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Invitation Questions

tb583tb583
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Over the weekend I designed my invites and inserts.  YAY!  I decided to write the names of those invited on the RSVP cards so there is no question about exactly who is invited.  Ater I had all of the RSVP cards designed and saved to pdf (not printed yet) I realized that I put the man's name first on all of them, but when you address invitations the woman's name should be first unless it is a husband and wife with the same last name.  Am I overthinking this or should I go back and change all of them so the woman's name is first?Also, I know the proper way to address invitations (Mr. and Mrs. X), but did anyone decide to use names in lieu of titles?  It feels weird addressing my 20 some year old married friends as Mr and Mrs when that's what I refer to their parents as.  Thanks!
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Re: Invitation Questions

  • hollsmvhollsmv member
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    edited December 2011
    I am a traditionalist so I used the Mr and Mrs. such-and-such even for my bestest of friends.  If they are unmarried couple I put Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Jane Lastname and put whoever I was closest friends with first. I've never heard of a woman going first, so can't really help with that.  
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  • hughe046hughe046
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    edited December 2011
    I agree- and I think it's fun and adds a bit of formality to it!!
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  • hrparkerhrparker
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    edited December 2011
    OP is correct.Traditional etiquette (read: Emily Post etiquette) dictates that in an unmarried couple (and in married couples in which the spouses do not share a last name), the woman's name is listed first.FWIW, I'm not a fan of following a sexist tradition just for traditions sake, so we didn't follow that rule.  We addressed our invites to couples with different last names (married or unmarried) by the putting the person we were closest with first.As for the Mr. and Mrs. thing, I didn't have a problem feeling like I was addressing someones parents because we didn't just put Mr. and Mrs. Doe - we included the parties' first names as well.  And as for the Mr. and Mrs.  John Doe thing (blech!), I nixed that or the same anti-sexist reasons.  We did Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe - Emily Post be damned.  ;)ETA: OP, even with all I said, if you've already done all the work, I don't think anyone is going to think less of you because you "messed up" something so trivial, so don't worry about it.  If it's going to bother YOU, however, go ahead and fix it.
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  • onlymelsonlymels member
    500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Nobody is going to pay that much attention the date and place of your wedding is going to be the only thing your guests will pay attention to thats all they are going to remember.
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