You know it's really over when...

Re: You know it's really over when...

• 6fsn member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I'm sorry stephi.  To reiterate everyone else- YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING.  It will be hard, but please be strong.

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• Future Mrs Butterworth member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  a) I'm sorry, but you're doing the right thingb) ::snort:: @ YOU ARE UNFRIENDED. UN. FRIENDED.

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• ~~Busy.~~ member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  my own sister unfriended me last month.  It sucks but you're better off.

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• Stephileigh84

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Sure as hell doesn't feel like it right now.

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• Future Mrs Butterworth member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  You should call up some friends. BFF was with her H for 10 years and he just walked out one day. She's strong but needed people and her parents especially the first few months.

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• **O-Face** member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Yep.  A good support system will make worlds of difference.  And you'll know the kind of support I'm talking about when you're in the presence.

  

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• Schmoopita member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Lean on people close to you, that's what they're for. I don't think I could have gotten thru my divorce without my family. They were my lifeline.I think it's funny that you break up and the first thing his family does is 'unfriend' you. Take THAT!

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• MandaGwenen member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  When I broke up with my ex FI,  I spent the next few days with my 4 best friends...watching movies, being silly...it made a world of difference. Keep your head up, sweetie. It may not seem like it now, but it WILL get better. I wouldn't have met and married the love of my life if I hadn't dumped the loser I was with before him.

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• jessjo04 member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Gah. I see where he gets his maturity from. ::eyeroll::

  

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• VarunaTT member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I really can't imagine what you're going through.  All I can tell you is to hold on to what the future image of your life was going to be like.  A husband who labeled everything "mine" and "yours"?  and you pay for "yours"?  Were you going to split the costs of childcare?  Cable?  What about pets?  Utilities?  Was he going to let you watch "his" blu-rays?  Being called a wench when he didn't get his way (BTW, my DH gasped out loud when I fed him that tidbit.  Name calling is never right, even though it might happen).

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• L_Woods member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I haven't really responded to any posts until now, mostly because I have never been married, so I couldn't really answer. I have, however, been through the break-up like this. Most people on here know that it took me a long, long time to heal, but friends made all the difference (hopefully you have a non-sucky family so they can help too). Honestly, these women helped a lot too - whenever I needed the "did I do the right thing?" reality check, they were here to give it to me. Anyway, if you need to vent, we're here. If you need to hear about others going through the same thing, we're here too. If you really just want to laugh at dumb beebees, we've got that too.

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• alikatt17 member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I'm so sorry.

  

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• Stephileigh84

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Yeah, I could use a little of all of that right now.I'm just hoping when I go home that he's already gone.

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• nicoleg1982 member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I hope he's not home, too. I suggest taking a friend home with you. Get pizza, beer and cookie dough and just veg for a while. It'll help keep the evening from being 110% depressing. Just make sure you don't pick up this new friend at a bar, after 32 tequila shots. Mkay?

  

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• Future Mrs Butterworth member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I 2nd the pizza beer and cookie dough, and throw in funny cheesy movies, or horror if thats more your thing.

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• Stephileigh84

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  Yeah, I wish I could call in sick to work... I work evenings and all my friends work day shifts... : (

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• jessjo04 member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  And cuddle with your cute dog. I know my dogs have gotten me through many tough times. They will listen Speaking of, where did the doggie picture go?

  

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• GBCK member

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  It also tells you that 1-he's not interested in getting this fixed (note, telling your mom about the problem = not interested in getting it fixed.  If I call up my momma and tell her all the things that irritate me about the Mr, she's on my side (duh, 'cuz she's my mom)...and then when the Mr. and I patch things up , she's still stuck w/ this bag of grudges against him.  You don't tell mom if you're going to get back together because it irreprably damages relationships)2-He's letting mommy fight his battles for him.

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• Stephileigh84

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I dunno where my doggie picture disappeared to!

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• MinM

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I promise you will laugh about this one day. As for now....here is a xanax. You are allowed to take the whole thing. Take a nap. That is what Don Draper would want you to do.

  

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• Stephileigh84

  

  November 2009 edited December 2011

  I'm gonna need you to send that express pls... thnx.

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