What went wrong on your day?

shoegal715 · February 2010

I'm sure this question has been asked 100 times, but I don't know how to get the search to work properly.

Maybe I have too much time on my hands, but sometimes I worry about rain. I know it's stupid because it's the one thing I can't control, but I'm getting married outside by the water and rain would just kill it.

I'm also worried about people not having a good time, the food being bad, and no one getting up to dance. Other than that, I don't care what happens.

What went wrong on your day?

JDechen · February 2010

I had my entire wedding outside and was so worried about the weather-- do yourself a favor and don't check the forecast until the day of, maybe the day before because it will change literally every day and drive you crazy. I was worried about that, about tripping down the aisle, about crying the whole time, the music, whether the seating arrangements were ok-- lots of things.

Here's what actually went wrong:
-One of our groomsmen's wife starting going into labor the morning of (we used an usher to step in and everything was fine)
-My bussel broke within 5 minutes (my wedding planner fixed it with safety pins and it was fine)
-I cut my foot (my wedding planner had a bandaid and nothing happened to my shoes or dress)
-Our pictures took longer than they were supposed to and we missed most of our cocktail hour.

That was it! Just relax- people will have a good time and you will definitely have one and will be so caught up in the day and blissfully happy that you won't even notice the 1,001 things that you were worried about.

tiffgriffin7 · February 2010

Good question! I tend to worry about things I can't control too.

The weather is my biggest worry - having an outdoor wedding and while we have a back-up its just not the same.

Good advice on not checking the weather. I will probably still do it but its a good idea to keep in mind...

kmm2150 · February 2010

-Groom was really sick, but toughed it out on adrenaline and nerves.
-Our bouquets were wrong - not horrible, but not really what I wanted. no one but me noticed. :-D
-they didn't play our intro song for the wedding party coming in. No one but us knew.
-We didn't ever get a picture with boths sides of the whole family - all the grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc.

No disasters, just little things. It rained ALL WEEK, and ALL the following week, but we had sun. Nothin' you can do about it though!

Jatalians · February 2010

OMG... I totally ave all the above fears u guys mention,,,, My ceremony is outside in a beautiful garden with man-made falls and natural flowers so i won't ave flowers except for isle runners... If it rains we have plans to move it inside but i think it would be a dry look. Also for pic reasons i don't want the rain to come Please God!!!.

JerseyCityJen · February 2010

I planned an outdoor wedding, and guess what? It POURED. We had an indoor plan B, which we ended up using.

And you know what I did? I didn't cry, I didn't stress.....I, (can you believe this)......I MARRIED THE LOVE OF MY LIFE! Which is what the day is about. Listen, unplanned s***'s going to happen, just like life. Should you waste time worrying about things you can't control? Of course not. Should you concentrate on living in the moment of your wedding day and remind yourself you are marrying the love of your life? YES! Dasy, weeks, years from your wedding, your pictures may have faded, your dress will be useless, your guests will no longer remember the meal or music..........but what you will be left with the the man you chose to spend your life with. So don't sweat the other stuff.

Sarah&Nick0530 · March 2010

I haven't gotten married yet, but a girl I went to college with told me her parent's wedding story distaster:

1. After writing invitations, they mailed them at a local post office, which burned down...they had to call people...
2. The husband-to-be went to witdraw money for their honeymoon...and got mugged on the way home...no $$$
3. On the way from the wedding site to the reception, their photographer tripped and fell, the film was exposed...no wedding pictures...
4. Arriving at the reception, they were hit with the news that their baker had mixed up their cake with a kid's birthday cake...they had a purple and green Barney cake...
5. When they got to their hotel that night, the management had accidently double booked their bridal suite, so they had no place to stay...and spent their wedding night at (one of their) grandparents' house...

I think that whatever happens at our wedding, it will be no where as collosal as all those thrown together!! I'm just grateful that our cake lady only makes wedding cakes...NO BARNEY FOR ME!!!! (P.S. the couple is still happily married!)

Karebear852k3 · March 2010

I haven't gotten married yet, but I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding last summer. It was an outdoor ceremony/reception in a tent in one of the MOH's parent's backyard and it POURED (like literally, tornado warnings were in effect in the area lol) and they had skimped on the sides for the tent figuring it wouldn't be needed. The entire wedding was a sloppy, muddy, mess (the bride ruined her dress), but it was so much fun, nobody cared.

Karebear852k3 · March 2010

I haven't gotten married yet, but I was a bridesmaid in my friend's wedding last summer. It was an outdoor ceremony/reception in a tent in one of the MOH's parent's backyard and it POURED (like literally, tornado warnings were in effect in the area lol) and they had skimped on the sides for the tent figuring it wouldn't be needed. The entire wedding was a sloppy, muddy, mess (the bride ruined her dress), but it was so much fun, nobody cared.

cwilt · March 2010

Ok, maybe this is weird but I'm kind of looking forward to the little things that go wrong. They seem to make the day memorable.
Of course, I'd really prefer to have everything go as well as possible, and I'm doing my best to make sure everything is well planned, but I don't mind "rolling with the punches".
I guess I'm thinking what more can I expect with a proposal that was almost sidelined by an unplanned rock concert being at the place my fiance was planning to ask me! I mean, who does that happen too?! ;D I think it's hilarious!

mjbustamante · March 2010

I had the best time on my wedding day. The only thing that I remembered that went wrong, was my bouquet. I wanted peonies and my florist friend showed up crying because the peonies never opened. She made me two alternative bouquets and I went for the pale pink roses. The rest of the flowers were perfect. To tell you the truth, I was soooo excited to get married, it did not matter at all. I wanted to skip down the isle and marry my gorgeous man.
I consciously did not fantasize about the wedding day and imagined it over and over again, so I can be surprised by every moment. Sometimes things can be better in our imagination. Not this time, it was real and perfect.

mm45737 · March 2010

lets see.....

we didnt get a few pics we wanted (i have no pics w/ my only living grandparent, so my mom was pretty pissed).

the venue forgot to put a sign out front pointing everyone to the ceremony site, so everyone proceeded to walk in the front door to our unfinished reception room. ugh.

and probably the thing that made me most mad was my florist. my colors were hot pink and orange- she added a ton of yellow and some purple. just because. she said SHE thought it would look better. and she messed up my cake. she put the wrong flowers on it. oh well. it was still fabulous!!!

toethumbs · March 2010

Ha...this isn't mine, but when my mom and stepdad got married when I was 13, my stepdad forgot his pants. There are pictures of him walking out otherwise fully dressed (complete with top hat) and in boxers - 10 mins before the wedding - frantically trying to find my mom because the venue was 45 minutes away from our apt. So the wedding was very late.

That, and I was supposed to play keyboards when my mom walked down the aisle, and my mom had forgotten to pack the battery when she packed up the keyboard. I don't blame her. We found the CD I had learned from and played it over the speakers, and I faked playing. Bummer for all my practice, but it probably sounded better.

meldreid · March 2010

I'm getting married next month, and I'm a HUGE worrier... So I totally understand where you're coming from worrying about what could go wrong!

It's an old southern wives tale that it's good luck for it to rain on your wedding day.

Today is my parent's 28th wedding anniversary, and they said it POURED on their wedding day.

Lindsay&Eric · March 2010

I dont even want to know what's going to go wrong on my wedding day... but my parents were disaterous...
They were married in July...
1. Tornado during the rehearsal...spent the whole rehearsal in the basement of the church.
2. Rehearsal Diner lost reservations....No rehearsal dinner
3. It was about 90 degrees the wedding day and mom forgot her shoes
4. Dad couldnt get the ring on moms finger (swollen)
5. at the reception, the cake fell over from the heat, only the bottom layer was saved so mom and dad had no top layer to keep...

and they've been happily married for 24 years!

jrksle · March 2010

I've been a bridesmaid in so many weddings, but mine isn't for 6 months. The most memorable glitches along the way:
1. Groomsman forgot his pants. They probably fell off the hanger while getting in the car. He had to trade his jeans for the bride's brother's pants since he was doing the music in an unseen room.
2. Bride underestimated the time it would take to make her own dress and veil. She, her 3 bridesmaids, her mom, and two of her sisters stayed up all night to finish. We were still stitching on the veil as she started walking down the isle. She didn't get all of the lace on that she wanted, so she finished it after the honeymoon, and then took more pictures with the finished dress.

stacelace22 · March 2010

My parents forgot to pick up their marriage license...so an hour before the wedding they were tromping all around their very small town to find someone to unlock the court house....funny. They ended up getting in! 26 years later they are so my role models.

karenvaiden · March 2010

So,
1. it was a snow storm for the second weekend in a row! Half the guests couldnt get there.
2. The musicians were waiting for the bridesmaids to come down the asile to change music, and the bridesmaids were waiting for the musicians so they played the same song twice!
3. The soloist and pianist didn't start off together and they were off on the entire song. The only song with words I had at the wedding. Imagine trying to sing a song to a totally different tune...something like that. I can't even watch on the video.
4. I slipped getting into the limo and scraped my foot and leg to where it was bleeding.
5. The cake was the wrong color, looked like the leaning tower and looked messy.
6. The decorations I had spent so much money (planner) and time on, looked pittiful.

Other than that it was beautiful. A month later I am still eating cake.
Don't worry about rain, I would have prayed for rain....

brookelynpaisley · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_went-wrong-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:12Discussion:43ecc5cd-fc32-490a-a17a-3e48fdf33644Post:3c712719-b92e-45ce-93d7-fc0bb167fcdb">Re: What went wrong on your day?</a>:
[QUOTE]I haven't gotten married yet, but a girl I went to college with told me her <strong>parent's wedding story</strong> distaster: 4. Arriving at the reception, they were hit with the news that their baker had mixed up their cake with a kid's birthday cake...they had a purple and green Barney cake... Posted by Sarah&Nick0530[/QUOTE]

Didn't realize Barney's been around that long.

Our actually wedding day had no major problems. DH's grandmother collapsed at the rehearsal dinner, though, that was the biggest thing. We cut the dinner short (obviously) and she missed the wedding since she was still at the hospital. Also, I initially hated our pictures, it's taken me about 5 months to start appreciating them. Other than that, nothing really went wrong at all.

stevenie8485 · March 2010

Barney came out in 1990, I'm pretty sure. So it's feasible if they got married after 1990. If they got married before, someone is very gullible.

xokristina89 · March 2010

-My Limo got lost on the way to the guy's house & then again on the way to my house.
-My Sister (MOH) tripped on the alter at the church getting our rings (so hillarious, in the video you see the Best Man beside her just rolling his eyes)
-I tried to put the ring on the wrong hand, we just laughed though
-My DJ messed up the introductions to the Reception. He got all of our grandparents mixed up (and called them our parent's names and stuff lol)
-Some place cards were missing, DH's grandma cried because she thought his aunt didn't have a seat (No one told me this until the next week though, they didnt want to worry me)
-All of the bridesmaids dresses "broke" throughout the night from getting stepped on. They had "bunches" in them to show two layers, and by the end of the night they were flat.
-Some of my wedding pictures were messed up by taking them in front of windows (damn photographer couldn't point this out?!)

All in all, it was amazing though. No major mess ups happened. I don't care about the little stuff. You can't stress anything the day of the wedding, because you've done all you can do, and you just gotta let it go.

dalm0m · March 2010

I was late to the church.

We did pictures before but my mom couldn't know b/c she wouldn't approve & her health wouldn't have allowed her to endure.

The limo took me to DH & WP. They arrived ins a seperate car. one limo was supposed to go pick up M&D but he forgot. His delay made me late & anxious. At least DH knew where I was & why I was late so he wasn't concerned. Unfortunatelly he didn't tell the priest who was pissed.

2dBride · March 2010

Umm, let's see:

The friend who was doing the video for us was coming up by plane, and couldn't take her dog with her, so we brought the dog up in our car. However, our friend's plane had mechanical difficulties, so they didn't arrive until sometime after 3:00 in the morning on the day of the wedding. We therefore ended up sharing our bed on the night before our wedding with our dog and our friend's dog, which was just a bit cozy.
The hair and make-up person was a half hour late, which in turn made the ceremony start a half hour late.
We had a bunch of voice recorders we meant to pass out to people who were doing readings and blessings, so that we could get what they said recorded for the video. We forgot to turn them on or pass them out, so they just sat on a chair the whole time.
We meant to have our veils over our faces for the processional, but we forgot.
We had one song for the processional, and a second song for the bridal processional. When we paused to let the bridal processional start, one of the guests thought we had been locked out and rushed back to open the door for us.
The pen for signing the ketubah got mislaid, so we had to ask one of the guests for a pen, right in the middle of the ceremony.
Both my wife and I had "cheat sheets" to enable us to sign our names in Hebrew. However, each of us ended up with a Hebrew signature that went over more than one line. Mine took up two lines, and hers actually went to three.
The rabbi was doing the blessings in Hebrew, and a guest was doing each of the blessings in English. However, at one point the rabbi lost his place, and reversed two of the blessings.
Each of the guests gave us a hug after giving his or her blessing. When my sister went to hug my wife, she accidentally pulled my wife's veil off. My wife tried to put it back, but it fell off a second time, and she just gave up.
When we went to break the glass at the end, it wouldn't break. My wife and I tried together, we tried separately, and even my son tried to help. At one point, the rabbi was picking up the glass and inspecting it to see if someone had put a rock in there instead.
At the luncheon after the ceremony, my sister started a whipped cream fight with my son.
And that doesn't even count the things that went wrong at the reception, three days later. However, we had fun and ended up married, so all was good.

clovonnept · March 2010

LOL So much went wrong at my wedding but I didn't really care!

To start, I woke up 3 days before the wedding with a cold sore...it did not go away, and stands out in all the pictures (though I'm sure the pro pix will be edited).

Once the 10 day weather forecast was available, I started checking my wedding date. DON'T. I drove myself crazy everyday. It said RAIN for 6 days and then it went away. It was a little overcast and chilly (in Florida!) but it worked just fine.

We were 1 1/2 hrs late on hair and makeup, meaning we were rushed right before the ceremony and wound up not being able to do Bridesmaid & Bride pictures until after the wedding (and those were minimal).

Right before the wedding, we went to get the marriage license signed...and realized we had the envelope with the venue invoice, NOT the license. We luckily found it but I definitely had a moment of running through the hotel in my dress frantically trying to figure out where I left it.

The sand on the beach was pretty deep on the day of the wedding, and I wound up tripping down the aisle on the front of my dress. At one point I put my bouquet in my other arm (linked with my dad), and just hiked up part of the dress as we walked clumsily down the aisle.

A helicopter flew across the beach in the middle of the ceremony, but we did get a good laugh out of it.

My MOH didn't hear the announcement for the bouquet toss and she wound up missing it.

There were some other minor things that happened, but overall I have to say, none of this really mattered. I was so excited to marry my husband that I just didn't let it bother me. Because no matter what, nothing would really ruin the day other than not being able to get married, so there was no point stressing.

bpotter1982 · March 2010

Things can always go wrong but the most important thing is that you are getting married. My first wedding(to my high school sweetheart) went totally wrong. Nothing turned out like I wanted it to. I was guilted into using my then husbands preacher from the church that he went to, I was not happy with this at all because I was very against a lot of what his church taught. My mother made my dress and was finishing the hem of it as i was supposed to be walking down the aisle. My best friends got lost and never made it because my then father in law gave then horrible directions. There was not enough food for everyone that came. I also go a plea from my mother right before the ceremony started to please not marry him. As she ws hemming the dress she was saying you can leave and we will take care of everything just DON"T DO IT!!! *LOL* But even with all of that going wrong the most vivid memories I have are from the vows and they were so important to me. So don't sweat the small stuff, you are having the wedding for a specific reason and that reason will be what you remember more than all the little things that didn't go as planned.

sarabear23 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-recap-withdrawal_went-wrong-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:12Discussion:43ecc5cd-fc32-490a-a17a-3e48fdf33644Post:fba6aa9b-9d1d-48eb-a0e7-6412e2b638d1">Re: What went wrong on your day?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What went wrong on your day? : Didn't realize Barney's been around that long. [/QUOTE]

It hasnt.
I dont believe for a second that that story is real.

kelle017 · March 2010

I remember my sister who is 4 years younger watching Barney. She was born in 1989, but I never watched it. So I would say early 90's also.

Googs79 · March 2010

" Arriving at the reception, they were hit with the news that their baker had mixed up their cake with a kid's birthday cake...they had a purple and green Barney cake... "

It is possible that this is a true story if the friend's parents were not married when she was born...not everyone does it the traditional way! Or it's possible that her "parents" are a biological parent and a step-parent. I often refer to my dad and step-dad as my parents...or adopted parents.

Thanks for all of your stories...it makes me feel so much better, and I have to remember to appreciate the day without sweating the small stuff.

nhshorty · March 2010

It was a while ago....but it was crazy....

the limo driver showed up with a super-super stretch vehicle that didn't fit down my road let alone my driveway
the limo driver was wearing a micro mini skirt and a rabbit fur jacket with a black boa....oh and black fishnet stockings with stilettos
on the way from the bride's room to the sanctuary - we had to walk up 4 or 5 stairs - I heard a stumble and rip behind me and saw a bridesmaid with her bodice completely ripped from the skirt of her dress....luckily I had safety pins and tape and we were able to repair it so nobody knew!
traveling to the reception site from the church the limo stopped short to avoid an accident sending all of us flying and champagne spilling everywhere
but...once we got to the reception...it was perfect and the most amazing thing...I didn't stress at any point during the day!

KellieGaspard · March 2010

I just got married this past weekend and I had a few things go wrong, although most of them don't stick out in my mind, except for one.

-Our venue coordinators are some of the most idiotic people in the world. I will never recommend this place to anyone.
-The linens were all wrinkled and STAINED.
-At one point there were 10 tables with 10 chairs out, not what I wanted or needed, so I had a little panic attack when we ran out of tiebacks for the chairs, easily remedied though.
-Our cake was messed up. Our baker usually does a phenomenal job, but on our square cake, the corners were hideous and falling. The decorating was sloppy and our monogram was broken.
-Our venue coordinator forgot to put out a table for the unity candle until about 45 minutes before the cermony actually started. While me and my BM's were out taking pics, she brought a dirty linen out to cover the table and DROPPED my unity candle. It got dirt all over it and a huge dent in it.
-The judge who married us is the owner of the venue, him and his wife do all the catering and coordinating, well he cut our vodka with water and ended getting drunk on the rest of our liquor.
-He also put on our marriage license "Bride: Blaine HISLASTNAME. Groom: Kellie MYLASTNAME." What an idiot.
-We stayed there that night because it was free and we were pretty tipsy. Well the morning after, we were rudely and abruptly woken up at 8AM with the sounds of yelling, laughing and high pitched whistling. The owners were having a crawfish boil and about 60 people were there. We had to scramble to get the remainder of our decorations and had to ask about 10 cars to move so we could get out of the driveway.

An absolute nightmare these people. Although, I am married to my wonderful hubby now, but I wish I could have gotten married at a different place!

Jamilynn627 · March 2010

We mostly had things go wrong around the day. I was hospitalized two weeks before the wedding (on steriods, of all things) so my Mom had to pick up my gown by herself with no final fitting. My husband was hospitalized on the first day of our HM for an allergic reaction.

On the day of our wedding, the weather was terrible. Windy and rainy. Luckily, we had an awesome photographer who still managed to get great photos and a really nice venue that let us climb all over their piano for pics!

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