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Poll: What would you do?

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You rec'd a call that your grandfather was rushed to the hospital and it was time to say goodbye.  You call in to work and explain what is happening.

When you return to work, your boss of 4 months says she didn't approve of your time off and you're being overly dramatic and the man is "just your grandfather".  You are sent home for the day and there is a meeting scheduled for Monday morning to discuss your future.

My main question is how would you react if your boss tells you you're being dramatic and that the dying person is no big deal?

OP:  http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/52264516.aspx

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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Um, I would disagree wholeheartedly and tell them so.  What a callous statement!
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd file a complaint against her with her boss or HR or whoever I could. That's inexcusable. 

    There are probably also laws about this sort of situation (because what *isn't* there a damn law about?), so if I could, I would use those to my advantage to penalize her in some way. 
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd march straight over to HR and file a complaint.
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  • dharmabunnydharmabunny member
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    edited December 2011
    I'd be figthing mad, for sure.  And polishing up the old resume.

    I'd take it straight to the HR body involved and document the s*** out of every word and report from that meeting or any interaction from her.  Reading some of the things that bosslady is pulling, she's teetering dangerously close to pregnancy discrimination. 

    But I'm guessing that if boss lady had a close relative or parent on their deathbed, it's a completely different thing all together and totally justifiable.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    considering i nearly took the day off because my breastpump died, i would probably go down to the garage and slash her tires before i went to hr.  and i already know what bereavement covers.
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  • AuntFloAuntFlo member
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    edited December 2011
    After reading this post on WW, my reaction was that her boss is a biotch, BUT after reading the OP, I think this girl is probably flighty and a PITA and her boss was looking for any reason to fire her.

    This:
    background: i have worked for the past four months for a small early learning center. the agreement has always been my baby would have free child care and i would keep my job.

    Makes me wonder what was in it for the employer?   I'm sure they were losing money on this woman.  
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  • AuntFloAuntFlo member
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    edited December 2011
    Hit post too soon...

    And how did they get out of their current apartment so easily?   Who makes decisions like this in a matter of 2 days?   Flighty, I tell you - and the employer is better off without her.
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  • Paulo's Menina BelaPaulo's Menina Bela member
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    Ditto going to HR! WTF!
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    This is such a strange story. She doesn't even attempt to fight her boss, doesn't wait for the meeting, and goes out and getsca new apartment an hour away overnight? Basically she did the opposite of everything I'd have done.
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  • AuntFloAuntFlo member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_poll-would?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:c49a23e9-5179-4295-be32-535aebbcf719Post:7c019003-4e74-49d3-ad3c-32681263d860">Re: Poll: What would you do?</a>:
    [QUOTE]This is such a strange story. She doesn't even attempt to fight her boss, doesn't wait for the meeting, and goes out and getsca new apartment an hour away overnight? Basically she did the opposite of everything I'd have done.
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    Yep.   I don't think she's telling us the whole story.  
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  • tawillerstawillers member
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    edited December 2011
    I realize that *her* actions are odd.

    I was just wondering if I was the only one who would file a complaint/bitchslap my boss for telling my my dying relative shouldn't mean so much to me.  I would have zero desire to continue working for this person and I'd want to take her down.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    td and af -- you two with your "two sides to every story" way of thinking.
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  • AuntFloAuntFlo member
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    edited December 2011
    hmo- you'll have that with me.
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    I've worked with enough idiots to agree that there is another side to this story.  I know there are some terrible bosses out there, but there are also lots and lots of really terrible employees.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011

    Just reading what taw wrote made me think the employee sucked as much as the bosses statement. 

    I would have gone over the person's head or gone to HR.

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  • navychicanavychica
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    edited December 2011
    In the military, you can only get emergency leave for an immediate family member- parent, sibling, spouse, child.  That's it.  If operationally feasible, the commander may approve you to visit a sick grandparent, but it's up to his/her discretion.  I have far less sympathy than the rest of you lol.  

    Toward the afternoon, when it looked like the grandfather might pull through, she should have called to speak directly to the boss.  She does sound flaky, and I'm positive there were other reasons behind this.
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  • jlrowelljlrowell
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    edited December 2011
    omg!... bitches.... file a complaint with hr and id call your local news station if they do fire you and they can do a story on how your company fired you bc of a death in your family - im sorry about your grandpa
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