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lizap77
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"and Family" on invitation
I just read on another post not to put "and Family" to note that you are including the kids in the invite. Well now I'm a little worried because there are a few that I don't even know the names of the kids for. Most of the kids are on my FI's side and they're either family friends with kids FI doesn't know or family that he's not really close with and doesn't know the kids names.
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Re: "and Family" on invitation
[QUOTE]I just read on another post not to put "and Family" to note that you are including the kids in the invite. Well now I'm a little worried because there are a few that I don't even know the names of the kids for. Most of the kids are on my FI's side and they're either family friends with kids FI doesn't know or family that he's not really close with and doesn't know the kids names.
Posted by lizap77[/QUOTE]
Then he needs to make some phone calls. You'll need the names when it's time to seat them and thank them for gifts so pick up the phone and ask.
This is one of the times that the groom needs to pick up the phone.
[QUOTE]I assume if they are close enough to be invited to the wedding, SOMEONE on FI's side must know their names. Ask. If literally no one related to your FI knows the names of these children of "family friends", why are you inviting them at all?
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
To be honest, we're inviting them because she asked us to. That wasn't a big deal to us. We didn't have to make cuts to accommodate them, so we had no reason to say no. His mom hopefully knows some, I'll have him call her.
His cousin also recently moved to Australia and met his wife, who had children from a previous marriage. They're not super close so I guess I'll have FI's mom ask his uncle.
There are also a few of FI's friends (one is a groomsman) that have had babies recently, but he can't remember their names. They are good friends but live out of the area so we don't see them often (haven't met any of the babies yet). He has been told (I'm sure multiple times) about baby "johhny" over phone calls and such, so it just makes him feel bad to ask "oh btw, what was your baby's name again?".
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:quot;and Familyquot; on invitation : To be honest, we're inviting them because she asked us to. That wasn't a big deal to us. We didn't have to make cuts to accommodate them, so we had no reason to say no. His mom hopefully knows some, I'll have him call her. Posted by lizap77[/QUOTE]
Sorry I re-read that and I wasn't clear... "she" meaning FMIL. We asked both sets of parents if there were people they think we should invite and got a list from each.
[QUOTE]Ditto checking FB to get some of these names. If your FI's friends are anything like the new parents on my FB feed, every other post will be about their babies.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
I thought they would be all over facebook too!! My friends talk about their babies all the time on facebook with updated pictures weekly. But his guy friends do not.
Thanks for the suggestions. I think we're just going to have to make some calls and try to slide in a baby comment and hope they mention "oh yeah "little johhny" did x today".
[QUOTE]I did "and family" and you know what? It was great and easy.
Posted by chinofiesta93[/QUOTE]
And rude.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "and Family" on invitation : And rude.
Posted by banana468[/QUOTE]
Rude to who, though?
I've never understood. I would not be offended if someone wrote "and family" instead of my kids names.
Judging something as "It's only rude if it would offend me," is poor criteria.
Everyone you invite should be on the envelope by name. If my kid is invited then name her. It's as rude to put the kids as "and family" just as you don't invite established social units with "and guest."