Bridal Party Table Dilemma

Tallync · April 2010

FH and I love the idea of a sweetheart table, but have an issue having a BP table. His best man and my bridesmaid were dating when we asked them to be in the wedding. They have since broken up on not so good terms. We asked them separately, not as a couple. They have both agreed to not bring a date in order to keep the peace and neither wants to back out of the wedding.

I don't want to make them sit at a table together, nor do I want to appear to favor one over the other or take sides. neither has put us in a difficult situation or made us pick sides, etc. We just don't want to make problems the day of or completely ignore a potential problem.

Oh, and our tables only sit 6 people and we LIMITED on space. Our venue only holds 80 people comfortably and we invited 95 (oops).

Any good solution?

emilyinchile · April 2010

Seat all of your WP members as you would normal guests ie. at a table with people they know and like. They don't all have to sit together.

emilykathleen511 · April 2010

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[QUOTE]FH and I love the idea of a sweetheart table, but have an issue having a BP table. His best man and my bridesmaid were dating when we asked them to be in the wedding. They have since broken up on not so good terms. We asked them separately, not as a couple. They have both agreed to not bring a date in order to keep the peace and neither wants to back out of the wedding. I don't want to make them sit at a table together, nor do I want to appear to favor one over the other or take sides. neither has put us in a difficult situation or made us pick sides, etc. We just don't want to make problems the day of or completely ignore a potential problem. Oh, and our tables only sit 6 people and we LIMITED on space. Our venue only holds 80 people comfortably and we invited 95 (oops). Any good solution?
Posted by Tallync[/QUOTE]

<div>Put the groomsmen and their dates at one table, and put the bridesmaids at another table with their dates. If that doesn't fill the table, just add in some other people that some of them know that would make sense for the table.</div>

Licia&Wayne · April 2010

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[QUOTE]Oh, and our tables only sit 6 people and we LIMITED on space. Our venue only holds 80 people comfortably and we invited 95 (oops). Any good solution?
Posted by Tallync[/QUOTE]

Um, this is going to make everyone uncomfortable, not just your WP.

Whippet8 · April 2010

we had a sweetheart table, and sat the bridal party as regular guests.

trix1223 · April 2010

There's a pretty easy solution to this. Don't have a WP table. Let your WP sit with friends/family at other tables instead of forcing them together.

Are you sure that your venue will allow you to have the 20% over capacity that you currently have? Most have fire code laws that don't permit that.

knj92107 · April 2010

We had a sweetheart table and then sat the bridal party like they were regular guests.

banana468 · April 2010

Well, I can't help you on the over-inviting thing. Prayer is really all I can recommend.

On the seating, just seat your WP amongst their mutual friends not in the WP. Problem solved.

SuMmErKuTiE · April 2010

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[QUOTE]we had a sweetheart table, and sat the bridal party as regular guests.
Posted by melko4886[/QUOTE]

<div>This is what we plan on doing as well. Our BP has already thanked us! </div>

Tallync · April 2010

Thanks for the responses! I like the idea of a bridesmaid table and a groomsman table. I think that's a pretty easy answer to keep them separate, but not obvious.

As for the over-inviting, it was partially done on purpose. We are sending invites to people we know are not going to be there. Some people who got save the dates made it a point to let me know they wouldn't have the money or the time (8 months in advance?!?) to be there. Etiquette dictated they get an invite anyways...

banana468 · April 2010

Etiquette did dictate that you invite them BUT if something comes up and they can make it, you're going to be doing some interesting dancing when you say, "But I thought you couldn't make it!"

Licia&Wayne · April 2010

I definitely agree with Banana. You're always setting yourself up for a guest list disaster when you invite too many people for your venue. I hope it works out like you think it will.

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