Guest attire request

3plus2=5 · November 2009

That sounds dreadful!

mandapanda78 · November 2009

Just have your wedding in total darkness. That way you can't see what anyone is wearing anyway! Problem solved.

betrothed123 · November 2009

OR you could buy all of the black outfits for every guests and have them ready to wear at the reception.This is the only way I'd even consider complying (yet would still be incredibly tacky and rude), and my closet is full of black.

salt78 · November 2009

Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

Nik1202 · November 2009

She's pk-diddy!

3plus2=5 · November 2009

I would also tell the hosts of those all white parties that they were being rude as well. I don't discriminate.

Kati0105 · November 2009

It will not look right if people show up in bright, flowery, silly prints and things normally worn at a wedding.Nothing will look "silly" in comparison to what you are having your groom wear. Just sayin'

hccpsu · November 2009

"It's my party" doesn't play when you're six, let alone as an adult.You can request it, but be prepared for some people to ignore your request, or not attend because they don't like being told what to wear.

goheels05 · November 2009

Love your wedding dress in your bio.

pumpkinpumpkin · November 2009

i've never heard of a white party. But ffmaid - if I read "black attire requested", I most certainly would NOT assume they meant black tie. But, i know how to read.

betrothed123 · November 2009

How is it different than someone having a 'White Party'? I see these often in the summer, where all guests are requested to wear all white to a simple party. This is a bigger event than a simple summer party. This would be just as rude in my opinion. It is not your place to tell your guests what to wear, no matter what type of party you are throwing, or how much you're dropping on that party.

lilgina64 · November 2009

Why do you want your FH to look like a vampire at the wedding? I know it's trendy right now but isn't the point of being "goth" to be different and unaccepted by society...does anyone know of that south park episode that has the twilight obssessed kids vs the goth kids? Ya I kinda feel like this will turn out like that.btw- don't dictate to anyone what they wear. it's rude. You are not P Diddy's evil twin.

Night_Sprite · November 2009

I'd come. I'd come and wear this:[img]http://www.magicinfairyland.com.au/images/rainbow%20fairy%20dress%20back.jpg[/img]

Soon-to-be Mrs. Vogt · November 2009

LOL, Manda. You should be her wedding coordinator, that's a PERFECT solution

Catwoman708 · November 2009

You DON'T! Because it's considered rude to dictate what guests wear. But what you can do is tell those that ask what they should wear, that if they want to wear black, it would be fun for you. Or have a wedding website, and put that guests are welcomed and encouraged to wear black, if they want, but that it's totally optional. You would put the wedding website address on save-the-dates, included in shower invitations, or on a small card inserted in with the wedding invitations. Anything other than that would be out of line.

princesskittie · November 2009

For the record, I would not turn anyone away for not complying.I do understand what some of you have said. I can not force my ideas upon others. I will simply request the black attire.Thank you goheels- it is not my dress yet, but just an inspirational idea.

salt78 · November 2009

One day when you're a grownup, you will look back on all this and think...wtf was I thinking?

kate51485 · November 2009

Yeah, when you said below that you shouldn't butt in...that thought should have carried over to creating a new thread, too. There is a BIG difference between an "all white party" (the last one of those I heard of was in college and involved foam and black lights, anyway) and a wedding.

ffmaid · November 2009

OP do it and invite Night Sprite just so we can all see pictures of her in that rainbow bright fairy costume dress. Night Sprite that is both hideous and awesome I know several 3 year olds who would be gaga for that dress

tidetravel · November 2009

Ironic that this bio popped up in the last 10 minutes... hmmm...

princesskittie · November 2009

Night-Sprite: I actually find that a fun dress... for a different occasion

I do realize some of you might find my ideas not to your liking. A black wedding is not for everyone.To whomever asked about the 'vampire' look for my groom- it's not vampire-like to me. I simply like the style of the gray shirt in the picture.

vicmo5 · November 2009

OP, you are so cool I can hardly stand it.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

P2 has a good point. People are already probably traveling and buying you a gift. It sounds weird, but some people will have to go buy a new outfit for this too. Maybe they only have casual clothes in black. In high school I had to attend a funeral and, oddly, I didn't have anything black that fit and was appropriate. So I wore a dark purple velour mock turtleneck and a dark purple satiny skirt with dark purple flowers. Yeah, some people have to buy new outfits for weddings, but unless they are in the WP, they expect to be able to reuse it.I've never noticed if the guests fit in with the "theme" and setting of a wedding before. If I show up at Disneyland or at a haunted house or something and I'm in street clothes, no one thinks it looks odd.

Pirata13 · November 2009

Yeah, spreading word of mouth that black attire is welcome is best. That's what we're doing. We are doing an Old Hollywood theme and the BM dresses are black. My aunt was like "Oh, there goes me wearing the great little black dress I have..." and I told her wear it by all means, that I'd love if people wore black, black & white, etc. But if my friend wants to wear ruby red, it's going to look awesome and I'm not going to shriek that she ruined "MY day"!!!!

[Deleted User] · November 2009

I'm new here, so I probably shouldn't butt in, but that sounds dreadful.

ootmother2 · November 2009

You're wearing a black wedding gown as well?I suggest that you grow out your teenage goth stage before your wedding.Yes,I am saying that your wedding gown is ugly

princesskittie · November 2009

salt78- I am 28.. I think I am grown up enough to know what I like. I have been the way I am for 15 years.tidetravel- I created my bio this week. I had not included it properly in my signature when I first created the post- I forgot to close the link.

BecW2be · November 2009

I can't believe your FI owns that sig pic suit and is marrying a woman. Not that I'm against that, I'm just surprised, that's all. Everlasting darkness and anxst to you both! (?)

ac_in_dc · November 2009

Catwoman's suggestion was pretty reasonable. If you go any further than that you're definitely being rude.Your attitude about spending a lot of money on your guests is misplaced. Your guests will be spending money, and more importantly time, to go to a location of your choosing at a time of your choosing to watch you get married. They do this because they care about you and want to wish you well. They are not your props, and you are not entitled to tell them what to wear. It's your job to be good to them and keep them well fed and comfortable, it's not their job to look good.

goheels05 · November 2009

Thank you goheels- it is not my dress yet, but just an inspirational idea.Oh, well I hope you're able to find something very similar. Surprisingly Maggie Sottero has some like it, though I think hers are more of a black cherry color then the one you have pictured.

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