Uninvited Guests!

kmcillece771 · January 2012

I have a few friends who decided to RSVP a guest to our wedding. I'm extremely frustrated because their invite did not indicate that they could bring someone else. If I let all my sorority sisters/friends invite their boyfriends/friend.... it would be wwwaaayyy too expensive for us. I just can't believe people are so rude in thinking they can just invite someone who isn't invited, seriously?!

What are you girls doing with uninvited guests? Are you just letting it slide or are you confronting them? - thanks

thatguyhasmyname · January 2012

I would confront them.

My guests who are in a relationship that I did not know about, I will probably let them come. However, No singles and their "dates". Not happening!

cyparks · January 2012

I actually had an uncle RSVP with not 1 guest, but 3! Ha! I had to let him know that that was not happening! I say confront them...especially if it is at all like my situation where if I let my uncle do it, other relatives who did not receive a 'Plus 1' would think it's okay for them too...Good luck though! It isn't easy, but it is worth it :-)

cmac3504 · January 2012

We haven't sent out our invitations yet so I obviously haven't received any RSVPs... but we only gave guests where it seemed like they may not know anyone else or if everyone else in that "group" had a date. Plus we asked all single WP members if they would bring anyone. Only 1 of 5 single BM/GM accepted. Anyway..... my family and I are already expecting some people to come back with +1s and people are already assigned to make the unfortunate call to tell them no. hah Sounds mean, but it's mostly just younger family and friends that I don't talk to ever... and I agree with you.. it's rude and obnoxious that they feel it's ok to invite someone when they're NOT invited!

bdgrl73 · January 2012

So far I haven't received any additional guests, I have been contacted about "are my kids invited", and today, I was just asked, "if I come, please DON"T sit me with xyz person" really, people, it's just dinner, deal and move away!!! But I completely feel your pain....

mary1217 · January 2012

We have had one person RSVP for more than who was invited. Two were invited, a FI's friend and her FI - she rsvp'd for 3 - but it only had her name and I think the other 2 are her kids. FI has to call her and see who the 3 is and explain that it is adults only.

ccostello03 · January 2012

I am going through the same issue and it's ANNOYING! I can't believe the nerve of some people. I just found out my cousin's boyfriend went out and bought an outfit for our wedding. Nowhere on the invitation was his name listed. I'm planning on confronting her about it. You have to draw the line somewhere.

mrsmustard12 · January 2012

I'm kind of playing it by ear. I'm not letting people bring random dates but if I didn't know they were dating someone then I let it slide. So far I've only had an issue with someone wanting to bring their kid. It's not a "no kids" wedding but won't you have more fun if you don't bring her? (She's 6) and she'll just be bored.

stahlkc · January 2012

I haven't even sent out my invites and I'm already having this issue. I spoke with one of my good friends today and she informed me (not asked...informed) that she was going to bring someone. She doesn't have the invite yet, so I can see how she might not have known, but I remember telling her that I am not letting single friends bring dates. It was irritating and I told her that her invitation only has her name on it, but sadly I gave in and said ok. I won't be so nice with others though....

brittandjp · January 2012

If someone is in a relationship, I think they are definitely entitled to bring a guest. I think it's more rude for a bride/groom to only invite half of a couple. I'd be floored if JP got an invite to a wedding and I wasn't allowed to come.

That being said, we only gave a plus 1 to those that were in relationships, and this did not include a "flavor of the week" if you will. There are a few guests that date and bang a new girl every other week, and those sort of dates are not invited. Plus, we wrote both names for the couples in the hopes to eliminate this issue. Therefore, not one of our invitations said Mr. John Smith plus guest.

However, I did have two friends ask to bring their boyfriends. One, I just didn't think they'd last, so we didn't invite him. They've now been together for a few months. The other is a friend from childhood who lives on the East coast and I didn't realize that her and her long term boyfriend were back together. I told both of them yes (so I guess my count is now up to 205?). However, two very single guests RSVPed with a plus 1. I had to politely tell them that we just didn't have the space or money to accommodate every single person with a plus one. They seemed fine with it.

Good luck!

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