I'm having my wedding at the Crystal Ballroom at the Radisson of Freehold. I know their prices start at $99 and they give a discount for certain off-season days/months. I'm not sure how many people you have though - $10k for everything may be hard to do. There is also the Quality Inn and Ramada in Toms River - they are owned by the same owners as the Radisson, but I'm not sure of their prices.
I was negotiating via e-mail with the Hasbrouck Heights Hilton, and I got them down to $90pp (tax and gratuity included).
How many people are you looking to host? You could host about 50-60 people for these prices that people are listing, but if you want to host more than that, then you may want to look into something like a cocktail reception with hors d'oeuvres only, or a desserts-only reception, or a lunch/brunch. Or do a fun, laid-back reception with pizza, burgers, barbecue, etc.
Re: wedding on a budget
How many people are you looking to host? You could host about 50-60 people for these prices that people are listing, but if you want to host more than that, then you may want to look into something like a cocktail reception with hors d'oeuvres only, or a desserts-only reception, or a lunch/brunch. Or do a fun, laid-back reception with pizza, burgers, barbecue, etc.