Display shower?

Re: Display shower?

• melissa721 member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  The poem might not be what you are looking for bc I think a display shower is typically when the gifts ARE brought to the shower but they are unwrapped. I googled display shower poem and I found one but it goes with bringing unwrapped gifts to the shower, not a picture of the gift.You're invited to a showerFor a lucky bride-to bePlease bring your gift unwrappedIt will displayed for all to seeWe hope that you can join usTo celebrate (brides's name) new lifeAs she and (FH name) prepareTo become husband and wife

  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

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• I <3 Seabass

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Yeah my friend's shower was like this because they live in CA but the shower was in NJ. But the invite didn't have a poem. It was pretty straight forward. Something along the lines of 'since the bride & groom reside in CA may we suggest having the gifts shipped to their home and bring a picture to show." Not exactly how it was worded but that was the general gist.

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• mbcdefg member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Definitely wasn't me because I am not at all a fan of this kind of shower. Sorry.

  

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• alliecarrie41 member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  bringing unwrapped is not my thing at all, but do you mean something different, like not bringing ANYTHING to shower except a picture?  i guess this is the same idea, but even LESS work for the bride to bring home things.   doesn't really make the guest feel like their gift is that important, no, by just telling them to bring a picture and ship the gift direct please?

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• kewltif member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I think in the case where the bride lives across the country like that, it really does make sense. When DH's cousin got married she lived in California and literally left all of her wedding gifts at her mom's house for like 3 years. I think I'd lose interest in my stuff and not even like half of it after 3 years. Another option would be a honeyfund or gift cards. I know there is "protocol" to things, but sometimes I think people need to lighten up and go with the flow. What's the point of me spending money on gifts that she can't physically take home?

  

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• jaimelody

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  It's not that the gift is not important, but rather spending time with our guests is more important. We don't get to see our familes - they aren't a car ride away... more like 18 hours. So we'd like to take the opportunity to socialize and have our families meet.

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• alliecarrie41 member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  i am all for changing the rules, as long as it doesnt offend anyone.  i know there'd be folks at my shower who'd think this was offensive and turn their noses up at the idea.  do i personally wish i didn't have to open all those gifts and bore my guests into drinking up a $500 bar tab?  why, sure.  i wish they did go with the flow.  it's hard to change these things...

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• uppereastgirl member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I agree with Allie.  Also, while it is nice that you want the families to meet, put yourself in your families' shoes -- your cousins probably don't care all that much about having ample time to talk to your FI's great aunts.  Close family should meet, but it isn't as important that the other people at your shower get to know each other.  Opening gifts may be painful, but I don't mind it because showers are often so awkward anyway, and it gives the guests who don't know many people some time that they don't have to be making small talk with people they don't know who they'll only ever really see at the wedding.

  

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• kewltif member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I think I have ADD or something because whenever I get an invitationt to a shower I practically break out in hives just thinking about having to attend. I dread them. So incredibly boring. I don't mind socializing and chit chat. I can live with quick gift opening, but I have been to showers where they have spent 1-2 hours opening gifts and I want to poke my eyes out with a fork. I think the best shower I ever went to was an extremely large one (like 90 people) and the mom (it was a baby shower) said, "I will be over here opening gifts, watch if you would like, but otherwise please mingle among yourselves." She spread the gift opening out throughout the whole party and only really close family felt inclined to sit around her, while everyone else ate and chatted. I was not in the least bit offended, because when she opened my gift she did grab my attention to thank me.

  

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• jaimelody

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I might just tell my mom to do the "please bring a picture rather than an actual gift" thing by word of mouth. It does make sense and I don't want to offend anyone. I guess part of the reasoning for a couples shower is wanting FI to be able to see his family and friends as well. Especially since I'm dragging him up that weekend be cause we're supposed to register for our marriage license and get fitted for tuxes.

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