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Here comes some RSVP nonsense... (PIP)

shadow0304shadow0304
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Ah yes, here we go... people are writing notes on the RSVP cards. Most are entertaining, but then there's this one we got today... still doesn't outdo what Brandi shared, and I hope this is the worst of it. Please note the arrows...

The back request...



And finally, actually a funny one from FI's dad..."+ pizza" (he told him about late night snacks):



FI asked me why I was a "kid hater" because I said uh no kids. At all.
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  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    the pizza thing makes me laugh.  I am definitely dreading that part of the RSVP situation, calling people to tell them that no, their children cannot attend.
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  • crhein26crhein26 member
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    edited December 2011
    It really is sad that people can be so oblivious to how expensive weddings are.  Do they not understand that most people are paying at the least $35 per person for dinner and you have to pay for liquor even if they are under 21?  Ummm let me see...can you bring your oldest daughter?  That would be a NO!

    You will love this one...I just heard this story about my FI's cousin.  He sent in his RSVP no to a wedding.  The bride called to ask why he wasn't coming and he said because his kids weren't invited.  (His kids are twin 3 year old boys by the way).  The bride said "Oh we really want you to be here...you can bring them."  The 3 year olds preceeded to run all over the place at the wedding and FI's cousins proceeded to let them.  Needless to say, said cousin will be invited to our wedding but will not be coming because his MONSTER children will not be welcome!  I too am a "kid hater."  :) 

    Good luck on the rest of your RSVP's!
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  • mybestfriendsfuturemrsmybestfriendsfuturemrs member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh goodness! Funny to an extent.  Good luck!
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  • *Rebecca and Chris**Rebecca and Chris*
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    edited December 2011
    Haha, I like the "Mom and Dad" response.  I would just get him a plate of pizza with a little side of the tenderloin!  But I laughed at the "can we bring our daughter?".  Like you are throwing a birthday party or something.  People amaze me...
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  • aprillm730aprillm730
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know why this makes my stomach hurt when I read when you guys post things like this...... I don't know if it's fear or anger! ha!
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  • FrancesvmFrancesvm
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    edited December 2011
    Aprillm730: I think it's fear....I'm fearful after reading everyones horror stories :o(
    I had never even given it a thought before......although I have been guilty of bringing a gilfriend as my date when I wasn't dating anyone and probably could have just gone alone .... oops!
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  • emily1004emily1004 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm not a fan of kids at weddings, but that's the way my FI's family does it. There will only be 8 of them at the wedding and no one is under 8, so I think it will be okay. But I feel your pain. I've had people ask if they can bring their friend. (um not a date, a friend?!) My problem, my rsvp date is tomorrow, and we still haven't heard from 70 people!!!
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  • stebbe81stebbe81
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    edited December 2011
    I like the Dad's RSVP :)

    I too am a kid hater.  It grates my nerves that my FSIL is bringing her 7 month old TEETHING baby to our wedding.  Even though its our wedding I lost that fight.  
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  • shadow0304shadow0304
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    edited December 2011
    I'm so glad I have you all who "get it" because I did feel like a "kid hater" when I said, "Uh no they're not bringing their additional daughter." FI also has a friend who is asking if they can bring their 1 yr old.. um, sorry, if i let them, then I have to let everyone. "But they don't live close to either set of parents to watch her..." Why is this now my problem that they don't have other babysitting options?? I am a kid hater. ha!

    Francesvm: i've done that too (bring a girl friend as my date) and now going thru this process, I wonder if that was in bad taste!

    Emily: 70 haven't responded and the date is today?! Good lord I fear that too.

    FI's dad is hilarious and I would entertain the pizza idea just because he's a goof.
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  • emily1004emily1004 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so angry right now. I just got a message from one of my FI's friend from college. He wants to bring his new girlfriend, and his ex girlfriend (who is a friend of mine) will be there. What the h*ll are people thinking!!! No, you can't bring your new girlfriend! 
    I just can't believe people, but if you've never planned a wedding before I guess you don't know proper etiquette.
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  • Lakerchic7272Lakerchic7272 member
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    edited December 2011
    Haha. My uncle informed me tonight that he really hopes his daugter brings her new boyfriends as a date.  I guess I have to plus one for her now, because I hadn't planned on it. She passes through boys like no tommorow.
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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011

    I can't say I feel your pain, because our invites are SO far off. In our case, it pays to get married much later in life, because all my fiance's nieces and nephews are teens, and his grandchildren will be our flower girl & ring bearer.

    I'm already planning on the fact that my daughter will bring a friend to have a better time.

    It has to be hard to be thought of as a "child hater", because people just don't get it. I think an appropriate response is "Do you take your children out when you go on an expensive date night, with dinner costing over $100, you are drinking and dancing, and you won't be home until after midnight?". I'd bet in most cases the answer is "no".


    Good luck to you all.

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  • MeganH2010MeganH2010
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    edited December 2011
    I just got an RSVP from a distant relative - they have 4 children all my age or older but they were not included on the invitation. The inviation was specifically addressed to Mr and Mrs. So and So. They proceded to write in their daughter and he new FI. I didn't know they were engaged until my mom told me she got a Save the Date in the mail. Now i'm super annoyed because I know they are coming just to stalk my wedding.....  and I didn't get a save the date! So they are coming to my wedding univited, and i'm not invited to theirs....seriously?!

    I'm tossing around the idea of telling them their daugher and her new FI are not invited and we just don't have room - which is actually true.....
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  • ladysunkissedladysunkissed
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://detroit.weddings.com/Sites/weddings/Pages/main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_here-comes-rsvp-nonsense-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:6a9d58af-8c1f-4d4d-a616-49bd465cf0e7Post:1f74842e-c256-4574-9f2a-0db1737e3cf2">Re: Here comes some RSVP nonsense... (PIP)</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't know why this makes my stomach hurt when I read when you guys post things like this...... I don't know if it's fear or anger! ha!
    Posted by aprillm730[/QUOTE]

    Me too! We can only fit 120 in our ballroom and our guest list is 131. I've already had some of FI's friends ask if they can bring their newborns. I don't have a problem with that because they are nursing, as long as other guests don't extend it to their entire brood!
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  • JandBFall2010JandBFall2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow I can believe people think that is okay. I really hope this doesn't happen to me.
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  • scarywife1026scarywife1026
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    edited December 2011
    Wow...that's crazy & funny.
    I was lucky that the only guests that had children were my BMs and they didn't even think of it. Well, my MOH brought her lil ones to the ceremony because her middle guy was our ringbearer, but her DH took them home after, which I was fine with. My guest issues were w/ my stepmom inviting her family a week after the RSVP date was due, and didn't have enough invitations to send them. Nevermind that she didn't want them there at first, but backed down when they asked about it.
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  • shadow0304shadow0304
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_here-comes-rsvp-nonsense-pip?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:88Discussion:6a9d58af-8c1f-4d4d-a616-49bd465cf0e7Post:b90d7762-90e5-460f-8785-63ebddad2c26">Re: Here comes some RSVP nonsense... (PIP)</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just got an RSVP from a distant relative - they have 4 children all my age or older but they were not included on the invitation. The inviation was specifically addressed to Mr and Mrs. So and So. They proceded to write in their daughter and he new FI. I didn't know they were engaged until my mom told me she got a Save the Date in the mail. Now i'm super annoyed because I know they are coming just to stalk my wedding.....  and I didn't get a save the date! So they are coming to my wedding univited, and i'm not invited to theirs....seriously?! I'm tossing around the idea of telling them their daugher and her new FI are not invited and we just don't have room - which is actually true.....
    Posted by MeganH2010[/QUOTE]

    Wow. That is a lot like Brandi's post with people writing in 4+ names. I would never think to even pull something like that unless I cleared it with them first!!

    And why is it always the randoms that do this? The card I posted is from FI's uncle who a)barely talks to his dad/had a long period of time not talking and b)I thought for sure they wouldn't even come.
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  • MeganH2010MeganH2010
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    edited December 2011
    I have had some very nice people e-mail or call and ask me about bringing children and they've been VERY understanding - they just wanted to clarify, which I can totally appreciate and am happy they asked in the first place. 

    I just can't believe the nerve of some people. You begin to wonder if they've ever planned a wedding themselves.....and then what do you say to them without sounding like a "child hater" or bridezilla....

    It's always the randoms that do this....and then what about the people who RSVP yes, but don't show up...let the saga continue!
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  • markandtiffanymarkandtiffany
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    edited December 2011
    Are you kidding me!?! They would not be coming to my wedding.

    People are beside themselves with rudeness. You can't just go inviting folks to other people's wedding...what nerves.


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  • brobin01brobin01
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    edited December 2011
    uh...let the drama begin for ya!!! LOL I REALLY love the pizza one!!! That cracked me up!
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  • culbycheeseculbycheese
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    edited December 2011
    A guy that I work with that is getting married the weekend after me had an aunt buy plane tickets for 4 kids that were not invited to the wedding then got mad when they were told the kids had to stay home.  And his RSVP says adult only reception.

    The best part is they didn't ask the groom or even the groom's mom if it was ok, they just decided on their own.
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  • shadow0304shadow0304
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    edited December 2011
    Culby: ????!!!!!

    markandtiffany: where are from in NE Ohio? That's where I'm from originally and a lot of my family will be coming from
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