I need your opinion

jaycare2012 · April 2012

Hey guys,

I have a question related to inviting our wedding co-ordinator and priest to our rehearsal dinner.

I am wondering if I am supposed to invite them to the rehearsal dinner even if I am already having them at the reception. Should it be both or one or the other?

HELP

QueerFemme · April 2012

I think anyone that is at at the rehearsal should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. They both may decline, but I think they should be invited anyway.

celticmyss · April 2012

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[QUOTE]I think anyone that is at at the rehearsal should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. They both may decline, but I think they should be invited anyway.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

<div>I completely agree. </div>

jessa1228 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]I think anyone that is at at the rehearsal should be invited to the rehearsal dinner. They both may decline, but I think they should be invited anyway.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

<div>Ditto.</div>

bridalmomma · April 2012

Ditto PP, also our DOC is coming so she knows who the "key" people are.

jamie5482 · April 2012

I had not even thought about this yet so I'm glad you asked! I agree, it makes the most sense to invite both of them to the rehearsal dinner.

jaycare2012 · April 2012

i think some of you are missing what i mean... I do intend on inviting the wedding co-ordinator AND the priest...im asking whether i should invite both of them to the rehearsal AND the reception, or just the rehearsal.

ejheart · April 2012

I would say that you should invite them to both the rehearsal AND the reception. I mean, wouldn't the coordinator be involved in the reception anyway? I would assume that he/she would be. As for the priest, I think it would just be polite. I'm guessing he won't want to party it up, but he may enjoy the meal (if you are having one).

jaycare2012 · April 2012

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[QUOTE]I would say that you should invite them to both the rehearsal AND the reception. I mean, wouldn't the coordinator be involved in the reception anyway? I would assume that he/she would be. As for the priest, I think it would just be polite. I'm guessing he won't want to party it up, but he may enjoy the meal (if you are having one).
Posted by ejheart[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>The wedding co-ordinator is actually from the church and is only helping with the ceremony, not the reception. I am doing that all by myself with some of the wedding party.</div><div>
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BMcLeodTeam · April 2012

If you are expecting them to attend the rehearsal (which I am guessing you are lol) then they should be invited to the rehearsal dinner.
As for the wedding, this I suppose depends. I personally will be inviting our Pastor to the reception, I see it as a way of thanking him for his involvement in our day. Its a little different for me with the Coordinator, as she is working the reception as well, so its a given she'd be there. I think it would be a nice way to thank her though. I don't picture either of them 'partying it up' but I think they'd enjoy the dinner

kellycatalo · April 2012

i am inviting my priest to the rehearsal(he has to be there for that), rehearsal dinner, and reception. My wedding coordinator is from the reception hall, so she won't be at the ceremony. She will obviously be at the reception because she has to run everything, so she can't actually sit and eat with everyone. I asked if we needed to provide her vendor meal, and she said no.

mamameech · April 2012

My DOC asked to be at the rehearsal so that she can mingle with the family so that they aren't all wondering who this strange lady is running around with our things the day of the wedding LOL
We are def inviting Pastor too, but we are just doing drinks/appetizers at the hotel pub seeing as it's just about a dozen people.

Trins · April 2012

I would at least give them the option. I had the same questions regarding my photographer and the reception meal, we aren't having a real officiant - just a friend in the wedding party - and no wedding coordinator or dj so we didn't have to worry about them. I gave my photog the option and she said she asks her clients not to include her or her assistant in meals because she likes to use that time to take a breather and do some quick editing.

ErinW1912 · April 2012

We do not have DOC that is my freinds we did not see the need for one. Our pastor is invited to both rehersal and reception. they are family freinds so him and his wife are both invited especially since it is out of town 3 hours away and rehersal is the day before the wedding we thought it only fair. In his contract it says he does not come to rehersal dinner and may or may not stay for reception depending on time but since he is traveling so far and knows us really well he is coming to both and his wife will probably come as well.

DirtyWater · April 2012

Mine told us not to waste the money on invites for them, because he doesnt go to any, he said he is there to do a job and get paid and then he's off.

ejheart · April 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I need your opinion : The wedding co-ordinator is actually from the church and is only helping with the ceremony, not the reception. I am doing that all by myself with some of the wedding party.
Posted by jaycare2012[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ooh, gotcha. Sorry, I misunderstood. In this case, I don't think you need to invite him/her to the reception (unless you just want to or he/she is a family friend or something). If she just works for the church then maybe you could get her a small gift to serve as a token of your appreciation.

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