Kids or no kids at the wedding (ceremony & reception)?
FI and i dont have a crazy amount of kids in our families. I'm not opposed to having them there, but another part of me thinks it might be a lil hectic. I'm trully so conflicted.
For those of you who decided to have an "adult only reception," what are your sentiments?
I'm equally interested in hearing from who had/are okay'ing kids at ur big event.
Re: I'm struggling with a decision...
[QUOTE]I am having kids at mine, <strong>culturally we think its important to have kids at events because thats how they learn traditions and who they are</strong>. It'll probbaly be around 20 kids or so at mine. I worry about the cupcake tier and candy bar, LOL. But I told the parents to dress the kids in the wedding colors to try to make them feel more involved.
Posted by pinkcottoncandy7[/QUOTE]
I definitely agree with that. I'm from an African background and i always remeber going to every wedding my family was invited to and there's something abt those memories!!
My venue charges half price for kids. The most we'll have is 15-20 kids.
1. I have seen a wedding video where a baby started crying during the exchanging of vows.
2. Agree with PP, I don't feel comfortable with kids around when wine bottles are on the tables and an open bar
3. I want my guests to feel fully present and engaging with one another. If people are constantly worried about where their kids are I don't feel they will truly relax.
JMHO
We wanted an adult only wedding aside from the kids that were in the wedding. But when we went through our guest list we found that there weren't really that many children among those who were invited. So right now it looks like we will only have maybe 10 children between 5-12 at our wedding plus one of my BM's 5 month old.
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[QUOTE]I am having adult only. <strong>1. I have seen a wedding video where a baby started crying during the exchanging of vows</strong>. 2. Agree with PP, I don't feel comfortable with kids around when wine bottles are on the tables and an open bar 3. I want my guests to feel fully present and engaging with one another. If people are constantly worried about where their kids are I don't feel they will truly relax. JMHO
Posted by Carla1019[/QUOTE]
This right here is my main reason I am having an adult affair.
I do have a few exceptions. His niece who is the flower girl she is 5. The rest of our nieces and nephews who are all at least 13. I have about 8 teens and twenty year olds who are all well behaved and don't need their parents to "watch" them. I will have a table for the "teens and twenty year olds" at the reception. Also in my case I have a HUGE family and everyone has kids except me. I was not willing to take on that extra added expense. Since I have not sent out STDs yet I have "told" my family via facebook to save the date and that this will be an adult only affair. I gave them 10 months to find a babysitter. If they really want to come to the wedding they will find one.
LMAO@ Bluivory - i feel you on the "village" issue. Good thing most of MY aunts and uncles are back home if not it would've been a mad house (it will be when i go home to celebrate with them in Dec).
I pray that whatever decision we make will be fine. I'm honestly leaning more towards having them.
[QUOTE]I am having kids at mine, <strong>culturally we think its important to have kids at events because thats how they learn traditions and who they are.</strong> It'll probbaly be around 20 kids or so at mine. I worry about the cupcake tier and candy bar, LOL. But I told the parents to dress the kids in the wedding colors to try to make them feel more involved.
Posted by pinkcottoncandy7[/QUOTE]
<div>Same here, As I child I was involved in wedding and attended a few. I think I overall learned that marriage is something big and family is always important and the bringing together of two families is a beautiful thing.</div><div>I have so many kids involved in my ceremony it is crazy. I want the kids to learn the depth of marriage and that it is something important to be cherished.</div>
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[QUOTE]We're doing an adult reception because our wedding is black tie and<strong> it's in</strong> <strong>the evening</strong>. We both feel that <strong>that type of environment is not appropriate for</strong> <strong>children</strong>. There will also be an open bar and when you mix that with it being super formal then I think the kids need to stay at home. The only children present will be the two in the wedding party and one of the GM's has a newborn son, which newborns are always the exception to the rule. We are having 2 or 3 "kids" who are 16 and 17, but they have older siblings and I know they'll be okay. We mostly just said no to the really little ones. When people ask us why we're not allowing children, I always say, imagine if your job was having a black tie gala, would you bring your child? In our eyes, it's the same thing. If we were having an afternoon wedding that was more laid back, then that's a whole different story.
Posted by kiyamurph[/QUOTE]
Same here!
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