Guest attire request

princesskittie · November 2009

Hello fellow brides. How do I make it clear on my invitations that all guests should wear black? Or perhaps I should just say "Black Attire Requested." But, I'm really adamant that they do it, so it's not particularly a request.

betrothed123 · November 2009

No. You can't do it. It's incredibly rude. If I was a guest I'd wear hot pink just to piss you off if you made that request.

Night_Sprite · November 2009

You can't. You will look like a jerk. They won't listen.

pumpkinpumpkin · November 2009

you can't tell your guests what to wear. Not unless you're holding your reception at a venue with a dress code. In which you put on the reception card "dress code in effect". I'm curious why you want your guests to wear black? Although I'm sure you're not going to respond.

NicoleSahara · November 2009

Troll day isn't until Friday. And you're coming on too strong.

arbolita · November 2009

Wow. You're so hardcore and edgy!

princesskittie · November 2009

I don't mean to come off as a 'jerk', but this is my party. I am paying quite a bit of money to have those guests attend, so I feel it is not unreasonable to make a small request such as this.

ac_in_dc · November 2009

Unless you're Martha Stewart, you're not allowed to tell your guests what to wear.

Nik1202 · November 2009

Her siggy pic looks like a gothic Kirsten Dunst

ac_in_dc · November 2009

Oops, I mean, you're allowed to tell them what to wear, but it's considered rude to do so.

BecW2be · November 2009

You can't dictate what your guests wear. Repeat that to yourself. It's incredibly rude.How adamant are you? Are you going to scout out any offenders and make them leave? Or just dump black paint on them as they enter the ceremony location?

princesskittie · November 2009

pumpkinpumpkin- we are requesting the black because it is supposed to be an 'All Black Wedding'. It will not look right if people show up in bright, flowery, silly prints and things normally worn at a wedding.

tidetravel · November 2009

You don't get to dictate what adults wear, unless they're in your wedding party. How exactly do you plan on enforcing this dress code?

kdcwedding · November 2009

Yeah....just no.

lyndausvi · November 2009

"Black Attire Required" would make it clear. Does not mean they will listen though.

pumpkinpumpkin · November 2009

Ok, then put, "in lieu of gifts, please dress in black attire". 99% of your guests are also spending money for your event.

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · November 2009

Um, you're paying that amount of money to thank them for celebrating with you. It's not an honor to spend the day with you, contrary to your high self-opinion. That being said, it's rude to tell people what to wear. I would purposefully wear something different or not attend. I haven't been told what to wear since I was about 4.

betrothed123 · November 2009

I am paying quite a bit of money to have those guests attend, so I feel it is not unreasonable to make a small request such as this.Well you think wrong. It is completely unreasonable. If you honestly think that the amount of money you're spending allows you to be a rude hostess, then spend less money.

TeresaLovesDave · November 2009

No no no no no

nicoleabrock · November 2009

Look at the siggy pic- that should help everyone determine why she wants her guests to dress in black unless that is a halloween costume. And to answer your question, you could put "Black Attire Requested" but be prepared to have people be offended and for people to not follow your request. You can't really play dress up with your guests.

pumpkinpumpkin · November 2009

an all-black wedding, huh. Did you get this idea from the "all white wedding" post below? How original.

Night_Sprite · November 2009

Your sig code is bad.And no. If you are so selfish that you feel people can't come to your party or your pretty princess day or your nasty gothic deep day without lip piercings and black eyeliner you shouldn't be having a wedding. The wedding is about your family. The marriage is about you.

skippylouwho · November 2009

I don't wear black so it would be a huge request to me and either would attend wearing something else or I wouldn't attend.

Brie2010 · November 2009

Troll.

Kati0105 · November 2009

Did you get this idea from the "all white wedding" post below? How original.P2, she actually dissed the All White Wedding poster (who, by the way, was not planning on committing a serious etiquette breach, unlike you OP).

HilaryH1231 · November 2009

...why would you want your guests to wear all black? Are you worried they won't look formal in any other color? If you want a formal/black tie wedding, the formality of the invitation should dictate that just fine. But it's definitely rude to require your guests to wear a certain color/outfit. If I were told that, I might wear a flowered muumuu out of spite.

ring_pop · November 2009

What happens if someone shows up in hot pink then? Are you hiring a bouncer?

nicoleabrock · November 2009

OR you could buy all of the black outfits for every guests and have them ready to wear at the reception.

TeresaLovesDave · November 2009

Also, are you going to "request" that your guests leave if they show up in something other than all-black attire?

ffmaid · November 2009

To many people wearing black at a wedding is a sign of disappoval of the bride. It is old fasshioned but a reason why many people will not wear black. If you say Black attire requested people will think you did a horrible edit job amd mean black tie attire and will show up in long gowns in lovely colors like silver or blue or red. What you propose is rude. If you mainly want props do not invite people and insead hire a cast from a local theatrical group. The reception is your thank you to the guests and is about teh guests not about you. This is being a horrible hostes

princesskittie · November 2009

How is it different than someone having a 'White Party'? I see these often in the summer, where all guests are requested to wear all white to a simple party. This is a bigger event than a simple summer party.

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