What are you buying your fiance?

edellis · May 2011

Ladies, my wedding is July 24, 2011, and I really need your help. I can't figure out what to buy my fiance for his wedding present. He doesn't wear jewelry, watches, cuff links, etc. He is a huge Pittsburgh Steelers fan but already has a room full of memorabillia.

Some people have recommended sexy lingerie or boudoir pictures, but i'm not sure what I think about that. I don't want him thinking something like that s crappy lol.

Anyway, what are you buying your husband to be? hopefully, it will spark some ideas for me

Calypso1977 · May 2011

we paid for our own wedding and honeymoon. we didnt exchange gifts as we felt teh wedding and trip was gift enough to each other.

[Deleted User] · May 2011

We didn't exchange gifts either. We paid for our wedding and HM ourselves. The HM was our splurge and that was good enough for both of us. I just couldn't see myself doing the boudoir pics.

edellis · May 2011

i think boudoir pics and the like might be a little tacky as well. this lady at the jewelry store told me that guys really like that kind of thing b/c it boosts their ego esepcially when their guy friends see it. i would be kind of embarassed actually b/c that's more of a private thing. i couldn't imagine how i'd feel about my fiance looking at boudoir pictures while my dad or his dad is in the same room.

plus our birthdays are 1 month before the wedding! so this is making it kind of hard.

Cynthia1207 · May 2011

It's not an obligation to exchange gifts. We're not doing it because honestly I'd rather spend the money on the HM either by eating at a more expensive restaurant or doing some excursion of some sort. The best gift IMO is memories you make together. Those are priceless.

aegrish · May 2011

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[QUOTE]we paid for our own wedding and honeymoon. we didnt exchange gifts as we felt teh wedding and trip was gift enough to each other.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

same here.

aegrish · May 2011

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[QUOTE]We didn't exchange gifts either. We paid for our wedding and HM ourselves. The HM was our splurge and that was good enough for both of us. <strong>I just couldn't see myself doing the boudoir pics.
</strong>Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

ahh I totally agree with you adn Edellis! It seems like EVERY photographer offers or encourages them now and it wierds me out.

edellis · May 2011

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What are you buying your fiance? : ahh I totally agree with you adn Edellis! It seems like EVERY photographer offers or encourages them now and it wierds me out.
Posted by aegrish[/QUOTE]

I just can't see myself posing like that in front of some random photographer. I just think it's a tacky gift. Btw, I love your picture!

kristeno90 · May 2011

We are going to write letters to each other to read before the ceremony. Our wedding and HM are our gifts to eachother as well.

lmod738 · May 2011

I'll be the odd one out... I'm doing boudoir photography pics. My photographer is a woman and I've seen her work. I'm not doing fully nude. I think it's a nice gift for the man away from home for long periods of time. I'd rather him look at me than magazines. For a deployed soldier, I'm sure they would definitely appreciate it. What man would look at sexy photos of you and think " Oh, that's so tacky." Yeah right...

firsttimersluck · May 2011

The general consensus is that it's an outdated tradition, as most couples now pay for their own weddings (or at least some of it).
Sit down and talk to him about it. My FI and I aren't exchanging gifts at all and are totally okay with it, our marriage is our gift.

jemmini6 · May 2011

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[QUOTE]we paid for our own wedding and honeymoon. we didnt exchange gifts as we felt teh wedding and trip was gift enough to each other.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

This. Plus we are getting married in November and then Christmas is right around the corner, so I'll probably just try to get him an extra special Christmas present.

Murfle11 · May 2011

I'm giving my FI a dog. I know that's a bit odd, but we both really miss having dogs, since we have been in college for the past 4 years =p

The reason for saying that: Is there something that he's wanted and for some reason or another hasn't been able to get? I know what you mean when you say "He doesn't wear cufflinks, watches, etc" because those things really are going out of style. Is there maybe that new Blu Ray player, speakers for his car or the house, or a TV? Or going cheaper: upgrading his phone, or getting some tools or something useful for his job. If he's the sentimental type, you can do something that was special from your first date or from when he proposed.

Allycat11 · May 2011

I'm planning to do boudoir photos for FI, but I will be giving him them in private and I know he is not the type to go bragging to friends with them...he respects that they are private.

I am also booking a '57 chevy limo to take us to the airport for our honeymoon...keeping this a surprise really blows. He saw it on a website and loved it but it is too small for our wedding party the day of.

mparwulski · May 2011

We're not exchanging gifts because we're paying for our own wedding. But, if we did, my FI isn't into watches, etc. either. Electronics though, yes. There's a reason why Costco puts all of the flat screens and PCs in the front of the store.

Milsey32 · May 2011

I didn't bother reading the replies, sorry.

If you change your mind about 'boudoir photos' they don't have to be raunchy... you could have photos taken of you in a Steelers jersey or something.

And/or what about a gift certificate he could be use -- a round of golf? a massage? football tickets?

novaofsweden · May 2011

My fiancee doesn't normally wear jewelry but I am making him a dog tag necklace in sterling silver that I am hand stamping with a phrase that is very special to us. Since I am a metalsmith (as a hobby) it's an easy and not very expensive gift for me.

I am trying to come up with ideas for you.. Maybe just writing a love letter is enough. I know that I would take that over a store bought generic gift.

SuMmErKuTiE · May 2011

I did boudoir pics for my H and it was definitely not a "tacky" gift. It was a private gift for his eyes only and it's something he can hold on to forever and look back and remember how I looked when we got married when we're old and gray. If anything, I think the typical cufflinks, watch, etc.. are tacky because it's like there wasn't much thought put into it.

I was super nervous for the b-pics session, but after I got through the 1st outfit change I started to have a lot of fun and am so glad I did it and DH loves the pictures a lot more than a watch or cufflinks...

firsttimersluck · May 2011

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[QUOTE]. Electronics though, yes. There's a reason why Costco puts all of the flat screens and PCs in the front of the store.
Posted by mparwulski[/QUOTE]

bahahahha... sooo true. my FI has like .. a magnetic field with electronics he can't NOT go to them, especially in costco

zazelle · May 2011

I'm getting him two things... mainly because I wanted something he could show off to people, and something that would be kept private:

1. a pocket watch engraved with his initials on front and a message on the back. It's a really nice one - silver and rhodium - from Charles Huburt Paris

2. a book of boudoir photos of me

As an engagement gift, I got him a Mac Mini. He's a software engineer, so it was perfect for him.

krusso24 · May 2011

Your wedding day is my 30th birthday! I will be sending you good vibes! I am getting my fiance a watch (a pretty nice one, since his bday is the week before our wedding)...and I gave him cufflinks and studs for an engagement gift.

He nevers wears jewelry (and he works with his hands so I don't know if the wedding ring thing is going to work out really) and never gets to dress up...but he loves it when a special occasion comes around and really likes to do it up right...so since our engagement and wedding are special occasions, I gave him special occasion-y kinds of gifts...

You might be surprised that a watch or something similar will make him really happy...

libbyloutoo · May 2011

We weren't going to exchange gifts because we are paying for the wedding ourselves, but I ended up getting him a bottle of cologne that he has been eyeballing for a while and I will be writing him a letter as well.

Whatever you get, it doesn't need to expensive or flashy, just something that you put a little thought into that he will appreciate

Lisa50 · May 2011

I am not buying anything for my fiance. We're hosting the wedding and reception ourselves, which is more than enough money to spend on the whole she-bang.

I began writing a love letter to him several months ago and add to it from time to time. I plan to give it to him the morning of our wedding.

Missy5580 · May 2011

We didn't exchange gifts at our wedding. The day was special enough I may mixed feelings about boudoir pics. It's not something you can display somewhere. Where would he keep them? In his sock drawer, it just seems like a waste of money to me.

mandi921vh · May 2011

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[QUOTE]We didn't exchange gifts at our wedding. The day was special enough I may mixed feelings about boudoir pics. It's not something you can display somewhere. <strong>Where would he keep them?</strong> In his sock drawer, it just seems like a waste of money to me.
Posted by Missy5580[/QUOTE]

<div>I was thinking this too, plus what if someone found them by accident or something...?</div>

katheriner89 · May 2011

My gift to FI is paying for the whole trip up to NY (his home town) two weekends before the wedding so he can have an awesome bachelor party. All of this friends live up there- so I think a memories and photos of his bachelor party will be wayy better than photos of me or cufflinks. He's excited.

btw, not all FI's would like B photos.. mine wouldn't like them. In his words "he'd rather see me naked in person and save some money" so that whole thing varies.
although, i'm thinking about doing my own little trial B shoot one afternoon with my handy dandy digital camera.

maybe take some cute photos of yourself with a steelers jersey on or something else he likes.

Good luck!

McHotts · May 2011

We're giving housing projects, albeit small-ish ones. We each got to pick something we wanted to do around the house that is not on the top of the list of importance, but that we would really like to see done.

For example, I have wanted a potrack and a wine serving area put in our kitchen since we started looking at houses. He wants to re-do the stairs that go up our hill in the backyard (oh, the joys of a two level yard!).It might be a little lame, but for us, it works; we get time together, projects completed that would normally get put off, a happy spouse and a good memory in your home of this awesome time!

SuMmErKuTiE · May 2011

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[QUOTE]btw, not all FI's would like B photos.. mine wouldn't like them. In his words "he'd rather see me naked in person and save some money" so that whole thing varies. although, i'm thinking about doing my own little trial B shoot one afternoon with my handy dandy digital camera. maybe take some cute photos of yourself with a steelers jersey on or something else he likes. Good luck!
Posted by katheriner89[/QUOTE]

<div>Any guy who has ever picked up a magazine such as Maxim or Stuff will love the idea of b-pics because it's not only sexy pictures but it's sexy pictures of their new wife! Someone he actually gets to have and love. I've never heard of a guy not liking b-pics. A lot of girls on my local did them and always got amazing reactions from their husbands. </div><div>
</div><div>You then go on to contradict yourself and say that your FI doesn't like them, but you're going to go the home made route anyway... professional b-pics are worth it because you'll have professional hair and makeup, lighting, and a photographer telling you how to pose and what looks the best. They also do touch ups like in the magazines. It was such a great experience! </div>

katelyn26 · May 2011

im buying mine a gun hes wanted the whole time weve been dating...its $500 but will be well worth it...also sort of a welcome home gift from his deployment

Pickles48 · May 2011

It's understandable that some women wouldn't want to do B pics. As for myself, I think I will have them taken, since our first few years of marriage will be filled with deployments. I trust him to keep them private and I know he would love to have them.
I like others' ideas of having picture taken in a Steelers jersey! It could be fun and sexy without feeling at all raunchy.

Ghoti · May 2011

I did B pics, just as much for him as for myself. I have a DSLR and a background in photography though, and had the images made into a leather bound book. He likes it, he's got it tucked away somewhere and lets me know when he looks at it

Plus, when I'm like, 80 and saggy, I want to be able to look back and see what a hottie I was

aaand I don't believe that a guy wouldn't want a book of sexy classy photos of his wife. Or maybe thats just not the type of guy I'd ever be attracted to.

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