9-11-10???? good or bad idea???

fxy19rxy · November 2009

My venue had 9/4 or 9/11 avaiable as well. I live in MD, so I was not directly affected by 9/11 but out of respect for those who were I could never celebrate something on that day, so I chose 9/4. It's labor day weekend which has it's ups & downs but I just couldn't pick 9/11.

hillaryeggert · November 2009

If 9/11 makes you "very uneasy," obviously it's not the date for you. And personally, this far out from that day, I would probably be surprised to be invited to a wedding on 9/11 and wonder why, of all the days to get married, the couple chose that date. Still too recent IMO.There's no problem with getting married during labor day weekend or right before your fiancee's bday. Wouldn't that just be a great excuse to plan a fun, day-after bash for your new hubby? I think that sounds like the perfect solution!

RAMartin2209 · November 2009

Many people do travel over Labor Day weekend but it could be an excellent way to keep your guest list from getting out of control. The people who mean the most to you wouldn't miss it for the world! Congrats and happy planning!

KBun · November 2009

I absolutely couldn't do it, though of course I'd attend a friend's wedding on that day... but honestly, I went to a wedding on Sept. 12th this year, and even that made me a little squeamish. The important thing is that it's making you uncomfortable. (And I really think it will make other people uncomfortable too, whether or not they mention it or admit it.) I agree with previous posters who said that Labor Day weekend could actually be really fun!

themidge · November 2009

this is going to be your anniversary every year for the rest of your life, so you need to be comfortable with it. that said, there is really no disrespect having your wedding that day. life does go on - how many people still cringe about having an event on pearl harbor day or d-day? it's will have been almost a decade since 9/11 by the time of your wedding. i think it might be nice to breathe some new life into that day - give it new meaning with your new beginning. a new chapter for everyone. it's totally up to you if you think it's appropriate or not.

tommyandy · November 2009

Is the venue cheaper on 9/11 than 9/4? Are 9/18 or 9/25 available? Does it have to be September or will October work?

phut_action · November 2009

I dont think there's anything wrong with it. You could even include like a prayer or have a plaque or something else "in memory of" the day if you are concerned about it. I'm sure you'll get a couple comments about it, but I don't think you should not plan your wedding that day. LIke others have said, there are MANY days on the calendar that hold tragic stories, and I know this one is more recent and should not be forgotten, but that doesnt mean we should stop celebrating life on these days.

blondie82784 · November 2009

Im getting married sept. 18th of 2010 I wanted the weekend before but then I realized the date and rethinked it. The only reason I didnt go with that date was because it was my cousins bday and come on who would want to share that day LOL. To me its a another day but to some its a different story. If there are people that are attending your wedding that had to deal with a loss then I would rethink it.

TobeSymes · November 2009

I'm getting married Sept 11 too! I think its a great day. At first I was iffy about it, but its turning a bad date for many into a really good date for you. I say go for it!

danielle.dugas · November 2009

I think there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. If you look up any date of the year, you can find SOMETHING negative that people will associate. If you're ok with it, that's what matters.

nuremenosh · November 2009

I know that 9-11 is a cheaper date to get married because my cousin was looking at it. Her sister in law advised against it and eventually she ended up with the first weekend in October. I would NEVER have my wedding on 9-11. Every year when it rolls around I remember all those people who lost their lives and more importantly all those kids who lost their dads and the people who lost their spouses and parents who lost children. I've tried to put myself in their shoes and I know that if it was my loved one I'd never get over the anger at the senselessness. I'd attend a wedding on 9-11, I planned to attend my cousins but it would have been on my mind all day. And I'd have a hard time really letting loose while I thought about it the whole day.

What08 · November 2009

I understand what you mean. I wanted to get married in November but my close cousin passed away and his birthday is November 14. So we decided on the 7th. If you not comfortable with it, no one will be when you tell them your anniversary date. I had to bury my cousin the day after my birthday. I didn't celebrate last year but I did this year and I will continue to every year I'm alive. We can't stop babies from being born on that day so do we not celebrate their birthday because it's Sept. 11th?? I know that's not the best comparison but life is crazy!!! Things happen and I can't mourn they day my cousin died every year simply because I don't think he would want me to be sad.Do what's best for you. GOOD LUCK!!

Jane Domian · November 2009

We got married on 9/6/09, which was a Sunday, the day before Labor Day. And, incidentally, it was also 4 days before my birthday. None of it caused a problem and we had many people travel from all across the US to attend, since most of them had Labor Day off work. I think it's a great weekend to get married, especially if you will have a lot of out of town guests. And we also got great vendor deals since it was on a Sunday. As for getting married on 9/11, well, that's a personal decision each couple has to make. Since you said you were "very uneasy" about choosing that date, you might want to go with your gut and select a different date. My 2 cents...

lyndausvi · November 2009

would NEVER have my wedding on 9-11. Every year when it rolls around I remember all those people who lost their lives and more importantly all those kids who lost their dads and the people who lost their spouses and parents who lost children. I've tried to put myself in their shoes and I know that if it was my loved one I'd never get over the anger at the senselessness. Do you feel the same way on April 19? What about December 21? What about Memorial Day?I'm not knocking you, but tragedy happens everyday. If we felt that way no day would be available.

VTChristi07 · November 2009

If you feel uneasy already about 9/11 then you'd still feel uneasy about it throughout the whole wedding plans. You may have some guest judge against you just because of the date, it's still 'young tragedy'. Can you handle that? If so, then go ahead and set the date on 9/11. I think labor day weekend is an awesome weekend to get married on. Especially if you have guests from out of state, because they don't have to take off extra day from work and they can travel far for a long weekend. I'm getting married on Memorial day weekend and bunch of my guests are very grateful for that, because they get an extra day off. Who cares if you get married the day before your fiance's birthday? You can celebrate his birthday on the honeymoon! I'm celebrating my fiance's birthday 6 days later in Coasta Rica when we're on our honeymoon!

sunshine_day_dreams · November 2009

I'm way late on this, but just wanted to say that I'm getting married over Labor Day weekend next year AND the day before my birthday. It's not a big deal. I'm actually excited for it - what better birthday present than waking up a newly married girl? It's also nice because OOT guests have more time for travel and we have more time to spend with guests with the holiday.

tinkerbell.katie81 · November 2009

I know I am WAY late on this one, but I was living in Boston at the time and had grown up in the greater NYC area. I lost several friends on 9-11 both on the planes and in the towers. It WOULD bother me to get married on that day. However, if you were not personally affected by the tragedy as my friends and family were, I would not see it as a big deal. Life does go on, and you cannot pick dates based on avoiding those associated with tragedy. I would have no problem getting married on days like Dec. 7th, but that is because I was not personally affected by Pearl Harbor. You have to do what is best for you.As a side note, FI and I went to a LOVELY wedding on the Sunday of Labor Day weekend last year. We had to drive 6 hours to get to the wedding, and it actually afforded us the opportunity to enjoy the wedding more because it was a long weekend and we knew we had two built-in travel days that did not require taking time off of work.

chelseycorrine · November 2009

Again, I'm late on this but I am getting married on September 11, 2010. I don't have an issue with it because I got my dream venue, at my "dream" price during my favorite time of year

Look at it in a positive light and the day will be perfect regardless!

eroberts15 · November 2009

Just remember that if you have your wedding on Sept 11, you will celebrate your anniversary every year on that day...I wouldn't want to...

RachelleGregory · November 2009

I"m getting married Sept 11 next year. Seriously if you looked back in history something bad has happened every day of the year at some point in history in some country. Who cares, its your day!

jules_1981 · November 2009

First off I just wanna say Congratulations! Looks like you and I are in the same boat. I got engaged on October 3rd of this year and also want a September wedding. We had originally planned on the 18th but the reception hall was already booked on that date and the only one available was the 11th. If you want to get married on that day I say DO IT! That's what I'm doing. It doesn't matter what other people think, as long as you're ok with it that's all that matters. Terrible events happened all the time in history, if we didn't plan joyful events on days that bad things happened, no one would be getting married at all. So I say go for it! Happy Planning

teri_13 · November 2009

I am newly engaged also, 10-9-2009, and I am now in the process of planning. My fiancee and I had a couple dates picked out but nothing worked for those dates. So we settled on Sept. 11, 2010. It was then or not get married until 2011. I was kind of leery at first with it being that date, but after talking to family and friends we figured it would be fine. So we decided to keep the date, and so far nobody seems to have a problem with it.

AqandLa · November 2009

I'm assuming you live or are from New York (but I could be wrong about this). I think if you are from the New York area, have a lot of guests attending who are from the New York area, or if anyone significant in your day (ie, parent, member of teh wedding party) lost someone on Sept 11, then talk to those people and see how they feel. As a New Yorker, I wouldn't do it, but I'd certainly attend a wedding that day. (Just like if I lived in New Orleans, I wouldn't get married on the anniversary of Hurricane Katrina - but as a New Yorker, I don't even know what that date is!) I also agree a Labor Day weekend would be great! (I attended a fourth of July wedding and it was really fun!) As for being close to your FH's birthday, it will just mean you can combine your "anniversary gift" budget with your "birthday gift" budget every year and get him something awesome!

sirpi5678 · November 2009

My parents were married on September 11th. It was 27 years ago but it really is just a day. People get married on December 4th even though it is the day Pearl Harbor was attacked. Now if this was 2002 and you wanted to get married on September 11th I would maybe say that it wasn't such a good idea. Bring a little joy, love and happiness to that day! If it fits your schedule and you want that day, go for it!

Joy O · November 2009

My fiance and I are getting married on 9-11-10. I think we had concerns initially, however, my Dad made a good point about "if you avoid this date, you let the terrorists win". We will probably recognize the date during our church ceremony and say a prayer for all the people serving for our country (including my 2 cousins who are in the Army in Iraq). I think that life does go on and it is a chance to start anew, create something beautiful, and cherish that day.

LauraQuigley · November 2009

Lots of people are getting married that day, including ME

It wasn't my first choice either but why not create a great new memory for that day!

alli003 · November 2009

Hi ChocolateDiamond,Congratulations on your engagement! My fiance and I got engaged in May, and we ran into a similar situation. We found a great location, and decided we wanted to get married in September. However, due to other family events we couldn't do the last two weekends in September and didn't want to do the first weekend because of Labor Day. So, we have embraced the September 11th date. To be honest, for us that weekend just works best and it just so happens next year that Saturday falls on the 11th. We've thought about it this way too...in that some people's birthday is 9/11 or another way to look at it is that we're turning it into a happy occasion. I will caution though, that it is frustrating to feel like I have explain to everyone that asks about our date why we chose it, but I've learned to just say it as though it's just another day. Best of luck.

trishinbanff · November 2009

I have booked my wedding for September 11th. It's not a big deal (I'm not saying what happened was not a big deal). What about all the people who were born on that day or who have their anniversary on that day? Do you think they hide in the closet? Just book it.

stiffleramy27 · November 2009

I think that it is one of ten gorgeous (weekend) days of a perfect month to get married. Had I not been dead-set on a specific location, I would have loved this date. I say take it, its not a cursed day or a day that people would behave differently other than maybe taking a moment to think about the 9-11 attacks. I would take this date without a doubt, its too perfect a fall date to pass up, especially if the venue you want has it available.

if anything it will be easier to remember the date and will give it a fonder memory.

mimideck · November 2009

Hi, The place where I want my reception has those two week-ends available as well.They have three halls and there is only one left on those days. I picked September 11th due to the other one was labor day week-end and people usually have family stuff going on. I don't see the big deal about it's significance to 9/11. Plus our wedding will be a Military wedding! Good Luck!

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