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court115 · March 2012

How many of you have a DOC? Our hotel package gave us one for the reception but I don't have one for the church. Our church offers one but it's optional. At first I didn't think it was necessary but the more I think about it, I'm thinking that maybe it is.

AurorasEnvy · March 2012

We have a DOC we hired independently of our venues. All I read on TK from brides that had one was that it was the best money they spent, and I've read a lot of brides wished they had one after the fact.

She has been awesome so far in so many ways, and maybe this is premature but I am sure that after the wedding is over that I am going to also be in agreement that it was the best wedding money I spent!

dori851 · March 2012

My mom's best friend is acting as our DOC for the reception site. But, we do have one for the church that the church provided for us!

mdoyle1217 · March 2012

My mom got a woman she works with to do my reception, her son is getting married in the fall and she really wanted to be in the "middle" of one and help out, so when we meet next month, I'm going to give her my expectations and how I want everything to look and have her make it happen! As far as the church, the pastors wife usually takes care of most of the coordinating.

amanda14lynne · March 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>My mom's best friend is acting as our DOC for the reception site</strong>. But, we do have one for the church that the church provided for us!
Posted by dori851[/QUOTE]

...but she is our DOC for the wedding and reception. She has actually been DOC for several weddings prior to mine. She also happens to work in the same building as I do, so I can easily run across the hall and bounce ideas off of her. She has been great! I just can't imagine not having someone "in charge" to keep things flowing and make sure we stay on time!

comeongetdown · March 2012

is DOC director of ceremony?

working off of context clues... my FMIL's friend will be coordinating our ceremony (she's a preacher's wife so she's done this a bunch) and our caterer is acting as coordinator for our reception.

whatever you choose to do, DON'T hand our YOUR cell phone number as the contact, put someone you trust in charge of communicating things to the vendors. I'm giving the MOB & MOG cell phone numbers out as the day-of contact.

comeongetdown · March 2012

oh... day of coordinator... i get it..

anyway, i think TK ate my reply, so i'll type it up again...

my FMIL's friend is coordinating our ceremony and our caterer is acting as our coordinator for the reception. luckily the caterer, venue, baker and photographer all work together A LOT so they already work well together and are comfortable with each other.

also, don't give our your cell number as the day-of contact. delegate that to someone you trust. i'm giving MOB & MOG cell numbers out as the day-of contact for vendors & guest questions.

toothpastechica · March 2012

We are not...having said that I have an aunt who knows all the vendors, who loves to organize and who will be bored if shes not doing anything, so she is probably going to end up filling this role natuarally (shes already asking about if she should bring the card box, what the seating arrangments are, if she should come help set up the church etc.....)

RivieraBound · March 2012

I didnt think I needed one, but now that I have one I don't know how i could do it without her! She will be in charge of spacing, corrdinating music, letting people know when it is time to start, etc. I have seen people that don't use one and their weddings were fine, but for my own piece of mind, I am glad I have her.

FutureMrsW9 · March 2012

We hired one and will also have a Maitre D provided by the venue. I 110% agree that it's been the best money that I've spent. She's been a lot more than a DOC, she came to our meeting with the Maitre D this weekend to go over logistics, menu choices, linen selections, and many many other details. I wanted there to be someone who was unbiased toward the hotel and would make sure my other "stuff" was in order and set up EXACTLY how I want it. A lot of times the Maitre D only cares about the food and service, but not so much about the other little things and details that you spent months and money buying and coordinating to make your day special. I highlly recommend it, it'll be worth every penny and then some.

dland0201 · March 2012

Our venue came with one for a charge of course. She is very helpful and I feel she will take a lot of day of stress away.

mancila60 · March 2012

We don't have one BUT one of my BM's is going to be incharge of stuff with the Church before everything starts. And then our florist (family friend) will handle everything after that.

mandi921vh · March 2012

We have a DOC at our reception venue who will set up everything! We won't need to do anything. She comes with the venue. For our ceremony there will be a woman on site while we use the church but I wouldn't call her a DOC. The florist will deliver the flowers and put them where they need to go.

Cackle6 · March 2012

I'm a DOC, so I'm a bit biased, but every wedding I've worked the bride has been so thankful to not have to do anything herself on her big day! If you have it in your budget, I highly reccommend it. It will save you lots of stress and time on your wedding day.

That being said, I'm doing my own reception set up and acting as the point of contact up until around 3 PM on my day because I'm anal retentive like that, lol. I do have a friend who will act as the DOC from 3 PM until the beginning of the reception. I mainly need her there to call out the picture list so we get through the formal pictures quickly. I did hire a crew to do the ceremoy set up and the reception clean up so that none of my family or friends has to life a finger though. If you're not going to get a DOC, at least hire a clean up crew to come in and pack up all your stuff if your venue doesn't provide that service.

ETA: I just re-read OP's post - one of the things I do at the ceremony that the bridal party is always thankful for that some people don't think of is that I stand at the back and tell them when to start walking down the aisle. It sounds simple, but some girls have never been in a wedding before and get nervous, and are happy there is someone there to tell them when to go and remind them to walk slowly!

I also close the doors right before the bride walks down (if she wants, which most do) and then open when her music starts. And my favorite part - straightening out her train right before she starts walking.

bpphoto785 · March 2012

Our venue comes with one and she's FABULOUS!! We had looked into one but she does so much and is so awesome we decided against it. If we didn't have her I definitely would have hired one! I'm too much of a worrier/control freak to let things just happen.

court115 · March 2012

Thanks for the responses ladies!

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[QUOTE] ETA: I just re-read OP's post - one of the things I do at the ceremony that the bridal party is always thankful for that some people don't think of is that I stand at the back and tell them when to start walking down the aisle. It sounds simple, but some girls have never been in a wedding before and get nervous, and are happy there is someone there to tell them when to go and remind them to walk slowly! :) I also close the doors right before the bride walks down (if she wants, which most do) and then open when her music starts. And my favorite part - straightening out her train right before she starts walking. :)
Posted by Cackle6[/QUOTE]

I decided to hire the DOC at the church for the reasons stated above. Our DOC at the hotel has been so great that I couldn't imagine not having someone there at the church as well. Just after talking to her once on the phone today, I already feel so much better about the organization of the ceremony.

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