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alba x monge
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MOG.... Bought her dress to match the wedding party.
my future MIL is a little impatient. Although I have made an appt. to go buy dresses for both mothers two weeks away. She decided she wanted to go out on her own and buy her dress and save me the money. She took our invitation and brought it to the store and had the salesperson match the invite (tiffany blue and gray). So she got herself a tiffany blue and gray trimming dress. She absolutely "adores" it. and will not consider changing the color.
My worry however, is that I have no bridemaids and have only a flower girl. I wanted to buy my mother a silver or champagne color dress and am afraid that looking at our wedding picutures my MIL will look more like my MOH rahter than my MIL. She will be matching not only the wedding party, but the bouquets, the thank you gifts, the tablecloths, the menus...... etc, etc, etc.
How do I get her to try to look for another outfit without hurting her or my fiancee's feelings?
My worry however, is that I have no bridemaids and have only a flower girl. I wanted to buy my mother a silver or champagne color dress and am afraid that looking at our wedding picutures my MIL will look more like my MOH rahter than my MIL. She will be matching not only the wedding party, but the bouquets, the thank you gifts, the tablecloths, the menus...... etc, etc, etc.
How do I get her to try to look for another outfit without hurting her or my fiancee's feelings?
Mr. & Mrs. Rosa
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Re: MOG.... Bought her dress to match the wedding party.
[QUOTE]my future MIL is a little impatient. Although I have made an appt. to go buy dresses for both mothers two weeks away. She decided she wanted to go out on her own and buy her dress and save me the money. She took our invitation and brought it to the store and had the salesperson match the invite (tiffany blue and gray). So she got herself a tiffany blue and gray trimming dress. She absolutely "adores" it. and will not consider changing the color. My worry however, is that I have no bridemaids and have only a flower girl. I wanted to buy my mother a silver or champagne color dress and<strong> am afraid that looking at our wedding picutures my MIL will look more like my MOH rahter than my MIL.</strong> She will be matching not only the wedding party, but the bouquets, the thank you gifts, the tablecloths, the menus...... etc, etc, etc. How do I get her to try to look for another outfit without hurting her or my fiancee's feelings?
Posted by alba x monge[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I doubt you or anyone will get them confused lol. </div><div>
</div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:12px;" class="Apple-style-span">You don't get to dictate your FMIL's attire, since she is not in the WP. She already bought the dress and loves it, so it would be really rude of you to say anything now. She has not done anything wrong. It would have been nice had she consulted you or your mom, but she doesn't HAVE to do so. <div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">
</div><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">Think about it: how many pictures will you actually have of her with your parents? You'll probably have one of you with both sets of parents but that's really it.</div><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">
</div><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">What is more important, how your pictures look or your relationship with your FMIL? </div><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">
</div><div style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:12px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;">Edted: Removed part about BMs, since I realized you aren't having them. My bad.</div></span></div><div>
</div><div>Just remember that your wedding is one day. Your FMIL will be your FMIL for the rest of your life. </div><div>
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[QUOTE]Let it go. Actually, you were presumptuous in making appointments for them.....the moms wear whatever THEY want to, unless they're in the wedding party.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
<div>Ba-Bam. Retread usually says what I would only nicer. </div><div>
</div><div>People will not confuse her as part of the WP. She can wear what she pleases</div>
[QUOTE] Although I have made an appt. to go buy dresses for both mothers two weeks away. Posted by alba x monge[/QUOTE]
This confuses me. Why couldn't they buy their own dresses on their own time?
[QUOTE]In Response to MOG.... Bought her dress to match the wedding party. : This confuses me. Why couldn't they buy their own dresses on their own time?
Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]
ditto this. Also, how would someone confuse her with the wedding party, when you said there was no wedding party?
A sublte suggestion is to have her picture developed in black and white ;-)