Confessions

AmoroAgain · January 2010

Let's do it up right today folks. None of the namby pamby stuff!

I confess that if I could somehow ensure that my older sister would never be able to have kids, I totally would. She doesn't really need to jack up some kids' life nor should she be able to live off the rest of us when she does it.

crfische · January 2010

I confess that one of my ex boyfriends got a DUI one week ago, and I kind of feel like it's my fault, although I know it's totally unreasonable.

katiewhompus · January 2010

Currently my mil lives with my sil and her husband. They built an inlaw suite onto their house and its working well for them. mil watches the 3 year old while sil/bil work (and they have to work very long hours). Last summer there was some talk about bil's mom coming to live in the in-law suite and my mil moving in with us once we found a house. I felt horrible but told Dh that while I would do it if absolutely necessary, I don't think I would ever get over the fact that I would never have a house to myself. I love my mil but I don't want her (and her 4 cats and 3 dogs who are not potty trained) to move in with us when I've never had a house of my own.

Even thought we just started ttc I'm already getting worried that its not working. It's hard to stay positive when you get such intense disappointment every month

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2010

We'll see if there's enough fabric to have it let out. The sample was actually a little big in my chest, but samples get stretched out. I should have probably gone with the slightly larger/sample size and had it taken in as necessary, but I also need a swift kick in the ass to get me to excercise more.

So Nebb, your husband is also kind of wanting kids? I know FI wants them, and since I've known that for years, it makes me excited about it. But I think if I met someone who didn't want kids I wouldn't be terribly heart broken. Maybe.

beatlesgirl25 · January 2010

Nebb, I had no idea. I'm sorry that happened to you guys. It does sound discouraging, but it sounds like the option could be there to try again. I can see why you wouldn't want to open youself up to that possibility though. Do you think you would reconsider if something else changed in your life?

Brie, that sounds like a fun trip, but I see what you mean about the planning. Hope it works out for you guys.

Nebb · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_confessions-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:88332f77-7b03-4577-9f24-8b9f0292fbdbPost:275ce5b6-5027-41a6-b612-8cf1b4185f33">Re: Confessions</a>:
[QUOTE]Even thought we just started ttc I'm already getting worried that its not working. It's hard to stay positive when you get such intense disappointment every month :(
Posted by katiewhompus[/QUOTE]
Thats exactly what I DONT want. When we were trying, any time anyone found out I hadnt had gotten my period yet (because im stupid and answer if they ask), they would start bugging me that I MUST be pregnant so I should test to find out, and even though you know youre not you still get a little excited and the disappointment is just so frustrating. Id rather just not try at all than feel that disappointment, so I know what you mean.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2010

P2 that is ridiculous. At my company if you are out sick for 3 days+ and can't produce a Dr's note, it is grounds for dismissal.

rhodesign · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_confessions-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:88332f77-7b03-4577-9f24-8b9f0292fbdbPost:6795465c-34f1-42aa-aa62-ce2e5a8163ab">Re: Confessions</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that one of my ex boyfriends got a DUI one week ago, and I kind of feel like it's my fault, although I know it's totally unreasonable.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

oh no! why would you feel you were somehow responsible?

thesuninherhead · January 2010

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[QUOTE]Sun, a scan for what? I hope you are okay! Alix, you look pretty in your picture!
Posted by ricksang[/QUOTE] Sorry Ricks, ran off to get ready for work, but the scan is to investigate the numbness that I experienced the other day (sudden onset, only lasted about ten minutes, mostly on my left side). I had put it down to a migraine (although no headache eventuated and I've never experienced that type of symptom with my migraines before) but the doctor I saw has referred me for a CT, an echo, an ecg and some sort of ultrasound on the arteries in my neck, and then wants me to see a neurologist in a couple of weeks to get his opinion. She also wants me to take half an aspirin a day to thin my blood, and to discontinue the pill (yaz) immediately. She said that these symptoms could be indicative of a transient ischaemic attack so I really need to undergo the tests and see the neurologist. I know that I have to get the tests done, but I feel silly because I've had SO many scans etc (in diagnosing previous issues like arthritis and those breast lumps I found) of late and it makes me feel like I'm being ridiculous for undergoing more, especially given that overall I feel fairly healthy.

tlv204 · January 2010

Jess- I have a friend like that also, who is the most critical/picky person ever about really stupid stuff, but gets all depressed when I talk about H. We kind of just avoid both subjects now, and when we're talking about other stuff everything is fine. It doesn't help though that one of those people she was being all critical about (AFTER sleeping with him several times) was my cousin, and she still manages to piss me off talking about him even though their thing has been over for several months.

AlexiaANDRobert · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_confessions-14?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:88332f77-7b03-4577-9f24-8b9f0292fbdbPost:630fc899-30ca-4c18-94c2-c3ac5b0db1bb">Re: Confessions</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, I confess that I fired an employee today. I've never done it, I only have a handfull of staff that work "below" me. He hasn't been to work for 6 weeks. I kept giving him the benefit of the doubt, first of all he said he had the swine flu, then it was just a stomache bug, and then he had a cancer scare, and now he has emphesema, but I saw him buying cigarettes yesterday. I asked him for a Doctor's note after the first week. He says he has them at home, but has been too ill to bring them in. I aksed him to phone his doctor and have his doctor fax them in. He failed to do so. I noted his personnell file and went on with it. I called him this morning to see if I could stop by to pick up the notes, and he's misplaced them. I asked him not to come in to work any longer, and notified him that he was no longer employed with our company. What a loser.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

Totally justfiable reason to fire someone. Guy sounds like a sketchball.

AmoroAgain · January 2010

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[QUOTE]Ok, I confess that I fired an employee today. I've never done it, I only have a handfull of staff that work "below" me. He hasn't been to work for 6 weeks. I kept giving him the benefit of the doubt, first of all he said he had the swine flu, then it was just a stomache bug, and then he had a cancer scare, and now he has emphesema, but I saw him buying cigarettes yesterday. I asked him for a Doctor's note after the first week. He says he has them at home, but has been too ill to bring them in. I aksed him to phone his doctor and have his doctor fax them in. He failed to do so. I noted his personnell file and went on with it. I called him this morning to see if I could stop by to pick up the notes, and he's misplaced them. I asked him not to come in to work any longer, and notified him that he was no longer employed with our company. What a loser.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

You're way nicer than I would have been. He would have been gone after the first week if he worked for me.

TheSaltyPeanut · January 2010

1. I'm ridiculously excited for "The Pregnancy Pact" on Lifetime.

2. I feel terrible. This morning when I was getting up, I swung my legs over the side of the bad. I didn't even see Pot Roast (my little black cat) snuggled up at the foot of the bed. Needless to say, P.Roast got a roundhouse kick to the side of his face. Hard. He ran under the bed and sneezed for about a minute. He wouldn't come out and I was late to work because of it.

3. I'm eating everything in site. Seriously, I am so unmotivated to get back to the gym and I feel disgusting! I'm going to start P90x again this week so I'm hoping that that gets me out of my rut!

Nebb · January 2010

Well at this point its just not financially possible. Im unemployed and we have a lot of debt we need to pay down, we eventually want to buy a house and get settled somewhere on our own, so until all of that is done the topic isnt even being considered. I think my husband is more indifferent to kids than anything right now, Ive instilled the "kids suck, lets never have them" into his head for the last year and a half, so if asked he would say he doesnt want them. I dont know if thats truly how he feels or not. I know right now he is focused on his art career so I dont think he would want to right now anyways. He was all for it when we were trying, but i think i just talked him out of it. Maybe when were older and more stable, im only 26 and hes 28, so were still young.

We joke that we dont "need" to have kids, his sister will just pop out enough to make up for the ones we dont have so it doesnt matter. Thats mean of us though (she is constantly getting knocked up).

salt78 · January 2010

P2 - I don't blame you. That guy deserved to lose his job.

thesuninherhead · January 2010

Aww Nebb, I'm sorry to read that you've gone through that and have no answers as to why. How frustrating/disappointing for you guys. Hopefully when you and your H feel ready, you'll be able to find a doctor who can get to the bottom of it.

crfische · January 2010

Well...

He and I get along really well, and we have remained good friends post breakup. Although about 6 months ago or so, he starts saying he loves me, and I'm the only one he ever has and ever will love. I told him he couldn't say shiit like that, and I kind of just...ended the friendship after he started EVERY conversation we had with "So, are you divorced yet?"

No, effer, I'm not and I told you where I stand and you aren't respecting that, so yeah. Peace out. I didn't talk to him for 6 months.

Last monday, he emails me out of the blue asks how I'm doing. It was a very civil email. I email back saying life is good, blah, blah, blah. He wrote and said his life was going very well and he just wanted to check in.

He got a DUI that night which is probably TOTALLY unrelated to the email sending, but man. the timing was just weird.

tlv204 · January 2010

Another (kind of lame) confession: I have somehow managed to gain 3 lbs since I started working out 2 weeks ago. I have been going almost every day, and despite the fact that I literally just started and am in terrible shape, I feel like a big fat failure already, which does not bode well for my mental state in doing this the healthy way. Also, I unfortunately seem to have picked a gym filled with only very skinny people, which sucks monkey balls.

Nebb · January 2010

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[QUOTE]Another (kind of lame) confession: I have somehow managed to gain 3 lbs since I started working out 2 weeks ago. I have been going almost every day, and despite the fact that I literally just started and am in terrible shape, I feel like a big fat failure already, which does not bode well for my mental state in doing this the healthy way. Also, I unfortunately seem to have picked a gym filled with only very skinny people, which sucks monkey balls.
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]
Keep going. There are number of reasons why this might have happened, but you need to keep going. I never weigh in the day after a hard work out because I always weigh more because of water/etc retention in my muscles. It could also have to do with what you ate the night before and how that is effecting you. It will even itself out.

beatlesgirl25 · January 2010

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[QUOTE]Well... He and I get along really well, and we have remained good friends post breakup. Although about 6 months ago or so, he starts saying he loves me, and I'm the only one he ever has and ever will love. I told him he couldn't say shiit like that, and I kind of just...ended the friendship after he started EVERY conversation we had with "So, are you divorced yet?" No, effer, I'm not and I told you where I stand and you aren't respecting that, so yeah. Peace out. I didn't talk to him for 6 months. Last monday, he emails me out of the blue asks how I'm doing. It was a very civil email. I email back saying life is good, blah, blah, blah. He wrote and said his life was going very well and he just wanted to check in. He got a DUI that night which is probably TOTALLY unrelated to the email sending, but man. the timing was just weird.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

That is a weird (possible) coincidence, but I'm sure you of all people understand that you cannot accept responsbility for his poor decisions. That's too bad that he didn't seem as able to maintain a platonic friendship between you two post-breakup.

katiewhompus · January 2010

The "are you pregnant yet" is now on the same par as "any news on the house?" You know what, how about I'll tell you if there's any good news in my life, and otherwise just keep your mouth shut? (you guys are still allowed to ask since you might miss a post or something)

Brie2010 · January 2010

Update: we just booked the cruise. Phew.

tlv204 · January 2010

Thanks Nebb

I know that logically, I'm just going to blame my parents and video games for the whole instant gratification expectation thing. I wanna be hot NOW!

beatlesgirl25 · January 2010

Yay brie!

crfische · January 2010

Yay, Brie!

Beatles, we DID for 8 years we had a great relationship. He'd hung out with me and scott, etc. It got a little different after I got married, and then off the deep end 6 months ago around his 30th birthday.

SwedishChick2011 · January 2010

ggmae - Sorry, way late on answering your question. I had to run to a meeting. We discussed kids before we got married and agreed that we'd plan on having kids. I'm just getting major cold feet about it. I've never had much in the way of maternal instincts, and I've always been afraid of getting pregnant and the responsibility of kids, so I should have known I'd feel this way.

beatlesgirl25 · January 2010

Oh, that's kinda sad then fishy. Sounds like he's having trouble with some big transitions. I hope he's okay and doesn't put himself in danger like that again.

rhodesign · January 2010

Fishy--poor timing coincidentally, but that's it. You broke with him how long ago? you're now married--it's all on him now to get over it.

you heartbreaker you...

For those TTC and dealing with people's questions--are you telling people when you ttc or do people just ask? Either way it's pretty rude I think to hound someone during that time, or to do it even if you don't know they're trying.

crfische · January 2010

SERIOUSLY, 2001. GET OVER IT DUDE.

I think I feel the guilt because he's a teacher, it's his second DUI, and he is (was, now) a coach and he's probably losing his job and will never be allowed to coach again. Eep.

pristinedemon · January 2010

My confession - one of my exes (with whom things ended VERY badly...he basically fucked me over completely) lives in La Canada Flintridge, which was the main area affected by the Station Fire this past summer. For those of you not in California, it was a really bad fire which caused a TON of destruction and basically burned all summer long. He lived on the main street that was SUPER damaged because it overlooked a cliff - this very street was even featured on the news. When I heard about it, I couldn't help but feel really, really giddy.

katiewhompus · January 2010

Rho, if someone asks directly if we are trying I'll tell them, but otherwise its none of their business in my eyes.

TLV - I know it seems hard but keep going. My first week I started my weight loss program I gained 2 pounds, then started losing them. Now I'm stuck again. I found a website that has helped keep me going. Let me know if you want it

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