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september's bride · October 2009

DH was of no faith when we met. His parents had not baptized him and left the decision as his to make when he got older. He decided to join the RCIA and became a Catholic, because he felt he identified with my faith. We still believe different things, my being a cradle Catholic does clash with his new understanding of things, but it's never something we seriously argue over.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · October 2009

We don't and sort of.He was raised Catholic. I was raised protestant. I have issues with both. Neither of us practice, but we think it's best to raise our children in some kind of religious community. He confessed drunkenly one night that he would prefer to raise his kids Catholic. I went to a Catholic High School for four years. While I loved my high school, I don't think I could imply to my kids that it's the best faith or that there isn't anything seriously wrong with it. I think a lot of it is that he hasn't really been exposed to any other religion or denomination, though.I also don't get transubstantiation. Sorry!His mother converted to Catholicism when she married FFIL. I'm not going to convert. Ever. FI is okay with us not having a Catholic wedding ceremony, though.

goheels05 · October 2009

We both grew up protestant, but on opposite ends of the protestant spectrum. We attended churches together of several different denominations to find one we both liked. We now attend a Methodist church.The only point of contention, really, is that I openly have a great deal of disdain for certain Southern Baptist congregations in this particular area (not all. I like his parents' congregation, which is the one he attended as a kid). My parents and siblings share this disdain. Sometimes I make blanket statements about "those Baptists" that offend my husband, which I don't mean to do. And my mom made an offensive statement about Baptists in front of my in-laws at Christmas (good job, mom).

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · October 2009

I was raised Catholic, he's raised United Methodist. I've sort of gone away from the church and worked on an individual faithful relationship (I won't even go into that), but am still very much a believer in a Christian God. Now that we're married, I plan to join the Methodist church. I can get on board with what they're saying for the most part, and I'm able to discern what works for our family without going with the church mentality on things.I couldn't have married someone who didn't believe in God. It would have caused huge problems. Not an issue now, but that's the only way I could have seen it being a big issue.

aMrsin09 · October 2009

I am a recovering catholic and H is nothing. Not really a problem for us until I saw a really pretty nativity during our last trip. The conversation went: H: We're going to be Catholic at Christmas aren't we?Me: yepH: That's the only time?Me: yepH: Do I have to go to Christmas Eve mass w/you?Me: NopeH: :sigh: Ok, but don't get a BIG one.

SwedishChick2011 · October 2009

I also don't get transubstantiation. Sorry!Me neither. I can't really get a straight answer from DH about this. Do Catholics believe the bread and wine literally turn into the body and blood of Christ? Or do they believe it's figurative?

ac_in_dc · October 2009

We were both raised catholic and used to attend mass together when we were dating...but the whole married before/annulment thing caused some problems for us with the catholic faith. DH's parents and my brother have both converted to the episcopal/anglican faith (which is very similar with its sacraments, etc) so we have started to go to an anglican church and were married in an anglican church. I still feel a lot of confusion about catholicism though. I miss it sometimes and really want to go back, and other times it really pisses me off.

ac_in_dc · October 2009

I dig transubstantiation. I think of it as a mystical thing (and mysticism exists in all religions) where bread & wine are transformed because fundamentally we are all one.Anglicans believe in transubstantiation too.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · October 2009

Do Catholics believe the bread and wine literally turn into the body and blood of Christ? Or do they believe it's figurative?It's supposed to be literal. The priest does the blessing and it turns to the body and blood of Christ for real. Protestants believe bread and wine just represents the body and blood of Christ. Now as to how many believe that, I don't know. But let's just say there are a lot more Catholics who use birth control than don't. I was raised Presbyterian and one issue I have with that is predetermination. They're a Calvinist church, so they believe that only certain people have been hand chosen by God to be saved, and you can never know if you're one. Until you die. They sort of downplay it today, but it IS still a tenent of their faith.I want to try a UU church, and FI has agreed to go with me when I'm ready to try religion again.

AlexiaANDRobert · October 2009

Yes, we're both Catholic. We have had disagreements because we actually believe slightly different things, but we more or less learned to debate those without fighting. It's actually been a great experience for me because I've learned a lot about my faith through these debates with him. Ditto this.FI (woah, DH now!) went to Catholic school so he has more knowledge, but we both agree I have more faith. So it's cool to learn from each other.

SwedishChick2011 · October 2009

but the whole married before/annulment thing caused some problems for us with the catholic faith. Yeah, I was married before and that was definitely an issue for DH as we were thinking about getting married. We got married in a Protestant church, but he wants me to do the annulment thing with the Catholic church, and then have the Catholic church marry us (again). He hasn't mentioned it in a while, so I'm hoping he just forgets about it because it sounds like a big PITA.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · October 2009

AC - I had a friend who was raised Episcopalian and she felt a lot more comfortable attending the Catholic services in college than the protestant ones because it was more familiar. A lot of Episcopalians are now converting to Catholicism because they think the Anglican church is too liberal, and vice verse.

ac_in_dc · October 2009

This sounds awful, but after all of the magic mushrooms I've eaten in my life the idea of transubstantiation seems totally plausible to me.

kschwedic · October 2009

FI and I are Christian. He is a baptized member of the Church of Christ. I plan to be baptized into the church before our wedding. I've visited many other churches around my community and the Church of Christ is the only one that I really feel follows and teaches my beliefs.

jenn.daniel · October 2009

My FI is Episcopalian. I grew up in what I think of as a generic Christian family - I liked going to vacation Bible school, so I went - my parents left it up to me. A couple of my close friends were Methodist and I went to church with them quite often. I didn't go to church much in college. Afterwards I went to Methodist church for about a year, but that was more because it was the Protestant church that was within walking distance. We don't go to church currently, each of us prefers to read and pray on our own. We're getting married in the church where his family goes.

skiingstark · October 2009

Yep we are both agnostic, we lean toward Unitarian because we like the values and morals it teaches. He was brought up in a Protestant family and moved away from it. I was brought in non denominational Christian family and moved away from Christianity after I went to Catholic School for one year. I disagreed with almost everything they taught and that scared me away from Christianity. We have been talking about joining a Unitarian church so that way our future child gets some religion and can make up their own mind when they are older. But probably will not happen. I am a big believer instead of wasting time going to church go out and volunteer and help the world become a better place that way.

saschaduran · October 2009

Ugh...the one thing that worries me about the future. I have no interest in religion at all, and am mostly turned off by it in general. He was raised Jehovah Witness, and was excommunicated from the church for premarital sex. Although he no longer practices he still seems to hold some beliefs (such as thinking holidays are dumb and being anti blood transfusions). He has mentioned going to church to be able to be "pardoned" so his family can "technically" be around him without feeling as if they are doing something wrong.

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