm calling BS. I didn't expect anyone to buy anything off our registry, including the $2 measuring cup. Was it nice that people did? Sure, but I never expected it. OP- Let him register for it. Bottom line is that people that get offended about what you put on your registry have too much time on their hands and are just looking for something to offend them.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly my point too! Thank you Linger. </div>

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