never thought this would be a concern!

kmleon83 · August 2012

for the most part, everything's been smooth sailing. we're getting down to the wire now so i'm sure some stuff will pop that'll utterly stress me out..like this gem..

when your fiance calls you at midnight to tell you he's in the hospital after getting jumped at a bar and is now missing his front teeth.. to which my response was "UUUHHH WHAT? I CAN'T."

after making sure he is perfectly fine (save for his missing teeth) and finding out what happened, i got a little bridezilla-y and reminded him the wedding is less than 6 weeks away so he better work on getting some fake teeth. i apologized after i heard myself but he laughed and said he was taking care of it. (tell me i'm not the only one who would be freaking out about her fiance missing teeth 5 weeks before their wedding! hahaha)

he was with one of his friends (the trainwreck, i call him) when this happened and whenever he hangs out with him, bad things happen. and they strangely always involve trips to a hospital. i would be perfectly fine uninviting this friend but i guess that's rude, huh?

so, anyone having outrageous things happen, things you never thought of in a million years, when we are all mere weeks away from wedded "bliss"?

calindi · August 2012

Holy cow, yeah, I'd be calling in a good dentist STAT! You want those replaced, you want them replaced well, and you want them replaced well QUICKLY!

Sounds like you have a good sense of humor about the whole thing, though!

I'd have an honest conversation with him at some point about whether hanging out with this person in certain settings - i.e. where alcohol is involved - is a good idea. Ultimately, I don't think you can ask him NOT to be friends with this person, and you definitely can't un-invite them, but limiting the friendship to a safe boundary would probably be in his best interest.

MrsBassPlaya · August 2012

Wow! Well, you're handling this better than I would be. I hope your FI ends up getting some very nice teeth for the wedding, and I hope he starts hanging out with this friend less often. I wouldn't uninvite him to the wedding. Hopefully with everyone there, he won't get into any kind of terrible situation. My FI has some friends like that who we invited, but I'm not too worried. Hopefully they'll behave at the wedding. I hope this time passes briskly and must less stressfully for you.

My biggest surprise right now is that I'm worried about being preggo. I took a test this morning and it was negative, but my body is definitely acting like I am. It all started about a week ago when my boobs grew an entire cup size within like 2 days. VERY noticeable, especially to FI who was quite excited about it. Now my nipples are getting darker, and last night I was sitting and watching TV, when I just randomly threw up. I'm terrible about keeping track of my period, but either it's due any day now or I'm late. I'm not really sure cause I didn't write it down. So I'm hoping that this is just some weird stress and PMS situaion and not that I took the test too early and it's a false negative. I'm gonna be so pissed if I'm at an AI for my honemoon and I can't drink!

gabriel0915 · August 2012

I'd probably laugh just a little. Randomly enough, FI actually has a fake front tooth from it being kicked out at work and a few months ago something went wrong and it kept falling out. He is so self conscious and most people don't know that he has one. The best part (to me) was that he had to use toothpaste at work to keep it in before he could get to the dentist. I laughed my butt off. When it comes out (which is super rare) he has this little tooth nub that they had to file down. I love it because it just shows my slightly egotistical FI that he's most definitely, not perfect lol.

The tooth is an easy fix and you're handleing it really well. His friend sounds like a mess and maybe he's not the right person for FI to be around, especially so close to the wedding.

Katiesue04 · August 2012

I would have gone ape sh*ton him! I went ape sh*t on my FI when he lost his glasses in the bottom of the lake during his bachelor party. Thankfully he came home in one piece, men are so fricken stupid!

doublenn · August 2012

Honestly, having my fiance call me at midnight to tell me that he's missing teeth due to getting jumped at a bar would cause me to FREAK OUT on him regardless if we were close to the wedding or not. That friend must be quite the bad influence!

kmleon83 · August 2012

i started to tell him it's probably in his own best interest not to hang out with the trainwreck anymore. i think he's only a last minute resort friend, he hangs with him when no one else is around but i'd rather FI do things solo than with this kid. i'm just HOPING with the presence of their other friends, he will be able to control himself at the wedding.

i don't know what kind of gap in his mouth to expect when i get home from work but i'm sure it'll get some giggles from me!

mrsbassplaya, there have been a few times where i've been concerned about being pregnant! experienced simliar symptoms to yours, but i think it was the over-enthusiastic hypochondriac in me and my wild imagination because it wound up not being true.

calindi · August 2012

mrsbassplaya, you aren't alone! I had a big scare last month - my period was 4 days late, though I was testing negative, I was convinced I was pregnant until I finally got my period! Big swollen boobs, nausea, etc. I'm not sure what it is about weddings, but it tends to cause a lot of false pregnancy symptoms in a lot of women I know. Hoping you get pregnant at or after the AI, and not before!

volleygurl0306 · August 2012

I had a scare back at the end of February. I skipped completely that month so didn't feel better until 4 weeks later! Not being able to drink at the wedding was a concern...being 6 months pregnant and huge was a bigger concern. At least you won't be showing (trying to be positive if the preggers test turns out to be positive too).

But, it is most likely stress. Before I took the test (FI and I were long distance and I was freaked to take it alone so I waited until I was a week late to take it with him...it was agonizing) I thought about all the changes I had made. FI and I had been apart 2 weeks so I wasn't having sex (hormone related). I had started working out more and eating better (the reverse of either of these can impact it too). I also was under a lot of stress with juggling work, midterms at school, and the wedding. A lot throws your period so take another test in a few days to be sure if you don't get it. Two falses a few days apart is most likely accurate.

smartlypretty · August 2012

Yeah, this happened to me also in December. I skipped an ENTIRE month, gained 5 pounds, felt like crap, etc. I still have no clue what happened with that.

vbjoanna · August 2012

OP, I think I would have had the same reaction! Your post made me laugh out loud, and I think you're handling it quite well. It wouldn't be funny much closer to the wedding date though!

I'm a little concerned that my FI's friends are planning bachelor activities for the day before the wedding, and they involve athletic things my FI hasn't done in 6 months but never seems to realize that time passes and he's not young or that in shape any more! The chances my FI will be drunk for the rehearsal are not too high, but his chance of injury is better than 50/50, I'd say. I told the organizer of said events that my FI is not allowed to be too stiff/sore to put the ring on my finger or carry me across the threshold the next day! I will be hoping that FI takes to heart the only rule we really have -- do not hurt my fiance! He's done quite well since it was instituted, so I'm hoping he continues to hear my sweet voice reminding him that he's not the only person who cares about his well-being, dammit! ; )

calindi · August 2012

Take the test first thing tomorrow - they say the first pee of the day is most accurate. If it says no still, just be patient and wait. Every week that you're late, take another test. It's all you can do!

kmleon83 · August 2012

UPDATE! luckily, his tooth is only chipped! i mean, that's bad enough but at least it's not entirely missing! and while i'm feeling sympathetic to my guy, i couldn't help but laugh a little when he walked in and go "really? REALLY?!"

MEN!

jamie5482 · August 2012

Oh, wow, I definitely would have flipped! Good thing his tooth is only chipped! I freaked out last night because FI's LASIK surgery has been moved for the 3rd time. Now it's barely a week before the wedding instead of Aug 15th! So I guess FI has to be careful not to be splashed with any water for our first few days in Hawaii. I was mostly mad because I blocked time off of work to take him and now I have to rearrange my schedule. Plus they haven't given him a single reason for all of the reschedules... This was originally supposed to happen in June! I guess I shouldn't be surprised anymore at this point since we are dealing with the military after all and just be grateful he is able to get his eyes fixed at all!

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